all he does is just waste time on something esle than to talk to me or even see me.We always see eachother at night like at 10 or so just bc he's parents are sleepin. also he says he wants to marry me but it seems if he doesnt hav time for me right now but will it make different once we get marry or will he still be the same ?? ????any good advice????
2007-10-21 06:47:27 · 8 answers · asked by ViRY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we been together for almost 3yrs
2007-10-21 06:49:55 · update #1
we're both 19 and im not playin with him hidden O'seek thats for little kids
oh and i see him without of his parents knowing bc they dnt like me. once i call at 10pm which is not so bad not THAT LATE and his dad said i shouldnt call him no more i told my bf and he said his dad is right bc is his house
2007-10-21 06:59:25 · update #2
a helpful answer depends on what you want out of your life ViRY.
Sexual attraction is not long term love. Long term love may not be sexual attraction. You have to make the call yourself as to what you feel your life and investment is worth to you.
If you want a "marriage" that is the same as it is now, then by all means continue on this path. You will get what you are getting now.
If you want to suffer the pains of letting him go for the hope of something better for yourself, a more complete relationship, then you have your answer.
People show you who they are and if we don't believe them and take them at that, if we think we can change them, or somehow be better or maybe make them feel better about us or themselves or their relationships to one another, we're in for "sorrow's road". It ain't happening. They are who they are already.
He will be the same, so will his parents and that will make a huge powerful, painful mark in your life forever. When and if kids come along, it will be a disaster.
Marry him, marry his family and his history. Not fair but it's true nonetheless.
Take care of you girl.
2007-10-21 13:48:59 · answer #1 · answered by autumlovr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't walk, RUN. This guy is disrespectful of you. You don't say how old you and he are but no matter, if he can only see you when his parents are asleep, there's something very dishonest about that. Why can't you be at his house or yours when everyone is awake? This doesn't make any sense. Oh, and it's a good indication that he has no intention of ever marrying you. Wake up! and get away from him. Find someone who is proud of you and treats you well.
2007-10-21 06:54:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hm, To me this sounds like.. Your a great girl, but he's making a big risk by loosing you to his selfish wants and needs. He might love you inside but he's doing a poor job showing it, so it seems. If he doesn't have time for you now.. He doesn't need you later. . It's best to let him go now before he really breaks your heart. Find someone who deserves it.
2007-10-21 06:53:02 · answer #3 · answered by zombie_f_o_o_d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is something wrong with this picture!!!!
Dump him--Marriage would make it worse, you would be taken for granted even more, sounds like a sick-o to me.
2007-10-21 06:53:53 · answer #4 · answered by jenny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then he is not right for you....you want a man that wants to be with you everyday for the rest of your life....
Dump him and fast
2007-10-21 06:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by jilly_bean_purple 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like if u marry him he's going to cheat on u anyway
2007-10-21 06:51:35 · answer #6 · answered by blaaah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like you are to young for marriage
2007-10-21 07:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by batgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget abou him for a while and see if he returns to you back, you are not gonna lose anything, try it
2007-10-21 06:52:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋