relationships go through rough patches right?

Question

it seems like lately my boyfriend and i have been fighting over stupid stuff and he just gets irritated with everything i do. im starting to feel like i cant do anything right and wondering why he is still with me. so i was just wondering if all relationships experience this kind of thing at points...thanks

Answer 1

Of course all relationships go through ups and downs, maybe it's time for a little break where you spend time with your family and friends to get away for awhile. Sometimes people spend too much time with each other and need some space, this doesnt mean it's over or you should date other people, just spend some time alone or with friends.
Talk to him about it, ask him why he is treating you like this and tell him you don't like it.

Answer 2

Well I can see why your stressed out. I've been in my relationship with my boyfriend for 3 years now. We had gone through rough patches and that's normal relationships, come on do you think every relationship don't have any problems at all and get along every second? No. But it's not healthy if you get into fights everyday, trust me. I can see why you would be insecure about the situation with him watching porn, I've been there too. I always thought I would be compared to those or any other girls. See the problem here is your communication. Have you tried talking to him instead of freaking out? Let him know how you feel in a proper manner, like saying you feel uncomfortable with him watching porn. Say sorry with the fact you have been a bit controlling for the past month. If you explain your just stressed and you don't mean to take it out on him, he should understand. Besides trust, communication is an important factor in a relationship, without it you'll always be in this rough patch. So just talk with him, and if you do feel really bad about controlling and freaking out at him, why not do something special for him? I hope everything goes well! Good luck and I hope I helped you.

Answer 3

I've been through the same thing. Take a moment and see what exactly sets you off and what seems to be setting him off. I was nit picking at him because everything wasn't going my way (yeah I know selfish huh?) We lived together for a year before getting married and I learned so much about my character as well as his. From my experience, if you don't already go out and do your thing, time and space are huge if you live together, you need to get away because it makes you appreciate each other more when you're spending time back together.
Sometimes you have to talk some things he says with a grain of salt. I used to battle back at the dumbest things just for the sake of 'winning', well neither of us is winning if we just continued fighting over stupid things!!!
It does get better but these little spats do help your relationship, it teaches you both how to communicate, what triggers you, and the make up part isn't half bad either:)
Find comfort in the fact that 98% of the people posting say it's totally normal......"This too shall pass":)

Answer 4

I know where youre coming from. My boyfriend and I have know each other form 6 years and weve been on and off dating for almost 3. The first three-four years of our friendship was thru distance online, phone, and letters. Then we started to meet in person and started dating.

I moved to be closer to him and since then theres been a lot of stupid fights. I definitely feel like I do everything wrong. But at the same time I look at him and think really youre reacting wrong. My boyfriend is an only child and has those tendincies and he is very stubborn so he doesnt act the way a mature adult should.

Often I know were not as mature as we should be, to have such a serious relationship. But we love each other and want to be together forever. So we try our best to work through it.

What ever you do, do not keep this all to yourself. Open up to him. Make sure he knows he can open up to you. Never hide or keep things. Thatll only ruin it.

Good luck

Answer 5

Sometimes relationships begin to lose its excitement and becomes boring. You two could be arguing because of boredom and arguing is the only excitement you have left in your relationship. If this is the problem, then you should think of something new and different to do to bring back the excitement in your relationship. Or, maybe your boyfriend wants out of the relationship and he does not know how to end it. Whatever it may be, talk about it so that the both of you can move forward together or separate, either way life is too short to not get to the reasons why you two are arguing over nonsense. Good luck

Answer 6

All failing relationships seem to have this in common. Sounds, to me, as if he wants "out" and, if it were me, I'd tell him you've decided you're too young (or feeling "closed in") to be in such a close relationship, now, so would like a "break" from dating him for a while and will see him in December. Stick to your decision and, when Decenber arrives, if he doesn't call (or pester you before then) you'll know it's time to "shop" for another boyfriend. Why would you want to be in a relationship with a person who is emotionally abusive to you? If he, truly, cared about you, he would be sure to treat you as if you are a "treasure" he's found.

Answer 7

Yes, I have been married 10 years, and our relationship has gone through rough patches many times. We are going through one right now, usually it happens when my husband is stressed out from work, he has a stressful job. I just go with the flow. Maybe you guys need to go away for a weekend to reconnect. I don't know how old you are though.

Answer 8

Yes, all relationships go through tough times. But if he gets irritated with you often, and it upsets you, that isn't good. Have a long talk with him and tell him that you want to be happy in the relationship and you know he does too. Ask him if he is satisfied with you, or if he'd rather take a breather for awhile.

Answer 9

Yes dear heart, they do. He might be experiencing a concern that he isn't as good for you as he might want to be, and doesn't know what to do about it. Guys have a lot of difficulty expressing their inner most desires or fears. They are taught not to since that would mean that they are weak. He is possibly afraid of something and doesn't know how to handle it. The easiest way out is to take it out on you, since to one degree or another, it involves you. The issue most likely is not you, but his concern about you. it is going to take your womanly 6/th sense to figure this out. Once you find it, he will either deny it with considerable show of anger, run, or just fall apart. No man likes to feel vulnerable, but your tenderness and approval of him is all important to him at that point.

Answer 10

All relationships have ups and downs and even on point sometimes its whether you can forgive and forget mature and change accept and reject comfortably that makes the difference. Be happy.