he divorced his wife many years ago. Over the years he has met one, maybe two women he would have liked to marry. But he did not remarry because it is, or was up until recently, a sin in the Catholic religion. NOW, the Cardinals have changed their view and say remarriage is okay. But now he is old and he resents this change very much. He could have remarried all along.
Does anyone else have similar resentments about this?
2007-10-21 15:31:01 · 14 answers · asked by Prof Fruitcake 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Oh, you can get remarried; but , first you have to cough up $6,000 to $8,000 to have the old one annulled....been that way for some time...my in laws were Catholic..and they had to cough up the dough before they could get married.
By the way, you can have your baby christened by the pope for a cool $1,000,000.....wake up folks and leave it.
2007-10-21 15:40:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
I am a protenstant, so I can't say for sure. I don't believe that there is one correct way of thinking, quite frankly we probably all have it wrong in some way or another. Pope John Paul didn't influence me as a Pope (I'm not Catholic) but he did strike me as a good, just, and thoughtful man. He embraced all Christian and made a personal apology to the Jews for things that had been brought upon them by the church. I miss having stories about men like that, and not the ones about hate and discrimination. Those feelings of superiority, on the part of every Christian denomination and other religion or belief system is simply unjust.
2016-05-24 02:29:51 · answer #2 · answered by hang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The rules have not changed.
All previous marriages, civil or religious, have to be dealt with before someone can be married in the Catholic Church.
The Catholic Church believes that God does not recognize civil divorces.
Jesus said, "Therefore what God has joined together, no human being must separate." (Mark 10:9)
However there may be hope of a declaration of nullity.
The term "annulment" is a misnomer because the Church does not undo or erase a marriage bond.
Rather the Church issues a declaration of nullity when it discovers that the parties were not truly joined by God and hence a full spiritual sacramental marriage as understood by the Church was not present.
Then the parties are free to marry for the first time.
With love in Christ.
2007-10-21 16:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he misunderstood the Cardinals. The Cardinals cannot change a catholic teaching based on Christ's teaching on the unacceptability of divorce. Even King Henry VIII was not given the permission to annul his valid marriage with Catherine of Aragon prompting him to establish his own Church, the Anglican Church. Remarriage in the Catholic Church is only valid for widows and widowers. However, Catholics whose marriages were declared null and void by the Church Marriage Tribunal can remarry because their marriages are considered invalid or in other words, their marriage did not take place at all even if they have begotten children only.
If your Catholic friend have resentments for not being able to marry again after his divorce, we understand him. The Catholic Church law on divorce is hard especially for those who are accustomed to divorce. But it is the law. To follow Christ, laws no matter how hard must be obeyed.Otherwise, what is the use of following Christ if we follow him only at our convenience?
2007-10-21 15:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by froy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the man obtained an annulment from his previous marriage, he is free to remarry. That hasn't changed in a long time; the process for obtaining an annulment has become easier, but that's always been the rule.
He should also realize that it isn't the Church's rule, but a rule given to it by Jesus. In Matt. 19 Jesus states that any man who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery. So, the rule of the Church has always been that if you divorce and remarry without an annulment, it is a sin.
An annulment states that there was some impediment to the marriage that made the marriage itself invalidly contracted. There are various reasons for granting an annulment. He can probably still obtain such an annulment, or if his first wife is deceased he is free to marry as well.
He has no reason to be angry at the Church; he should be angry with whoever gave him the erroneous information.
2007-10-21 15:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Jude & Cristen H 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
He might have been able to get remarried in the church if he met some requirements:
Having the marriage annulled,
or
getting a dispensation in favor of the faith.
There might have been compelling reasons why he couldn't obtain either of these, or it could be that he simply didn't even try.
The rules for remarriage in the Catholic church are the same they have been for a very, very long time.
2007-10-21 15:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Where did he get the information that remarriage is okay for divorced couples? Only way that is possible is to get an annulment of the marriage before you can consummate another one.
An annulment (decree of nullity) is a finding by the Church that a sacramental (as opposed to civil) marriage never existed, therefore the parties were never married in the eyes of God. There are many things which could contribute to finding a marriage null such as coercion or grave external fear (a shotgun wedding for instance), lack of consent due to the mental instability of one of the parties, lack of consent because one of the parties considered marriage to be a legal short-term relationship which could be abandoned at will, or lack of consummation.
Here is the pertinent section of the Code of Canon Law with respect to dissolution of marraiges.
http://www.vatican.va/archive/ENG1104/__P44.HTM
2007-10-21 15:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
its not quite that simple. one can have an annulment given specific circumstances (such as spousal abuse, or some serious of breach of trust). also, you said he was mad at the pope and then went on to talk about the cardinals - who by themselves dont get to just revise the catechism. lastly, you havent given any reasons why this man left his wife, so i can only assume it was the same as 98% of all divorces: lack of will to keep it together or bad reasons for getting married to begin with.
2007-10-21 15:42:06 · answer #8 · answered by kujigafy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not aware of this remarriage provision except in the case of annulments which has been around along time. He needs to check his facts and/or confess his doubt of papal infallibility..
2007-10-21 15:38:22 · answer #9 · answered by DrB 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dogma is very hard to deal with.
Is eating meat on Friday, OK or not?
Limbo was, not it's not.
I am mad at the Pope (most of them since 1964) as they seem to be out of step with the real world
2007-10-21 15:41:22 · answer #10 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
remarriage is never okay in the Catholic Church. if your friend resents the Pope and the Catholic Church, he might as well become a Protestant and do whatever he likes, after all, that's what Protestants do.
2007-10-21 15:34:29 · answer #11 · answered by Perceptive 5 · 4⤊ 3⤋