I'm jasmine. i'm 20 years old, my bf is 20 as well. we both go to job corps. we don't have jobs nor apartments; yet were doing that and i'm only 5 weeks pregnant. i keep having 2nd thoughts about adam. since i told him i was pregnant, i haven't heard a word from him since this past friday on the 19th. what should i do to survive this pregnancy and do u think i can do this alone?
2007-10-21 09:45:33 · 12 answers · asked by Yuna052001 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I am 20 also with 2 kids aged 3 and 10 months. My first was born when i was 17 and i was a single mum for a long time. My 3 yr olds father has never met his child by his choice. Lots of women have babies in all kinds of stages in life and they get by one way or another.
It sounds like your bf is feeling much like you are, shocked and scared. Try to contact him and talk. Tell him how you feel and maybe you can mutually agree to not be in a relationship but to raise the baby together as a team. It is very hard work raising a baby on your own especially without help and support. Have you got a mum/sister/aunt who can support you through a pregnancy, birth and a baby? If you choose to do this alone, you will definatly need to find the help from somewhere and get some proper housing sorted out. Best of luck and my heart is with you, I hope you find the right path to take.
2007-10-21 10:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm a single mother to a 10 1/2 month old and you can do it, too. First thing you need to do is drop the boyfriend. He's not your concern, the baby is. Make sure you get a court order for child support though. If he doesn't want to be there, don't make him. He won't be a positive influence on your child. That doesn't mean he can avoid being financially responsible. Even if he has to get a job flipping burgers, he has to pay his way.
Get yourself a strong support system... family, friends, etc, and you can do it just fine.
2007-10-21 13:07:30 · answer #2 · answered by LolaC☼ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm 20 and pregnant, given mine wasn't planned, yet we are the two very excited and mature adequate to preserve it. in my view I do wish we had gotten married first, yet once you're financially stable adequate and the two mature human beings than it fairly is great (we are). as quickly as you get pregnant it wont even sense such as you're 20 anymore. The down factor is which you permit out out on plenty. i'm due each week before I turn 21, so i in my view wont get to journey my Nineteen Twenties the way maximum human beings do, which contain my boyfriend who's 25 (and he does make early Nineteen Twenties sound exciting). Do it once you're waiting, if being youthful and having that school age journey isn't for you, and your boyfriend is of an analogous opinion, than it fairly is totally your determination.
2016-12-15 05:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really all depends on you. I was 27 when I had my baby and I got separated from my exhusband when my baby was a year old. I was not ready to do this on my own but I learned to cope and became a good mother. I know a lot of younger mothers who could cope better than I could. So its not the age, its the level of maturity and how ready you are. Do not depend on him. Look at it as if the baby was your responsibility and yours alone,. Good luck!
2007-10-21 10:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Daisy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A bsolutely Thousands of woman gave birth without a bf or ahusband But you will have to stop depending on mens and others and take you life in your own hands
2007-10-21 09:56:04 · answer #5 · answered by lala 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
dont bother with him....i am a single 27 year old mother of 2 boys ages 8 & 3 and i am a full time student and i am able to take care of my kids by myself with no kind of support....i got pregnant at 17 & had him at 18 years old.... GOOD LUCK
2007-10-21 09:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
No you are not reaady,And by all means!!!!!!!!!!!!! drop the 20 year old he sounds like hes not ready either, you both need to take a good long look at how you two are doing which looks like to me not too good . good luck honey and good luck with baby youve got to think of it also im not good at giving advice,ut you realy need to think of baby.Yes you can do this alone there is all kinds of help out there
2007-10-21 10:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by crusinana1 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just because you're able to do it doesn't mean you should.
You are not ready. He's not sticking around, and it's not fair for anyone else to have to support your baby. Consider ALL your options and learn your lesson and be smarter in the future.
2007-10-21 13:05:58 · answer #8 · answered by Jessica 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I really don't think you can do this alone. It just sounds like you're setting your child up for a future of food stamps and Goodwill clothing.
2007-10-21 09:58:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
If you are asking yourself this question, then the answer is NO. Perhaps you should have thought of that BEFORE you got pregnant. Birth control is a wonderful thing.
2007-10-21 09:56:41 · answer #10 · answered by bronte heights 6 · 2⤊ 3⤋