My boyfriend of 3 years keeps standing me up. Its not like once in a while either, its like out of 5 times we are supposed to see each other, he will stand me up 3 times. Everytime I confront him about it, he always says that he has many things to do and other responsibilities that he has to take care of but he loves me so much. He has stood me up so much that I have dumped him the past because of it but took him back because he says that he loves me and would not do anything to hurt me. If an emergency situation came up or he had to work late then I would totally understand but thats usually not the case. He is either hanging out with his friends or falls asleep but either way I'm so tired of it and he will not stop no matter what I say. He has even tried to turn it around on me and make it seem like I'm wrong for being upset that he keeps standing me up with no phone call. I have even planned many romantic evenings only to get stood up. What should i do because i'm so sad?
2007-10-21 04:15:21 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In the past it didn't bother me much that he stood me up because we were not seriously dating but since we have been exclusive it hurts me. I only get to see him like once a week as it is so when he stands me up I know I won't see him for like another week. I want to dump him for good since I have pleaded with him about this in the past but he says he will not do it anymore and still does it. I don't want to keep confronting him about it because it feels like I'm nagging him but what about my feelings? I have thought about just seeing other people but if I say that to him, he will just flipping back on me and make it seem like I'm being cold hearted.
2007-10-21 04:20:14 · update #1
I have another question, what is a good way of dumping a person? If it would another man that i didn't like as much I would just blow him off but this guy is a smooth gemini and he can manipulate a conversation. He will also probably pop up or call after I dump him to see if he can change my mind, how do I deal with that? How do I break up with him and really stick with it?
2007-10-21 04:30:46 · update #2
While this is going on, you should preoccupy yourself with a new man or many. You'll have lots of boyfriends to chose from when your main squeeze stands you up.
2007-10-21 04:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sals-A-Wals 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are so sad, and have been many times in the past, shows that he is not very good at keeping you happy. It does take strength to stay sometimes. despite how quick everyone is to encourage you to leave and couples to get divorced. However, this is not a marriage, this is a relationship that you can walk away from with no problems and I didn't hear you mention any kids, which makes it all the more easier.
You obviously love him too, so that's why you are asking if you should leave for the 2nd time, eventhough you've given him a chance to do better. "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me", if you catch my drift. He doesn't sound like a dog or anything, just too preoccupied with other things. That's o.k too, becasue sometimes life, requires alot of our time and attention (outside of relationships). That's where he is in his life, but you are in the market for someone who can demonstrate that he has SOME time for you, and wont always leave you on the back burner. If he doesn't have time for a relationship, then move on and find someone who does. Period. Quit taking him back after a few days and a few sorry @ss phone call. Saying you love someone and proving it, are two different things. Show him you're serious, that's the only way he will change, you have to prove to him that you already have. Best wishes!
-Knowledge24
2007-10-21 11:26:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump him. For good. That's the only way he's gonna learn. He can change his habit of standing you up. It's not that hard. But it's gonna take someone showing him just how wrong he is to change him. Taking him back over and over again isn't going to help, because he knows that you'll keep taking him back. Once he loses you, he'll know he screwed up. And you'll be able to move on.
2007-10-21 11:23:53 · answer #3 · answered by Dizzler9347598 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So,, Why do you keep putting up with it,, the more you allow it to happen the more hes gonna do it,, hes a guy,, hes probably out messin around on you with some little tramp across town,, Its nice having someone in life to love,, but at what cost to your own emotions,, Kick his a $ $ to the curb and move on,, you can find happiness,, they say there is someone for everyone,, I believe it too,, except for me,, I dont think I will find anyone to put up with and accept me as I am,, but you will and can,, Just Do It
2007-10-21 11:24:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's bored. Three years is a long time, so he's probably cheating. Sorry honey but I think you need to tell him how you feel and if it continues break up with him
2007-10-21 11:21:06 · answer #5 · answered by sickelsie3 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What do you want help with? You can't change him. You either live with it and accept him for who he is, or you dump him and find another person.
2007-10-21 11:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like much of a boy friend to me.He sounds like a BIG loser,Time to move on.
2007-10-21 11:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by glenda w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you deserve better than that. Dump him, get yourself someone who will respect, and treat you like the lady you sound like. Remember what I said, YOU DESERVE BETTER THAN THAT. Good luck.
2007-10-21 11:24:58 · answer #8 · answered by soisitok 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously has no respect for you and you keep allowing it to happen because you keep accepting his excuses and taking him back...and, doing nothing about it. I suggest you ditch the loser.
2007-10-21 11:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by CC 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with everyone else. he doesn't respect you. tell him if he loves you he would be with you every chance he could get.
2007-10-21 11:23:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋