Will this always be an issue?

Question

I have been going out with this guy for a couple days, a week on Tuesday. He's always been so nice. When getting to know me, I couldn't bring myself to look at him. I am an very shy person. He seemed a little put off by it, but kept trying to pursue me and being friendly. We talk a lot on myspace and sometimes on the phone. Sometimes he'll pause and ask why we cannot talk at school the way we do outside of school.
I told him about my plans to see a therapist, to work on my shyness and other things. He said he liked me just the way I was, and I believed him. A week or so later he asked me out and I asked twice if it was what he really wanted. He said yes, that it would make him very happy. Lately, he seems annoyed/exasperated and sometimes desperate to get a look at me. He makes little remarks. He made me feel bad by asking my eye color, that he's only seen me twice. I can't help but think this is his fault. Why did he ask me out in the first place then? Any tips for overcoming shyness?

Answer 1

I got past my shyness because of my friends, with that said. Unless you've got some deep, deep friends, your going to need the therapist, no offense. ITs not your fault to have to go to the therapist, the therapist is a symptom of a social problem that we have as for as a lack of good friends. No bull, look it up ;). So no feeling bad about yourself of it, I even went back in my early pre-teens, help alot in stiring me towards the right direction. That aside its all about having someone you can CONFRONTABLY relate to, as you increase in your "confort" level with the therapist this translate into EVERY other relationship in your life, so it works almost like magic! Also don't read so much into your new bf, were all new at this and even with the best intentions its a painful affair. Something to ask the therapist about there;). That aside you not looking at him, is a big sign that your a bit over your head, shows that your not to confident in yourself to face him, which isn't fair for ether one of you. But I digress thats better stuff for you and the therapist to go over, just trust that its important that EVERYONE see a therpist so you seeing this shows some intellgence in you, because most people can't wrap their heads around it. Go down that path, and try not to take the relationship so seriously, your both young, and the important thing right now is just getting to know each other. If thats not good enough for him, then well you might have to end this before it gets to deep and even more painful.