Is it weird? Do I need help? I want a long term relationship and have a child. I know all the disadvantages of having a baby underage but still want one.
2007-10-21 04:00:49 · 12 answers · asked by The Wonderful Me 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's very normal for a teenager to want a lasting relationship and children but you need to put your priorities in order so that you do the things necessary before you have the relationship and the child. A good education is an absolute necessity in order to learn as much as possible and set the stage so you can have a career that will make you financially stable. You need maturity so that you can understand the responsibilities a commitment to a life-long partner calls for. You need to take the time to find someone to love who will love you and have the same dreams and goals as you. Someone who will stay the course when life has its speed bumps and mountains to climb. You need to plan for a child together. You must be in agreement on the commitment to the child.
So you are not weird. You do, however, need help to realize that in order to make your life the best for you, your future mate and your child, you must get your priorities in order and build a good foundation first.
2007-10-21 05:08:00 · answer #1 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you become a father you have great responsibilities to the child. It's education, medical, emotional, physical and any problems that it may encounter for the rest of the child's life. A puppy is a great deal of work and must be cared for and cherished as long as it lives. A child lives much longer and is not always loving and giving.
Having a child does not guarantee it will be loving towards you....ever. Wait until you have the financial, emotional and intellect to take care of yourself before embarking on parenthood. It is an honor and obligation that you can not quit just because it proves difficult. Keep it as a dream and goal you are working toward for another fifteen years and plan to be the best parent you can be.....and you will still sometimes come up short.
2007-10-21 04:15:56 · answer #2 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's normal...I remember thinking the same things when I was 15! I think we always think we know what we want and that we want things when it probably is not the best thing for us. I wanted a long term relationship and a baby at 15 also...well, it didn't actually happen until I was 27. So, you never know what will happen in life!! Just try to make the best choices for your life and that is the only advice I'd give. I would tell my kids the same. You learn from your mistakes!!
2007-10-21 04:21:33 · answer #3 · answered by lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 15 years old, you are still a child,and not yet responsible enough to have long term relationships and children. How are you planning on supporting this baby you want? You have plenty of time for long term relationships and children. You are still way to young to be thinking about that now.
2007-10-21 04:06:46 · answer #4 · answered by Chihuahua Addict Adores Scooby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not normal. I suggest counseling to figure out what you are missing that is causing this irresponsible idea. Perhaps you feel like you are not loved enough or you have a fear of being alone. There are many reasons that could be causing this irrational thought and I strongly suggest for your sake and the sake of any possible children that you find resolution to your own problems before bringing a new life into a cold world.
2007-10-21 04:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes everyone wants that,. exspeccially kids in your age ,usually they are missing something at home and want something for their own to love unconditionally .
But finnish school first and get a good job , so that way you will be able to take car of a small family .
Right now how would you do that ? Will your parents support the baby with their money?
take your time and think it over.
2007-10-21 04:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You asked, if it is NORMAL. Yes, it is normal. Is it common? No, it is not.... I'd say it is little unusual, but there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with being little unusual.
It is perfectly fine and healthy to want things. After all, if you have no desire of anything, how could you possibly have a need or urge to learn and better yourself? But please remember, it is quite another to put it into practice. At your age, you are not ready for quite many things, and having a family is one of them. I'd say, this is a good time to further your education and prepare yourself so when you become ready for your family, you have a solid basis for providing good life for your family.
Good luck.
2007-10-21 04:12:04 · answer #7 · answered by tkquestion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could be caused by a lot of things,,,,,current family situation maybe......................just get out a pen and paper and figure out (honestly) how you will be able to afford a child(Mom will pay is not an answer) and look at what you will gain and what you will loose now and when your 25 or 30...........and what will happen to your child
2007-10-21 04:12:48 · answer #8 · answered by richard t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just a baby, you need to talk to someone about this.
2007-10-21 04:08:57 · answer #9 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Every 15 year old is different. If you are like this, if this is what you want, it's ok and perfectly normal.
Good luck.
2007-10-21 04:50:43 · answer #10 · answered by Analyst 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋