As i find its hindering my progress with life in general im 24. I have trouble on social gatherings talking to guys please help and give me some advice on how to change. I havent got many friends and dont seem to be making any either
2007-10-21 06:02:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
maybe large social gatherings aren't your thing. many people just like to hang out in small groups of people. however, if you can't make friends to start with then you should probably go to those social gatherings. make it your goal to meet one new person every time. if that goes well then try meeting two new people.
before you go, think up some good small talk questions to ask people. also, if its hard for you to talk about yourself then practice answering your own "small talk" questions so your ready for when people ask you.
remember, not everyone has to be the "life of the party" sometimes its just more fun for people to hang out in small groups. just be yourself.
hope this helps!
2007-10-21 06:16:09 · answer #1 · answered by ...... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im having exactly the same problem as you, Im 23 and painfully shy and find social interactions very difficult so much so that I avoid going out a lot of the time. I cant offer much help but what Im hoping to do is seek councelling as I tried it for a while and found my confidence slowly started to increase, start working again and maybe do an evening course (with a view of hoping to go to college). As for talking to guys just be yourself and dont worry about being shy, someone special will see the inner qualities in you and like you for you!
2007-10-21 12:19:11 · answer #2 · answered by NightOwl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Practise becoming fascinated by other people. Ask them about themselves, and concentrate when they answer you. Remember what they tell you about themselves so you can talk about it later, or on another occasion.
Great socialisers make other people feel comfortable and interesting. How do they do that? By being really, genuinely interested in other people. If you are talking to someone and you feel boring or inferior, ask why that is. Is it really all your fault?
Practise using fewer 'personal pronouns' when you talk about things. Sentences beginning with 'I' are not only a turn-off for the listener, they also keep the focus of attention on you, which increases shyness. (Note: Of course, part of friendship is giving away things about yourself, but only when you feel it is appropriate to do so.)
Remember that the way to overcome shyness is to focus elsewhere. Like on imagining what it will be like to really enjoy the social event, on how it will feel to be full of energy, or to be having a great conversation with someone.
The exercises and techniques contained within the Self Confidence Course should help with shyness because they focus on what to do to feel confident, rather than how to avoid feeling shy.
Overcoming shyness is about doing the things that allow you to enjoy social situations, not wondering why you feel shy! Good luck and I hope this article has been useful.
2007-10-25 03:38:32 · answer #3 · answered by P4P KING 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not totally over my shyness yet, but I'm working on it. I got a job working to teach little kids how to swim, and I tutor after school. It is a lot easier to start talking to children younger then you, when they look up to you. Little by little it is easier to start talking to people your own age. I made it through all of preschool without saying a single word. Now I am not the most talkative person in the world, but I have started talking to my acquaintances, rather than just my close friends. I feel as if I have made a lot of progress and I hope I continue to make progress.
2007-10-21 06:17:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that I was shy, and I feel shy at times now. Start small, like talking to one person, then more than one. I took a speech class and that helped a lot. It was scary, but I did get over parts of my anxiety about being in front of others. I give talks now and find I do best if I know the topic well.
2007-10-22 06:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Simmi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-02-11 07:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start by making small talk in stores with the cashiers. Hi, hows your day going. Just lil things like that day to day will help you, and then once you can say that with ease, try getting a longer conversation going.
2007-10-21 06:16:15 · answer #7 · answered by Redbull 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself! I'm usually shy untill the people start talking and then I'm really outgoing. Don't worry about what people think about you or any of that. Just be yourself, smile, and try to make friends!
2007-10-21 06:10:09 · answer #8 · answered by St. Louis Cardinals Fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-06-21 02:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-21 06:32:13 · answer #10 · answered by chandrasekharam b 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋