Its like whatever he pretty much ask me to do i do it know matter what it is ,but its like he does not do the some thing for me in turn. I do things for him outer the kindness of my heart, beacuse i love him very much , but he does not do the some thing in turn. should i keep on doing things for him?
2007-10-21 05:26:07 · 16 answers · asked by Alyssa B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweet for him, he's got a personal servant. You've already seen the difference between how he treats you and how you treat him, how much longer do you want to put up with it? Why? What message aren't you getting? I don't care what his mouth says, he doesn't value you. You need to move on. It's great that you're learning this now, some women don't see this kind of thing for years, and live sad desperate lives.
Add: and for God's sake, don't listen to peeps telling you to have an affair to "change" him. If he loved you, he would give to you from wanting to. Not because he is forced. He may even be an OK person, but what you've got on your hands is an unsustainable relationship. Don't lower yourself to try to get him to act the way you want him to. When someone truly loves you, they WANT to do things for you. Don't set yourself up for a long term relationship of trying to force him to care when he just doesn't.
2007-10-21 05:32:37 · answer #1 · answered by Caper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does ur guy know ur heart deep down by his behaviour? Does he love u the same as u love him?? Try to answere these questions then i...if u can just talk to him. Cuz i belive if u talk to him....may be he will relaize that he is hurting u. He might change his behavior...but only if u talk. Guys can never guess like us girls...u should let them know.
Or else try ignoring the work that u do for him for few days. Then when he ask u "y didn't u do it?"...jsut reply by saying "Do u ever do that for me???" ......But PLS DONT GET INTO A FIGHT!! All the best gul!!
2007-10-21 05:35:28 · answer #2 · answered by Lissa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OhMy. G**. Where is pest controL?
It cud be either that he is like that in nature or that he doesnt understand ur love
hmp. i ll presume that u r a teenager.!<>!
plz dont pay too much attention towards him. i knw that it is what boys demand but when they get it they turn away. Stupid as they r. huh. .. jst limit ur attention scale, make him WANT frm u. u sud not b too polite and do the things he asks and NOT asks of u before time.
!! SoMe pPl sUd B bAnNEd _ _ _ _ _ !!
2007-10-21 05:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep away from him for few days not too long, sorry it might difficult for you but do it. if he really loves u he wll understand wt u expect.
Love is all about full filling expectations. If he does'nt fight with him, hurt him but dont stop to luv him because u luv him and he luvs u. From now onwords dont say wt u do, what u think , feel, ur luv to him, just hide from him it automatically brings him back.
If he was happy he hever think abt u, if he is unhappy he need some to take care of him and that u buddy so dont make him unhappy and convince him and make him happy it all abt love.
2007-10-21 05:36:18 · answer #4 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you should confront him. If he can't give you a straight answer like...."Im sorry baby I did not realize that I was doing this." Then hes just a lazy f#cker and you should find someone new. But in his diffence are you sure your not overlooking the things he does for you? A lot of women tend to do that.
2007-10-21 05:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Hate the ignorant 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop doing things for him and find some one else. Anyone who asks you to do things for him and doesn't do things for you in return may well be just a user and you may someday find yourself working while he stays home drinking beer and watching television. you are only half of a good relationship and you need to find the other half, the person who will do things for you in return for you doing things for him as well often without either of you asking.
2007-10-21 05:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no your acting like a door mat, no offense, it takes two to make a relationship work, but sounds like your trying to make it work alone, don't let him walk all over you tell him get off his backside and fight for the woman he supposedly loves
2007-10-21 05:34:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Explain how you feel to him like you just did us hope it gets worked out for you sweetie =P
2007-10-21 06:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by ღKrissyღ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if u do stuff in utter kindness then u shouldnt b thinking that he needs to do stuff 4 u in return wat u should do is maby ask 4 him 2 do a couple of favors 2
2007-10-21 05:41:41 · answer #9 · answered by tamara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, tell him that you feel he isn't being very cool with you, and he needs to do things for you too. If that doesn't work, seriously dump him, or cheat on him to get his attention.
2007-10-21 05:31:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋