I am in class with a male friend (I'm not sure he's a friend anymore after all this). We have been on friendly terms for over a year now. But a few months ago he made a move on me which I was not wanting. I was so mad because I thought that I was being played by this whole "friendship" thing. Now he turned all cold on me in class. He ignores me sometimes. He used to say goodby after class, now he just leaves without a word. He cuts conversations short with me and he stopped responding to my e-mails a long time ago. I think I was more into him than he was to me in the beginning, but I didn't ask him to make advances. I'm trying not to let his behavior get to me. I want to be friendly and "forget the whole thing" for the sake of being in class with him. But it really hurts sometimes. Was he mad because I didn't satisfy his sexual needs? Is he trying to hurt me on purpose? I thought of leaving the class not to deal with this anymore.
2007-10-21 11:23:50 · 5 answers · asked by sugar1973 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh, I forgot to add, that after me made advances that evening, I called him the next day to say, "What's up? Do you want to date me or something?" He says that it was a mistake, he has to think about things, it was a guy's impulse, let's just be friends, etc.". He pushed turned ME away!
2007-10-21 11:54:38 · update #1
He's embarrassed, I would think. He misread your friendship, and wanted to take it to the next level. No apologies that you didn't want that level. Just go on with your life, and don't look back. Over time he may see what he did was out of line with what you wanted and come around again, as a friend. If not, there are many people out there who would like to have you as a friend. And many men (not boys) who would love to have a girl who doesn't sleep around. Good luck. Time will help in this, but if you can change classes without hurting yourself, that will help you to refocus. If not, hang in there. Classes don't last forever, love does.
2007-10-21 11:32:12 · answer #1 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you hit the nail on the head by saying: You think you meant more to him than you realized. It's tuiff on a guy who is attracted to a lady, and out of respect for her, tries to be a friend first! We can't start by telling you ladies: I'm sexually attracted to you but I want to be friends first. That (in my eyes) wouldn't work. No one (man or woman) takes rejection well. I don't feel it's a personal stab at you for him wanting to loose contact. He's just needing some healing time.
2007-10-21 11:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by david 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like he's hurt or embarassed by being knocked back (childish, but who says everyone is grown up) and wants some space, so instead of trying to have conversations with him, leave him be until he's ready, and if he's never ready, well that's that.
2007-10-21 11:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn...I thought I was wierd. But I did the same thing to this chick in class. And I feel awkward when I see her now. I guess I read her all wrong. REJECTED...so I felt like dropping the class.
2007-10-21 16:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by ETinda805 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him you want to be just friends and take things slow.
not shure what he has planed or is he acting this way to get what he wanted before from you so its hard to tell.
2007-10-21 11:31:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋