its not that i act sluttly or dress slutty just ever since the 6th grade some guys called me a slut just because they felt like it and that was the worst insult they could come up with and then everyone just caught on and now call me a slut. i'm sick of it and i've tried ignoring it and just going along with it but i'm sick and tired of it how can i make them stop and dont tell me just to say stop it or something because i've tried that
2007-10-21 07:18:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
And yahoo is blocking out what i'm trying to say which is s-l-u-t incase you didn't know
2007-10-21 07:18:55 · update #1
If this started at an earlier age, then that means you are a bit more grown up now and so are they. I suggest that you pick out the most 'sensitive' young man in the bunch and ask if you can talk to him alone. Set the time a few hours later, giving him no idea why you would want to talk to him alone. Go for a coke or something after school - alone. When you have him interested enough.... tell him that you picked him out of the group because he acts more mature than the others. Tell him that you've watched him this past year and you see a 'real change' in him. Interact with him when he responds to your compliments. Then tell him that you too have changed, and you need his help. Tell him when you were younger and didn't know any better, you didn't care what people called you, but now, it really matters. Tell him you want people to think good things about you. Then ask him if he would help in making the other guys stop calling you a .............. Tell him that you know that they would listen to him because they respect him - he' their 'role-model.' Just tell him that it really hurts you, and you can't handle this by yourself. Tell him you know he doesn't want to hurt you or anybody! "But, words do hurt...... and I need you.....please."
It is my hope that this young man, inside, wants to grow up too. That the 'bullying' isn't as fun as it use to be. Hopefully he would like for someone (especially a girl) to respect him too. Best of luck!
2007-10-21 07:43:48 · answer #1 · answered by Mercedes 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well you can't control or change other people but you can change yourself. Try projecting the image of a wholesome girl, a goody two shoes so that it attracts attention in the opposite direction and makes them foolish in saying it.
Also if it is kind of a weird nameplay for them you know the old saying, "if you can't beat them, Join them" Get a notepad and anyone who calls you that gets one warning and then a new name, something as equally hurtful until they get the hint.
Another thing you can do is play along, Id just say I'm not a slut their free and you can't afford me or yeah ok, I'm a slut but only on my good day and today ain't my good day so stop dreaming.
I think if you fight fire with fire eventually the flame will die down but if you continue to take it then it never will.
Last resort, avoid these people and make friends with some self discipline and wits to learn you don't like it and mean business.
2007-10-21 22:32:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that it's good advice to call them names back and tel them you wont sleep with them and they are jelous. Know that they are, but be nice to everyone, smile and take it as a complement because you are obviously prettyer than them and they are envious of your clothes. It's not the worst insult in the world, trust me. boys calling you a sl ut is because they fancy you.
2007-10-21 15:11:07 · answer #3 · answered by Geisha VT poser 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is an old saying: "Where there's smoke, there's fire" You can:
1. Ignore them
2. Change schools
3. Take a good look at yourself and ask yourself why the name has stuck with you.
2007-10-21 14:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Tira Misu 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know it may be wrong, but it's time to fight back. When someone calls you a slu+, Your comeback, "You call me that because I won't do you, no matter how much you beg!" Putting it back on them will make people think.
2007-10-21 14:26:08 · answer #5 · answered by mediahoney 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Dude, fight back. Bring in the administrator into this if you want. Make a giant upheaval, and make it good :D Fighting back isn't always the answer, but it is DAMN well affective.
-Ryko
2007-10-21 15:55:56 · answer #6 · answered by xxx 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Calling you that name is sexual harrassment, and you don't have to put up with it. Report them to the administration immediately.
2007-10-21 17:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by missbeans 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
honestly these idiots need some one to tech them a lesson.
try and get some guy friends to intimidate them or if you have any male relatives try getting them to "talk" to them , if you know what i mean.
2007-10-21 15:07:02 · answer #8 · answered by nikky 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋