And he/she is telling you that he/she is not going to wait until they are married.
What would your reaction be?
2007-10-21 11:19:49 · 44 answers · asked by ? 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Condoms, birth control, information on risk.
2007-10-21 11:21:48 · answer #1 · answered by LaptopJesus 5 · 11⤊ 3⤋
Daughter- in the beginning may well be positioned on beginning administration,and given condoms... i might communicate regarding the flaws that contain having intercourse.... being pregnant, std's and such... If between 12-15 i might she may well be punished and that i may well be conserving an extensive eye on her... if sixteen-17 i might constantly remind her of the risks, yet i wouldnt sense astonishing punishing her for something i did at her age(and for the checklist i became just about 22 once I had my son and he became planned, so i dont desire to pay attention something approximately how im a "undesirable" man or woman) i might take the comparable measures with my son... There particularly isnt something you're able to do while they're doing it... punishing the two a woman or boy too harshly may cause them to desire to retaliate and do it greater and than finally end up with something occurring... i might basically could desire to have confidence that they might do the incredible subject... as long as they knew that i'm constantly right here to respond to questions or help them in any way...
2016-10-13 11:07:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,I have 2 teen boys and if they approached me in such a way I would tell them to be cautious and make sure they use protection,and no matter how hot the person is or how much they are into the moment the must always use protection. The kids now a days are really eager to go all the way,I have seen somthing so sad as a girl in the 5th grade end up pregnant! No lie! once the parents found out they took her out of school and no one knows where she went or what happened. It's unknown who got her pregnant but it is astounding that something so hard happened to someone so young. Just try to reason with them you will be angry and so would I,but help them rather than push them away,kids need their parents no matter what,be their for them that's the best you can do.
2007-10-21 11:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by happyhive7 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I am a Christian and I will tell my child that the Bible teaches to wait until marriage for sex. However, if they choose not to wait, I will tell them to make sure they use the proper protection and take any and all necessary precautions. I might not condone what they are doing, but to be honest, I haven't waited for marriage to do everything, so why would I look down on my child if he/she doesn't? That's a bit hypocritical! After all, everyone makes mistakes. I want my child to know he/she can come to me with ANYTHING without the fear they will be punished. I will let them know I would prefer they wait until marriage, but some times, in the heat of the moment, you go farther than you had originally planned! It happens. Being mad or angry will not make anything better.
2007-10-21 11:33:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In this day and age you know they probably will anyway. So depending on the age I'd make sure they were well informed regarding STD's etc. and birth control. I still wouldn't like it much but considering that I did it before marriage I don't have much room to talk. As my friend told his daughter - if you want to have sex that's fine. Just do it safely and for gods sake don't make me a grandfather. And she didn't till he got married.
2007-10-21 11:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by elyag43 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First of all, to be honest, I would go somewhere and cry my head off. Then, I would pray a lot, and ask God for help in discussing it with them. Then, with God's guidance, I would talk to them seriously about how God feels about premarital sex, and how He made it to be between a husband and wife, and that they should abstain from it in the future, and go to the Lord in prayer, to repent of it, and ask forgiveness. Then, I would lovingly hug them and tell them how much I love them, and that they can come to me whenever and for whatever they want, because I love them so. And, if need be, I would get them into a group with other Christian teens who discuss these kinds of problems with each other, so they can have some extra support in this from people who are going through the same thing. I think it would help alot if they knew other teens like themselves are facing the same issues, and how they learned to deal with them. God Bless
2007-10-21 11:35:54 · answer #6 · answered by byHisgrace 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It depends on how old the kid is. If s/he's younger than 16, I'd do everything in my power to keep them from having sex. If they're older than that, especially if they're adults, then I'd say "I hope you and your partners have a good relationship." In either case, I would be completely fine with them not waiting until marriage because I think that's really stupid to wait, and I'd give them contraceptives and inform them of STDs.
2007-10-21 11:30:00 · answer #7 · answered by Rat 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Dear Petra.
After a person has reached a certain age, it doesn't matter what others think. They take ownership of their own body and you can tell them to save themselves until you're blue in the face. If they don't want to, they won't. I'm going to worry about something more serious like global warming.
2007-10-21 11:26:45 · answer #8 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well it depends on how old they are. If they are 12 or something, then we have to think about some kind of boarding school or home school or some situation where they can be monitored on a regular basis. If they are 16, well then that is nature. I'm not happy about it, but all that you can do is make sure they are protected and that they understand the repercussions. If they are a full grown adult, then I figure they are having sex, but I try not to think about it.
2007-10-21 11:23:50 · answer #9 · answered by CB 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My daughter lives with her fiance, and is quite capable of protecting herself from the risks involved with sex. It's a matter of teaching them properly. And since I taught her properly, I have no problem with it. Why should I or anyone expect her to deny an essential part of loving and being human?
Edit: Great answer, Wicked Good :)
2007-10-21 11:25:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
This has happened twice in my house. We are Christians and have taught abstinance BUT.........freewill comes in to play.
I don't put my seal of approval on it but I do help them get protection against pregnancy and disease. I may not agree but I have to protect them until they start doing right.
The Lords promises : Proverbs 22:6
Train up a child in the way he should go [and in keeping with his individual gift or bent], and when he is old he will not depart from it.
2007-10-21 11:25:48 · answer #11 · answered by tambos67camaro 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋