Should a Man/Woman stay n a unhappy marriage?

Question

The bible tells us not to divorce. What if the get to a point they just can't stay it becomes intolerable; Is this considered a sin?

Thank You all 4 all ure comments.
Unhappy as in he's controlling, he doesn't allow me to have an opinion, nothing I do is right, I am stressed his mother lives wit us and I feel gained up on, we are unequally yoked I got saved after we got married, I keep getting from people "Wives submit to your husband."

Answer 1

Matthew 5:32 However, I say to YOU that everyone divorcing his wife, except on account of fornication, makes her a subject for adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Mark 10:2 Pharisees now approached and, to put him to the test, began questioning him whether it was lawful for a man to divorce a wife. 3 In answer he said to them: “What did Moses command YOU?” 4 They said: “Moses allowed the writing of a certificate of dismissal and divorcing [her].” 5 But Jesus said to them: “Out of regard for YOUR hardheartedness he wrote YOU this commandment. 6 However, from [the] beginning of creation ‘He made them male and female. 7 On this account a man will leave his father and mother, 8 and the two will be one flesh’; so that they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God yoked together let no man put apart.” 10 When again in the house the disciples began to question him concerning this. 11 And he said to them: “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her, 12 and if ever a woman, after divorcing her husband, marries another, she commits adultery.”

So if you want to please God I would listen to Jesus.
But if you are being beaten or your kids are i would get a seperation ask you husband to get help.
Or if it is not that bad go to conseling and try to remember why you loved him.

Answer 2

No you should never stay in a relationship that makes you unhappy. Some people may be taking it too lightly because of course all relationships need some work and a fight isnt the end of the world, but we are talking about a seriously unhappy marriage here. Well you should never stay in something like that.
And if anyone tells you you should they don't have your best interests at heart so they are the ones with the problem not you. I'm not religious but I would consider anyone urging people to stay in these marriages to be inhumane and irresponsible.

Answer 3

I'm not clear what you mean by "intolerable". It really depends on what is going on between the two. If the two are committed to the vows they made to God, then they will do what they need to do to work things through. If one is abusive, or simply has no intentions of being faithful to the commitment, then there may be good reason to separate, even legally. But the Bible also talks about the permanancy of marriage. This means that divorce is only a civil matter. That is why one cannot divorce and marry another. If there was a defect to begin with, then there really was no marriage in the first place. That is an anullment. Most states have a basis for an anullment. Some churches do also. God bless you in this difficult matter.

Answer 4

It depends on what is happening in the marriage. If their is a sitaution that makes it unsafe for you or your family, then it is ok to get out of the relationship. But... if you are just unhappy, no, that is not a good enough reason. Marriage is work with wonderful rewards but it is going to be difficult sometimes. Unfortunately the divorce rate is so high because people go into it expecting the relationship to fulfill them in ways that are unrealistic. Please seek counseling, recommend Christian counseling. There are also may good marriaqge encounter weekends that can put you both on the right track. Don't give up yet. Try every possibility to make it work.

Answer 5

First, you should discuss this with a minister. Second, what is unhappy? Third, have you considered all your options at reconciliation like counceling with clergy or marriage therapist? Remember when considering the responses posted here, men will feed you all the sugar you want, but that doesn't make it right. Some times the right answer is harder to swallow.

Jesus was asked that question in Matthew 19:3, is response followed. Read the scripture and do as God moves you.

Blessings.

Answer 6

I believe if you have tried every effort to resolve it, counseling, etc. You should not stay in an unhappy marriage if everything else has failed. To do so just isn't healthy. And God does tell us to take care of ourselves. Unhappy marriages cause all kinds of health problems, infidelity, as well as fighting is emotionally abusive to each other. So at that point when you've tried everything else divorce may be your only option.

I believe God loves us and wants us to be happy.

Answer 7

The ancient prophets also had more than one wife. Clearly, what was important in biblical times does not always apply in the modern world. If a marriage begins to break down, there are marriage counselors to help get things back on track. If nothing works, then the obvious solution is to separate or divorce. If you want to be technical, the bible doesn't say you can't divorce. It says you shall cleave only unto each other as long as you both shall live. That means if you separate, or divorce, but don't 'cleave unto' any other person, you are not sinning. It's up to you if you want to live a celibate life. But if you want to be technical about the bible words, that's what your options are. But nowhere does it say that you can't divorce a spouse.

Answer 8

You know, if there was no such thing as divorce, maybe people would be a bit more selective about whom they marry in the first place.
Before you say something as stupid as "till death do us part", and make it a vow you say before God, you really ought to be very very very very very very very sure that this is someone you can stay married to.
And exactly what makes you think that everyone ought to be happy all the time? Guess what? Even the best marriages go through times when someone is not happy. No two people can be in agreement about everything all the time...
That's just the way it is.

Answer 9

If there is abuse you should seperate and might have to get a divorce. Anything else you should get counceling from a minister. Or go get tapes or books from women teachers who could give you advice, without being judgemental.

Sometimes things work out, and you become stronger and grow closer. That is God's way.

Again if there is abuse or even adultery, get the heck out.

Answer 10

No, especially if they have kids. If they continue to stay in an unhappy marriage, they are showing their kids that this is how you treat your spouse. And the kids grow up and treat their future spouses badly.