I am 15 and a junior in high school. after 8th grade i moved to a new town and went to a new school where i only knew 1 person. i quickly had 3 close friends. one of them is into sex and drugs now (she used to not be like that) and she transferred schools, the other ditched me for another group of friends, and the one i knew from before is still an o.k. friend.but at lunch she goes home alot so i am stuck in the library alll alone at lunch and so pretty much i am a loner. this really hurts; esp. b/c at my old school i had a ton of friends...what do i do? i always walk around school alone and feel so lonely..im really nice but quiet too.im not quiet around friends tho. im only quiet around people i don't know well so technically i am quiet all the time now. this really stresses me out how im a loner at school and has affected my health - i get really bad tension headaches now and today at my doctor for my physical he said my blood pressure and pulse were high...what do i do?
2007-10-21 14:43:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
i cannot believe my one friend ditched me..she used to be so nice.anyways do friends in high school really matter??my friends from junior high dont even keep in touch..so i dont know.. i get my license in a month anyways so i can drive home during lunch.....and DONT TELL ME OH JUST JOIN A CLUB! i am in 5 clubs and on the basketball team..am i hopeless? everyone seems to have their own little group of friends already........... and my friend who ditched me..i saw her walking around with her new friends yesterday downtown..iwas so sad..
2007-10-21 14:43:51 · update #1
And I was going to say to join a club. How is it you haven't found people in any of these groups? The clubs you are in, are they really of interest to you? I really hurts when friends disappear, but by getting involved in other activities, you would be meeting with other people with the chance of developing a friendship. Are you reading too much into how others are responding to you? It is natural to by somewhat shy when you don't know people. We become more social as we get to know people. Maybe you need to give it more time.
2007-10-21 14:55:06 · answer #1 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends are important at any age. If you are already in clubs I don't know what to tell you except I feel your pain. The difference was that I moved when I was in 3rd grade and the cliques were already formed. I never fit in because I wasn't 'born' there. They all sucked!! Are there any activities that you can do outside of school, where you can hang out with people from different schools or something? I'm sorry your having a hard time fitting in. If you are close with your parents you might ask for some advice. It might be weird, but sometimes they know what they're talking about.
2007-10-21 14:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Jody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be hard to build your confidence when you still feel like an outsider in your new town, but this is what you must do. I wish I could tell you how, but you need to find a way that works for you. You might start with confronting your friend (not in an aggressive way). Just ask her if there is a reason that she is avoiding you. She is not worth being friends with, but you deserve to know and approaching her will make you feel a little stronger maybe. You just need to take baby steps building your confidence. Anyway, I just thought I would mention too that when friends ditched me in school it usually had something to do with other girls. One time my close group of friends ditched me during senior week because of a new friend I had brought with me, whom they hated. Of course once we were back home I have remained friends with some of them through college but not all of them. You would be surprised of some of the petty reasons friends will ditch you.
2007-10-22 01:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by snowbunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well friends come and go each day of ur life. friends are like a balloon you want to never lose them. but in this case friends are like a box of chocolate you never know what your going to get or who will be your best friend.. the same thing happened 2 me.well not the same thing but,, ever since me n my friend ariana went to different schools she forgot all about me..anyways just stay quiet and nice and wait till' someone wants to be your friend dont chase after them let them chase after you homegirll take my advice it should be helpful bye!: )
2007-10-22 12:09:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, man - I can name that tune. I had the EXACT same thing happen to me when I was your age, and to make it worse, my dad had just passed away, so there was THAT to deal with, too.
Just try to be yourself, smile when people talk to you, and hang in there. I know, it sucks - I remember like it was yesterday, and for me it was almost 30 years ago.
I know it sounds lame, but you'll get through this - I PROMISE.
{{{{HUGZ}}}} to ya...
2007-10-21 14:53:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well what school do u go to. thats the prob;em
2007-10-21 14:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by babbygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋