I am a Christian, and I was wondering, STD/pregnancy concerns aside, is it that big of a difference to go from oral sex to actual intercourse... as in, is all the stuff up to 3rd base "not as bad" in the eyes of God, or since I'm already doing all the other stuff, I might as well be having sex?
And ok ok, maybe this sounds bad because I'm saying I'm a Christian and still participating in pre-marital sexual activity... but I'm just curious what y'all think!
2007-10-21 10:34:49 · 13 answers · asked by BeachBoarder 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I think the Gospels make it quite clear what Jesus taught about human sexuality. He condemned lust, adultery, fornication, and divorce. You cannot do things that Jesus condemned and not sin. It's that simple. If you are sinning you should repent and amend your life.
Reclaim your virginity - because you ARE already having sex. Sex is sex regardless of what form it takes. The idea that you can retain virginity by not having intercourse yet doing d@mn near everything else is ridiculous! (and to you knuckleheads out there who think she hasn't already lost it you are dead wrong!). Stop engaging in any form of physical intimacy until you have made the commitment to be married.
You can say, what's the harm? Well, you are probably not old enough to remember the Sexual Revolution and the advent of the Pill. At that time Pope Paul VI wrote a document called On Human Life that condemned the Pill and outlined the terrible moral consequences society would suffer if it was accepted and used. Well guess what? He was right. We have rampant sexual immorality, promiscuity, disease, the destruction of marriage and family life, appalling rates of abortion and divorce. That's real freedom, isn't it.
People FVCK first and ask questions later. Relationships are all fuzzy and weird. I was once told by a good friend who had been sexually active with her boyfriend for some time, that she wasn't sure if he loved her. I told her if only people tried to figure that out before they had sex. If you don't love the person you are intimate with, what the h*ll are you doing?!
God didn't lay down his commandments to spoil our fun. He did so that we wouldn't harm ourselves or others. Just because our culture has become perverse by no means excuses any Christian from following in that path. Nobody said righteousness was easy, did they?
VB8
2007-10-21 11:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Fornication, (Por-nei’a)
Hebrews 13:4 and 1 Corinthians 6:9 establish that God disapproves of both adulteryi and fornication (Greek, por-nei’a). What does the latter include? The Greek term involves the use of the genital organs in either a natural or a perverted way with lewd intent. It includes all forms of illicit sexual relations outside of Scriptural marriage. So it includes oral sex, despite the fact that many teenagers around the world have been told or have come to the conclusion that oral sex is acceptable. True Christians do not guide their thinking and actions by the opinions of profitless talkers, and deceivers of the mind. (Titus 1:10) They hold to the higher standard of the Holy Scriptures. Rather than try to make excuses for oral sex, they understand that Scripturally it is fornication, por-nei’a, and they train their conscience accordingly. Acts 21:25; 1 Corinthians 6:18; Ephesians 5:3.
(Acts 21:25) “As for the believers from among the nations, we have sent out, rendering our decision that they should keep themselves from what is sacrificed to idols as well as from blood and what is strangled and from fornication.””
(1 Corinthians 6:18) “Flee from fornication. Every other sin that a man may commit is outside his body, but he that practices fornication is sinning against his own body.”
(Ephesians 5:3) “Let fornication and uncleanness of every sort or greediness not even be mentioned among YOU, just as it befits holy people;”
2007-10-21 10:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by Just So 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Every other answer here is "Christian", so ill stir the pot.
I believe sex should be.//... at least for me-reserved for love. Reserved for someone i love-whether it be in a marriage or a relationship-i believe as long as you are connected to the person on that level than connecting physically is awesome.
All marriage is, is, well, a binding "contract" between two people saying you share the same stuff. Brittany Spears can get a marriage in a few minutes and then get it taken away in a day.
Theres nothing "holy" about that.
Just remember... the one you love should come first.
2007-10-21 10:50:31 · answer #3 · answered by SteelRain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More importantly is what the Bible says about those involved in such activities:
"The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: SEXUAL IMMORALITY, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God." Gal 5:19-21
If you are in fact living a sexually immoral lifestyle the Bible is clear that you will not inherit the kingdom of God.
"For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person— such a man is an idolater— has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God." Eph 5:5
Heb 13:4 "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral."
Enough said, I would think!
2007-10-21 11:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by Steve Amato 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything past first base is not glorifying to God. I read somewhere one time that "making-out" should be saved for marriage. Even though you have done things up to third base you should not go any further is you already havent. You can be forgiven for your sins, but that doesnt mean that you should do whatever you want to with the thought "oh its fine I can be forgiven" in the back of your mind. I'm proud that you have not had sex yet, and you should definetely keep it that way until marriage.
2007-10-21 10:42:30 · answer #5 · answered by Bekah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What I am about to say is the official position of the Catholic Church, Orthodox Churches (both Eastern and Oriental) as well as MOST mainline protestant churches: Yeah, pretty much ALL sexual activity outside of marriage is a sin and even in marriage one should show restraint. In fact, oral and anal sex can be regarded as even greater sins because they are not natural; they are a complete perversion of god's plan! Anal and oral sex are for the most part forbidden even in marriage, so all you Catholic girls thinking that doing anal or oral in place of vaginal somehow makes it better in the eyes of god... o, boy! Succumbing to our passions (except in marriage where he is the third wheel) angers god because it shows him that we are more in love with someone else than him and his word. But if you don't believe in god, or at least what some backward goatherders from the Middle East that viewed and treated women as property said about him 2000 years ago, all these problems magically go away :-) and you are free to make your own moral choices.
2016-05-24 01:31:21 · answer #6 · answered by jewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a good question. Before marriage it is very hard to stay chaste. I am not going to preach to you, obviously you realize this is not very pleasing to God. So, I would honestly say that if you are doing oral sex and everything else but sex, you are in the same sin, had you be having actual intercourse. I am not advocating for that of course, but its my answer to your question. I hope that you are keeping this in prayer. The best way to stay straight in all areas of your life is to continue talking with Jesus. Gods peace to you :)
2007-10-21 10:42:31 · answer #7 · answered by Loosid 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Complete chastity before marriage and complete fidelity after marriage. That is the rule. Anything else is allowing yourself to fall into physical captivity to the lures of the flesh. You should avoid any pleasuring before marriage because that leads to the further involvement of actual sexual relations.
2007-10-21 10:45:17 · answer #8 · answered by rac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The issue is not if you do this or that act.
The issue is you take your responsibility as a christian very lightly.
Give up on one or the either.
Forget being a christian or forget pre-marital sex ......in any form.
2007-10-21 10:41:09 · answer #9 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's not what I think, but what God says.
Sex is a gift reserved for marriage alone. Any other form falls under adultery. Pre-marital between two unmarried people is called fornication.
2007-10-21 10:39:43 · answer #10 · answered by Bob N 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋