I just found a new boyfriend almost two months ago. He seems like a very nice person. He says he really likes me, he calls me every single night and we talk for hours. He is funny, sweet, romantic and charming. He always asks me to tell him everything that's happening in my life and that he is the one I'm supposed to look to for support. I'm in college now and if I don't go to school one day for some reason he get upset and says I'm joking with my life; this kinda shows me that he actually cares about me. He introduced me to all his close friends even the ones that live far away. I really like him but with all men he has problems. 1. He can't really dress i.e. he dresses really simply but when we are going out he doesn't even try to go a little extra with it. 2. He is not really educated - he graduated from high school but that's where it ended as he plays professional soccer now. He doesn't speak with correct grammar and sometimes my friends laugh. Do you think I should stay with him?
2007-10-21 13:58:37 · 56 answers · asked by Young,Sexy&Educated 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he's not controlling he does try to tell me to do things but if I say no he doesn't push the issue. I guess he's just trying to have a part in my life.
2007-10-21 14:27:31 · update #1
Excuse me Chris B but I do not have problems with grammar and I didn't say anything is wrong with playing soccer as I actually like the fact that he plays soccer. Also, every person in this world has flaws and that is what I meant by that statement.
2007-10-21 14:33:23 · update #2
If you like him thats all that matters who cares what your freinds think if you like him you should keep him!!
2007-10-21 14:02:25 · answer #1 · answered by Blondest_Brunett 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"He doesn't speak with correct grammar..." I'll tell you this much...he may be a bit short in the grammar department but so are you and you're IN college!
If the doubts you raised are the extent of his "problems" then consider yourself lucky because they are NOT problems at all.
You're putting him down and minimizing what he does for a living. Playing professional soccer is no easy task since he is straight out of high school! You should be proud of him for being that talented. Many young men don't know the difference between getting dressed and dressing up. Politely suggest he make an effort when you're doing something special.
Let me give you another news flash before I sign off! You stated, broadly, that "with all men he has problems." For every woman who thinks men have problems there are just as many men that think women have problems too. Don't generalize, it simply isn't fair and it's incorrect. You listed his many, fine attributes and even say he cares about you when you mess up and don't go to school. Perhaps he couldn't further his education for one reason or another and knows that having the ability to do so would enrich his life so much more. By giving you a hard time he's doing one of two things...he's either being a bit controlling or knows what he would do given the chance to go to college! He's a keeper but I'm not convinced you are.
2007-10-21 14:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Chris B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know why you are even asking this. This guy is funny, sweet, romantic and charming - your words. Are you really so shallow that you would dump him because he doesn't dress smart enough and his grammar isn't good? If your friends laugh at him I'm sorry to say they sound like complete bitches. You need to think about what is actually important in a boyfriend, like treating you well, being there for you, being on the same wavelength.
2007-10-21 14:04:15 · answer #3 · answered by magenta 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that, if you are truly in love with this guy, then you shouldn't care about what your friends think. When me and my bf started dating, he found out who his true friends are because, when we made it official and started going out, i had only known him for a few weeks as i had just moved here. Even before we made it official, some of the girls that he knew, even his ex (although she was too stupid to get that she was an ex just yet) were jealous of him, and were talking crap about me behind my back. High school drama, im SO over it...no more after this year though so YEAA!!! lol...but you could probably ask him if maybe he could try talking a little better, i know that sounds stupid, but if you REALLY care about what your friends think, then i think you should bring this up with your bf the next time you talk to him...and he does seem like hes really sweet and caring, i would DEFINITELY hang on to him!! Its SO hard to find a guy who actually gives a crap about you and isnt out to get in your pants!!
2007-10-21 14:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by â?¥100% Sexy Babygurlâ?¥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, Finding the right love is like solving a Rubiks cube. Its up to you on how many sides you can get right and when you are ready to settle and stop trying. It sounds likoe you have found one where many sides are right but you still have a few to work out. The chances of getting all sides right are slim but depending on your personal determination... will tell you when to stop. Go back and read your message and reply to yourself.. what advice would you give another? He has all of the important qualities right.. the easy ones to fix, how he dresses and his grammar can be taught. A good heart can't.
You know you have a keeper. Work at it. Are you a keeper?
2007-10-21 14:10:49 · answer #5 · answered by jolie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why does he tell you you are joking with yoru life when he isnt even in college? i think if you like him who cares what your friends think. and as for how he dresses, lots of boys cant dress, you can help him pick out nice clothes to go out in. remember , people often change after the honey moon stage of a relationship so you might not know if he's a keeper till a little later on. give it some more time though he seems to really like you and seems to be sweet.
2007-10-21 14:03:33 · answer #6 · answered by 47skittles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r askin this question becoz u know u deserve better than poor grammar!and u do!Gurl don't settle 4 less!
But if u can live with you choice then go 4 it!
Honestly my advice:
Relax take u r time.......life is short only when u ave made the right choice....make a wrong one and u will realize a minute has 60 seconds.
I was in your situation once------and am glad that's over with!Goodluck!
2007-10-21 14:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by sherry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i mean just because he does not go to college or doesn't dress correctly that doesn't mean u shouldn't stay with him. i am a terrible speller and my bf corrects me all the time so maybe u cant hint to him about speaking and then as far as clothes maybe mention to him to dress up a lil or buy him something and ask him to wear it. also i understand the whole wanting a guy who is well educated bc u want to be financially supported if he is the one, but give it a chance and if it is meant to be then it is and if not that move on.
2007-10-21 14:04:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The education part is really tough to get past. Do you feel like your respect for him has gone down a little because of it? If so, you will have trouble in the future and you need to evaluate it for yourself closely to see if you can get past that.
You can't really change the way someone dresses... if you try, you seem overbearing. You can buy him things that you would like for him to wear out, and hope he does, but that's about all. If it really bothers you then... perhaps you should find someone a little more "your type".
2007-10-21 14:04:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I do. Pro soccer?! Cute! :)
But seriously, how he dresses reflects he is a guy who gets down to basics, better than staring in the mirror and fussing with his outift! You may need new friends if they laugh at him...that is rather rude. Maybe he speaks to a lot of foreign speaking people during his soccer travels.
I think you need to go with your gut instincts on this...and ditch your shallow friends.
2007-10-21 14:04:57 · answer #10 · answered by wawawebis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to look at your own priorities. Do you value honesty, charm, romance, respect, humor, etc., or do you value education and outside apperance? Maybe you can hint to him that he should dress less simply by buying him some new clothes that you think he should wear. You can't really do anything about his education. Maybe after a while of being with you, he'll learn to speak better.
2007-10-21 14:02:05 · answer #11 · answered by julia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋