I'm 20 and getting married in the end of January. All of my friends are off to college and I dont really have any close relatives. My sister lives 9 hours away from me and I doubt my mom would throw me one. My sister just got married and I threw her one, my church threw her one, her husbands church threw her one, and her mother in law & aunts in law threw her one. I dont mean to have a pity party but.. seriously... no one is going to throw a bridal party for me. I think that is really depressing and sad!! I know its not the focal point of getting married... but wouldnt that make you sad? So how tacky would it be if I lined one up? I don't know how much I like the idea of doing that but uhhhh.... I just wish I had family that cared about me... what do you think?
2007-10-21 06:57:27 · 20 answers · asked by Blessed to be a Mama! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I dont need a bridal shower its fine.. it was just a question I wasnt going to plan one it was just a thought. All of my friends are at college, my sister is 9 hours away, my fiance's family is 6 hours away. Oh well ... and I'm not throwing myself a pity party.. just curious.
2007-10-21 07:41:40 · update #1
I feel sad for you, but throwing your own shower would appear really lame and perhaps you would feel a little humiliated by doing so. I honestly dont think you would feel comfortable and enjoy yourself.
Keep hoping, maybe someone is planning something. If not, maybe have a quiet word in your sisters ear about how it is making you sad. Maybe she will then talk to your mother and things will happen. Good luck. I hope it works out.
2007-10-21 09:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Bridal showers usually take place one month before the wedding date. You have a few months to go. Your Maid of Honor, or Matron of Honor and Bridesmaids should be the ones to hostess a Bridal shower for you. I think you are getting nervous for nothing. Even though they are still away at school, by the time they return home for the holidays they will have one for you. DO NOT plan your own Bridal Shower. It is in poor taste, it is tacky, and is against the rules of etiquette. Relax, be patient -- your showers will start happening soon enough. You are feeling sorry for yourself for nothing. Cheer Up! You are marrying the man of your dreams! Concentrate on your future hubby, plan your honemoon, have fun ... and relax.
2016-05-24 00:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by noemi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
I feel for you....I really do...it's sad. However, you CANNOT plan and throw your own bridal shower...it would not be proper etiquette.
Question? Are you having any attendants? Bridesmaids? Where I live, the bridesmaids plan and host the shower for the bride. Don't you think your sister will reciprocate with a shower if you threw her one? Just curious.
What about the groom's family? It doesn't necessarily need to be the bride's family and/or friends that host this. It can certainly be an aunt, etc. from the groom's side. What about your future mother-in-law? Again, it's really not proper etiquette that one of the "moms" host the shower, but, again, it's done where I live.
Good luck to you!
2007-10-21 07:14:09 · answer #3 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
It would be in bad taste to throw yourself a bridal shower. Do you have a bridal party or a maid of honor? Even though your friends live far away, that doesn't mean they won't be giving you a shower, and if not that won't be the end of the world. You could always have a housewarming party after the wedding, and could get gifts that way. Don't be sad, consider yourself lucky that you found a good guy to marry and try to focus on that! :-)
2007-10-21 07:47:32 · answer #4 · answered by JEM 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you :-(
However, I agree with everyone else. You're not supposed to throw yourself a bridal shower. I think you should go bridezilla at this point. Tell your sister that since you threw her one, she should return the favor. If your friends were true friends, they'd come home for you and your special time. If you don't get one, then don't feel bad about it. I didn't have one and I still had the bestest wedding ever!! :-) I'm sure the same will happen to you. Good luck!!
2007-10-21 07:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
I'm married now and I never got a bridal shower either. It was very dissapointing, even now. My MOH was on a budget and a tight schedule I felt bad about asking her to throw one for me. Maybe you could ask some of your college friends to put one together for you during their winter break. What better time to get friends and family together than during the holidays? Even a small one would be nice.
2007-10-21 08:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by mysteryperson 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's actually rude for your to plan your own shower.
It should be a non-relative who volunteers to host it. Family members are also not supposed to host it (the exception being a shower inviting family only).
You don't need to have a wedding shower. It's not required. Plenty of people don't have one-- and nowadays when so many people already have anything, it's becoming a redundant tradition (showers are for people who need HELP setting up their household).
You can plan a different type of party, like a bridal tea, or ladies night out (or in). But a shower, by definition, means gifts are required-- it's rude to tell others they must gift you, that's why you cannot throw your own shower. You can only throw non-gifting parties for yourself.
2007-10-21 07:27:05 · answer #7 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
How do you know that NO ONE will throw you a shower. It is supposed to be a surprise... If you threw a shower for your sis I would think that she would reciprocate. You have his family as well - and you don't know what their intentions will be - Good things will happen for good people... You sound like a good person - so do not worry about it. I would not throw my own shower no matter what - I would rather buy my own items needed for the new marriage than to do this. Good luck to you - I have a gut feeling that you will be pleasantly surprised.
2007-10-21 07:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by Monica 2 · 6⤊ 0⤋
It is sad sweetie but you can't throw your own bridal shower - that's like throwing your own surprise birthday party. The point of a bridal shower is getting gifts and so if you throw it yourself, you might as well sky write "please give me gifts!!!!" in the sky! It's considered very rude and tacky. Unfortunately, you're going to have to limit yourself to just hinting around to a few family members and your sister about having a bridal shower. If they don't get a clue, then unfortunately, you'll just have to settle for getting gifts as wedding gifts instead of as a shower gift.
2007-10-21 07:01:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
So sorry sweetie. You can not politely throw your own bridal shower.
But.....Have faith! People bring gifts to weddings. The same people that would have been invited to your bridal shower (if you had one) will be at your wedding. They will bring their gifts to you there. Just keep smiling and wait. They won't forget you!!!! This is going to work out beautifully.
2007-10-21 07:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Ayliann 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋