I am a junior in college and I never go out. I have the same friends from high school and we are slowly growing apart. I have met aquaintances but no friends while in college. I have also not dated anyone since high school. All the good guys seem to be taken. I long to meet someone because I think I am driving my family crazy because I always confide in them and I refuse to confide in my friends. A few days ago in one of my classes, we were taking about dating guys. (its a womens health class...) Most of the girls were shocked when they learned that I have never said I love you to a guy before. Is that so wrong??? I never go out or meet people because I seem to have to study a million times more than anyone else. School has never been easy for me. I dont deserve to go out, especially this semester since I am failing. What should I do???
2007-10-21 05:07:02 · 12 answers · asked by that one girl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not a looser, you have not proved yourself till date that's the point.
If you haven't dated, that's not a big deal, same here and I am fine with it.
Explore your potential and prove it. I have also realized that its important to make friends, we learn we grow with them.
If you think you are failing this semester, see what needs to be done because a winner is proud of what she has done and challenges herself of what needs to be done.
2007-10-21 05:51:23 · answer #1 · answered by Goldman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop fretting!
First of all school should always come first. You have to the rest of your life to date guys and the fact that you haven't said 'I Love You' to anyone is no big deal. Without patronizing anyone, I seriously doubt the majority of high school students actually know what love is anyway, albeit I'm sure they think they do!
'Real love' is something very special and is very rarely found dating just the one person. Don't be in such a rush to grow up, I know it's often hard when you are the only one not dating but believe me, if love is meant to be it has a strange way of appearing when you least expect it.
If you are not doing very well with grades then you should maybe ask yourself whether extra study time will actually help that. Everybody is different and I got extremely rubbish grades yet because I had the will to do something with my life, bad grades never stopped me from doing what I wanted.
I'm not saying don't worry about your grades I'm simply saying that you need to take a little time out to enjoy yourself whether socializing or whatever, otherwise you will just get more depressed with it all.
2007-10-21 05:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to go out and have fun occasionally. That is every womans right, even if you go out by yourself you still may have fun. Try to set up a study plan at the beginning of every week and make sure you get it done so you have time to go out if you want to. In college making friends and going out is not your main concern. Focus on school and graduate, and afterwards you can try to make all of the friends that you want and go out all the time. Try to talk to your admissions counselor also to see if they can give you any tips to help you with your grades. You are not a loser, it sounds like you have your priorities in place. Never saying "I love you" to a guy does not mean anything bad, thats actually a good thing becuaseit seems like you know what love is,so you will love a guy you will not be fooled when you find it.
2007-10-21 05:13:23 · answer #3 · answered by beautifulstl86 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, go to a health food store and get some DMAE which is an all natural substance with no side effects and is shown to improve memory and concentration and that will help you with your grades and studying.
Then don't worry about saying that you love someone until you find the one that you do. They may have said that to someone but it has been shown that many times a romance or relationship that begins in college has little chance of long term success because of the change in life style between student and graduate in your chosen field. The rate of divorce among those studying law or medicine who married while still in school was over 80% in one study that I read about.
The DMAE will help with your studying and grades -I take it myself now and then and every student I have recommended it to has thanked me. you won't feel and different but you will find your memory improved and answers to questions on tests easier - and perhaps then you will find that you have time to go out and meet people but keep working on the school work and remember that in the story of the tortoise and the rabbit, it was the tortoise who was happier in the end because he did not give up but kept going. Good luck to you!
2007-10-21 05:24:10 · answer #4 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start studying and once you get your grades up, just spot some cool people and just start hanging out with them
i only go to middle school and for me right now looks dont really matter unless you wear the same clothes everyday
so it depends on how you look as well
and dont confide in family you said you have friends confide in them
if they are drifting away just call them or try to make plans too hang out with them more
once you get out of college it will probably much easier for you to find a guy
and dont go to online websites im pretty sure those rarely work if you wanna meet some guy
2007-10-21 05:12:27 · answer #5 · answered by xxXenonxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, No, no! You are not a loser. You may feel like one now, but when you graduate, you will be the smart one, when all the other students who partied, are out there living job to job and having no "fun" time, you will be in your well paying job with time to spend. Keep your head in those books, why I'm in High-school and I am the same as you, except I have to fight to be allowed to go anywhere, even for a few hours. Good Luck!
2007-10-21 05:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't panic! It sounds as if you need to get out and meet new people and broaden your social circle more. We all change as we get older, its natural. Is there any groups at your college where you can meet others who share the same interests as you? Why do you thing you don't deserve to go out? You are beating yourself up, amking yourself feel worst than you already do but you are the only person who can change things. Hope this helps in some way.
Blessings
2007-10-21 05:13:36 · answer #7 · answered by Witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you aren't going to make friends unless you go out in order to meet them.
Start talking to people in your classes and see if they want to hang out one night. And yes, you do deserve to go out because staying in all the time is causing you to have these thoughts and think you are a "loser" (which you aren't).
2007-10-21 05:09:58 · answer #8 · answered by Madison 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your degree. You are about 21 years old and you act like you're 40! Get your degree, get a great job and the men will be beating down your door to get to you. Your life is not over. It's just beginning. There is lots and lots of time to find a great guy yet. I promise!
2007-10-21 05:09:56 · answer #9 · answered by Aiden 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a tutor because you don't want to fail college. Then worry about relationships.
2007-10-21 05:11:03 · answer #10 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋