I find myself constantly seeking intimate relationships with people whether they are in my best interest or not. At the same time I tend to build these relationships up to the point that I know I will only be hurt in the end, yet I continue on. I always feel happier when pursuing a relationship and the day to day irritations irrelevant. Early on I dont even see the chance of rejection as being possible, but in the back of my mind I feel its inevitable. I dont focus or get fixated on the fact that I will eventually be rejected and instead keep a positive outlook. Lately things have tended to end worse and worse than before and I cant help but wonder if I am subconsciously seeking this pain in order to achieve some self-destructive goal.
Am I simply hopeful or do I actually seek this letdown and the depression and pain that I see coming?
2007-10-21 13:16:35 · 4 answers · asked by vitapostmortem 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
People who do this usually have low self esteem and underestimate their own self worth. It is as if they think they deserve this treatment. I would seek counseling before I entered into another relationship.
By the way, there are also people who see the "high" of starting a relationship and cannot continue one because the high fades and they seek a new high. You might say they are addicted to romance. They also need counseling.
2007-10-21 13:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by cavassi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you enjoy being hurt as much as you like a challenge.
2007-10-21 13:20:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a therapist to learn how to break the cycle
2007-10-21 13:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by mp3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah its a challenge
2007-10-21 13:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by AGOOGAGA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋