friend of mine is 15 and is trying to get in there with a 23 yr old boy. Just askin the world if thats normal and if anyone else has done that age difference at that age.
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2007-10-21 08:49:46 · 54 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-10-21 08:51:59 · answer #1 · answered by dawn666annapolis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that age gap is way too big especially at that age. An age difference that big could work out if they were both older but from 15 to 23 a lot of physical and emotional growth occurs . So no I don't think its normal or even healthy for your friend. I once dated a 19 year old when I was 14 and we were definitely not at the same emotional level
2007-10-21 08:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Yva 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This kind of thing probably happens a lot more than anybody is willing to admit. When I was 23 I definitely found some 15 year old "girls" attractive if they were mature for their age. However soceity is not accepting of that in this age, while it would have been totally normal a couple generations ago.
Your friend needs to be careful not to get in trouble with authorities.
If her parents complain the guy could possibly go to jail IF they can prove they had sex. I.e., no explicit emails or SMSs that can be tracked later (talking about having sex in other words), no pictures, no letters or diary entries talking about it, and DON'T get pregnant no matter what!!!
She also has to wonder what a 23 year old guy has for reasons wanting to date a 15 year old.
2007-10-21 08:54:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First off, a 23 year old is not a boy. Whenever a man (no matter how old) wants to get with a younger GIRL, it's usually for one thing only. Do I have to say it? S-E-X! Talk to her. Tell her that you don't approve (that is if you don't), and if you need to hun, tell your parents. It is illegal so how does that make it ok? Does it seem ok to you that this guy wants to do something he knows is illegal and just doesn't care? If that's the case, how much further do you think he will go? How well do either you or your friend know this guy? What if your friend ends up missing one day? How will that make you feel? You're obviously concerned and uncomfortable with this situation otherwise you wouldn't have asked us. I commend you for your concern and for trying to be a good friend. Just tell her parents, or if it'll make you feel more comfortable, tell your own parents. What ever you do, good luck and take care ☺
2007-10-21 10:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common because 23 year old boys find 15 years old girls dumber when it comes to sex ( easier to con them into it ) .
As long she does not mind being a single mom with no $$$ and bouncing between homeless shelters and friends couches .
Lots of people do it , so that means it would be OK for her to get stuck in the low life trash life ?
Just a radical suggestion , think based on outcomes ,
NOT what all the other lame retards are doing .
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2007-10-21 08:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by kate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in that situation before. BUT I knew that guy only wanted sex and I was stupid enough to go with it. Your friend is likely to get used. Sometimes guys that age will go for younger girls because they think she won't be able to tell the difference on whether or not he sucks in bed, or has a small you-know-what. I'm not trying to diss 23 year olds at all, but from my experiences over the years I know that's what they want from girls that age. She needs to wise up, because she won't know how to not take things for more than they are when she gets involved.
2007-10-21 08:54:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not ok...3 year age distinction isn't the concern. the concern is her age of 12. At 12 SHE is a baby and has no business enterprise with a boy in any respect, extraordinarily one 3 yrs older. while she is eighteen, she would be in a position to this factor somebody 3 yrs older yet no longer now. And by making use of how, if the 15 year previous boy pressures her into intercourse...he is going to reformatory! while i grew to become into 15, i wouldn't in any respect have even seen courting a 12 year previous. i could be too embarrassed if my acquaintances could have found out.
2016-10-07 08:30:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NONONO! wtheck? are you insane? did you grow up in the south? why do you even have to ask? OFCORSE it's not OK!
i'm 25, when i was 14 i was with a 23 yr. old guy. it was called stagitory rape. anyone at that age isn't mentally formed enought to make that kind of decision, that will get hurt and/or pregnent with no one to help them when they do. the guy i was with was still married and had 2 kids, although they were seperated at the time, eventually they got back together...
it's very illegal, completely sick and irresponsible. the only people who go for underagers are immiture people who can't make friends their own age. no one hang out with them BECAUSE they are so immature, so they seek companionship with kids.
around children, the perverted looser feels smart, sexy and strong. it is a mental illness and the kids always grow up and realize what a freak they were spending their time with.
no, it is not ok, it is just an easy way for an adult to feel wanted and smart, when in actuallity, they are neither, they are nothing more than immature perverted con-men who spend their days seducing other peoples babies..
2007-10-21 09:05:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I was 13 my first boyfriend was 21. Thats the same age gap as your friend and her boyfriend.
It really depends on whether he genuinly likes her as a person and doesn't just want to get into her knickers. If he will stand up and be counted with her and tell the world she is his girlfriend, then fine!
But just tell her to watch out. No. 1, this is illegal. No. 2, older men can be very manipulating. Your friend is still a child in the eyes of the law, this will be frowned upon big time.
Just tell her to keep her cool. Good luck.
2007-10-21 08:54:10 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_steph27 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
no 8 year difference there is very big - its like an infant and a four year old -the older you get the more you mature at 15 maturity is not there and a man who wants to be with a 15 year old girl is there for control (to control her and the relationship) he probably could not make it with someone his own age. so my advice to the girl is drop him because you will out grow him fast and when you are 23 he is still gonna like 15 year olds
2007-10-21 08:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not okay, but I think we've all been there. When I was about that age I was obsessed with a 22 year old - of course nothing ever came of it as he was a gent, but that's not to say all men are. Any one of that age willing to get involved with a 15 year old is taking advantage and no good will come of it.
2007-10-21 08:53:34 · answer #11 · answered by niki 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋