My boyfriend is a wonderful man and we have had a brilliant relationship for over five years, but I have a crush on a collegue. He likes me too but is also in a relationship. I don't know if it's just jitters or if I'm with the wrong man.
2007-10-21 05:52:16 · 8 answers · asked by Jenny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
People get innocent crushes and they pass. If you want to move in on your collegue, have the decency to break up with your "boyfriend" (I notice you say you're due to get married but do not call him your fiance or hubby-to-be). Maybe you need more time to mature before you settle down with one person for the rest of your life.
2007-10-21 06:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Asked and Answered 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to say, keep away from the other man, because objectively speaking, you have to think about the what if's. If your wedding jitters go beyond asking yourself if it's really time, especially since in this case, a third person is involved, it might be wise to evaluate your thoughts on this other man. Is it a real crush? Or is it because the wedding is making you run a list of men through your mind who could possibly be the right guy, other than your current boyfriend?
2007-10-21 13:12:46 · answer #2 · answered by Booyah! 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think to a certain point it is just human nature to have some level of attraction to the opposite sex....BUT at the same time, I believe when you are TRULY in love with someone, you can't see anyone else but that person in THAT way. I am so in love with my boyfriend I could never even think of another man that way. I want him to be the last man to ever touch me. Now that doesn't mean I don't ever take notice of a nice looking man, but I know for sure where my heart is and always will be. Just think about it. I find most of the time when we are brutally honest with ourselves the answer is always there deep down, facing it can be the hard part. Could you imagine life without him? Follow your heart sweetie. Good luck!!!
2007-10-21 13:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by rumrunner 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am getting married in July. In the four years i have been with my man, I have not looked or even thought of another man. Ever. No interest whatsoever. I have all the man I need right here.
I think you need to distance yourself from this other man. Take a weekend away, a romantic weekend with your fiance. Focus only on each other...Fall in love all over again.
Then see how you feel when you get back.
2007-10-21 16:50:35 · answer #4 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should refrain from seeing this other man for a while....since you are putting yourself in a bad position by hanging out with someone you have a crush on...
2007-10-21 12:56:42 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me when I say this, do not pursue the other guy. Disaster is waiting. The grass is always greener on the other side.
2007-10-21 13:38:52 · answer #6 · answered by pumper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you asked that question it is apparent that you may not be ready to get married.
2007-10-21 13:54:27 · answer #7 · answered by P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking that on here then you shouldn't get married, to anyone, ever!
2007-10-21 12:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by Manbearpig 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋