okay, me and this guy have had sex about twice now and i was a virgin before we had sex. We arent dating, but we are attracted to each other. I have commitment issues first of all, and once, i brought up the fact that we arent dating but having sex and he asked me if i wanted to date and i said no. But now i feel like i shouldn't really be sleeping with him if we arent at least committed in a relationship. I think he likes me because he tries to respect my wishes. I told him i need to be appreciated after sex so he holds me close and strokes my hair afterwards. Does that show he cares about me? because the first time he just wanted to go to sleep afterwards and i gave him hell about it so he changed the second time. He told me that he cares about me alot but i just dont believe him and i think he is talking to other girls. How can i make him committed to me, do you think he only wants sex from me? should i stop having sex with him until he commits to a relationship? thanks
2007-10-21 05:13:15 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you're feeling used, chances are good you are. Please stop sleeping with this guy until he can decide on having a relationship with you. If he suddenly changes his tune, it's all about the sex. If he treads lightly, he's in it for the relationship. If he instantly bolts, you were nothing more than a piece of meat to him.
Guys typically are not cuddlers after sex. My husband likes to roll over and get his zzzs. Sex is natural Nytol for men. He does kiss me goodnight of course but generally for us, once it's done, zzzzzzzzzz. Learn to accept this fact and you won't be so easily pissed the next time you have sex. Preferably in solid, committed relationship of course.
I commend you for knowing that a casual sexual relationship is not something you really want and that you prefer commitment from this guy. Shows you have a good head on your shoulders. Follow your instincts. They know what's up. Do what is best for emotionally. Sex is a 5-minute pleasure that fades.
Good luck to you!
2007-10-21 05:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok by saying that you don't want to date him and you continue to have sex with you basically just said i'm here for sex when you and i need it and maybe you should talk to him about it maybe he'll still want to and he only does that because you got on to him about it and he probably think that if he doesn't you'll be mad at him and won't do it anymore
2007-10-21 05:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by rae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I dont think you should be having sex with him if you dont have a relationship or a committment. what is that anyway just booty calls?
2007-10-21 05:17:03 · answer #3 · answered by Aloha_Ann 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋