Just wondering what the normal protocal is.... My shower was September 15 and I am still getting them out in shifts... I have been traveling like crazy and it is like the endless task. I intend to get every single last one out but my wedding is this weekend and I wonder if it is offensive for people to get my thank you note from the shower, the same week of my wedding?
2007-10-21 11:54:08 · 12 answers · asked by NoTurningBackNow 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I never expect a thank you note.
If I get one, I get one.
If I don't, I don't.
2007-10-22 16:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Terri 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not offensive, but I would really work at getting the rest of them out this week, before your wedding, simply because AFTER the wedding you'll have all THOSE thank you notes to do, you'll feel better knowing the shower ones are in the mail, so to speak. Even if you're mailing them on the way to the church, it will be one less thing for you to fool with after you return from your honeymoon! Good for you for getting them out at all, so many feel that it's something too "old fashioned" to bother with.
2007-10-21 19:13:43 · answer #2 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You should always send them ASAP. Definitely should have had them done by now. (How large a shower did you HAVE?! the whole town?!)
Don't make excuses in the notes, just get to writing them! No, it's not offensive to get one the week of the wedding.
As to above poster's answer, only you and groom should be writing them-- NOT the rest of the family. You would look like children, or ungrateful, if you made others write them!
Promptness is crucial in order to be polite. Do not wait for photos, to put in wedding thank you notes! The notes always need to go out ASAP-- NOT wait for photos-- photos are NOT NEEDED.
2007-10-21 22:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless the shower is a week before the wedding; everyone should receive their thank you for the shower BEFORE the wedding. Start writing, because your wedding thank you notes are due in the next few weeks.
2007-10-21 19:00:51 · answer #4 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Better late than never. You can send out thank you notes within a week of the event. Don't worry about overlapping your wedding, just get them out, because the thank you cards take longer to go out for a wedding because of waiting for photos from the photographer. Six months is the average waiting period for wedding albums and photos.
2007-10-21 19:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
shower notes should be done with in 3-4 weeks and wedding gifts at least 6 months
2007-10-21 19:10:10 · answer #6 · answered by rodeogirl 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
They should all be sent within a month of getting the gift. You are already behind the 8=ball so block out a day next weekend to finish them.
Better late than never, but trust me, people are already wondering where their thanks are.
Please plan better and don't repeat this after the wedding with those gifts. (Wedding thanks are due to be mailed within three weeks of when you return from the honeymoon) As you are opening gifts just write the thanks then, takes like 5 minutes...once it's done move on to the next.
2007-10-21 19:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by pspoptart 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Stop wasting time on the computer and get writing girl!!!
You must get them out before the wedding. how many people did you have at the shower? Musta been a lot if you are still writing!!!
2007-10-21 19:34:29 · answer #8 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get on it, especially considering that those kind people that gave you gifts for your shower are probably attending your wedding. Just do it before the wedding. Good luck!
2007-10-21 19:06:54 · answer #9 · answered by Euphorickc 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
They should have been sent out the next week. Just finish them, already!
Don't procrastinate like this with your wedding gift thankyous!
2007-10-22 08:04:59 · answer #10 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good gravy, these aren't essays! We who grew up writing thank you letters every Christmas and birthday have learned to dash them off 20 or 30 an hour, including addresses and stamps. "Dear Dora and Dave, the candlesticks/towels/accessory really adds elegance/beauty/convenience to our table/kitchen/bathroom. Your thoughtful/generous/kind gift receives many complements/is used daily. James and I hope to see you here soon. Fond regards, Jenny."
OK, I'm done scolding you and will give you some useful advice. Thank you letters may be written on your behalf by friends and family members. "Dear Dora and David Deeks, Jenny asked me to tell what a convenient addition your thoughtful towel set is to the kitchen. She and James show them off proudly. They send their best regards and look forward to seeing you soon. Yours truly, Alison Andrews"
Such "on behalf" notes are most usually written after funerals, when friends spare the bereaved family members the painful duty of thanking all those who sent gifts of flowers or food. But it can be correctly done for happy occasions as well.
2007-10-21 21:02:45 · answer #11 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋