This guy i'm dating is SO boring during 4play! I call myself showing him some pointers.. but he didn't get it.. we didn't make it past that bc I went to sleep.. Lord forbid he is worse in bed.... But he just doesn't seem to listen to my likes and dislikes.. what should I say to him?
2007-10-21 11:51:43 · 32 answers · asked by sole_survivor 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There is no nice way. You just going to have to tell him
2007-10-21 11:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by DopeBoi 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Touchy area...let him know how well you connect in other areas, and how important it is to you that you have more of a connection in this area. Then, during foreplay, guide his hands, fingers or er whatever needs guiding. Be VERY specific. Let him hear your reaction, whether you use words or sounds - and be sure to reciprocate!!
Give it a few weeks - if things do not drastically improve, then you must decide whether this relationship is one in which you want to invest more time and energy.
Guys tend not to pick up on hints, so that is unlikely to be effective... he may be trying to be gentle, he may be unsure of himself, or he may honestly be inexperienced. You may consider buying a book for the two of you to thumb through together for ideas. If nothing else just looking will be exciting and tend to make things heat-up!!
Good luck
2007-10-21 11:59:38 · answer #2 · answered by marshfield_meme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's really important to you, you have to be straight up and give him the info he needs. he may just be inept a love making some are. I've know girls that I couldn't teach to kiss. And my answer was I didn't see them again- I must say they where beautiful too, but they just couldn't be a very good lover. But they was the best eye candy I've ever had. But that wasn't enough for me. but that's my story.
You have to do what you have to do. Be honest with him.
2007-10-21 11:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Poobah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No...dont just dump him. Come on. Sometimes guys are nervous or new. And sometimes they think that what theyve done on other girls, that was so great, will work on you. Maybe he just isnt getting the signals.
You just need to be more clear with him. Sit down and talk to him, or email him lol either way. But if you arent flat out with him he isnt going to know what you really want.
2007-10-21 11:55:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Threaten to tell all of his friends how lame he is in bed. Just kiddin'! Some people are just uncomfortable doing certain things. I've had (the key word had) girlfriends that just wouldn't do "that" (whatever 'that" may be). I too have had the worst in bed. It could be "all about him".
2007-10-21 12:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him he's a bore and puts you to sleep!
Tell him that you know what you like and if he wants to listen he can play if not you just would rather be friends!
2007-10-21 11:55:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tink 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Doesn't exist. Obviously, you need to find a better partner, one who listens. I only wish more women would actually tell us what they like, instead of letting us guess!
2007-10-21 11:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Brent Y 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just be realy frank with him, u must be open and honest. dont say hes boreing, but say i saw some cool tips on the net( book, friend told ect) do you want to try them, explain the importance of this to you, but u for sure must say something. good luck!
2007-10-21 11:55:29 · answer #8 · answered by Tu_Jahan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, he doesn't listen, thats a key.
I was going to suggest simply guiding him, physically, to what you want him to touch and add some words. If not, then stop being nice about it and talk to him over dinner or something
2007-10-21 11:54:35 · answer #9 · answered by Corvus 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe you need to be up front and tell him its over between the both of you. there is someone who will PLEASE you the way you like and treat you with alot of respect at the same time, but you must also give in return the same back
2007-10-21 11:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by WINDTALKER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋