How did you agree with your spouse on the costs for your wedding?

Question

My fiance wants a lavish reception costing several thousand pounds with guests I don't even know. I think we could put the money to better use. How do you compromise?

Answer 1

He just did as he was told I'm afraid!
"For a quiet life" Lol!!

Answer 2

You may not know the guests, but he does. He has a right to invite those people as well. While it's good to want to save money, this also is a one time deal.

I had to compromise on this too. I wanted something small, he wants something big (we are to marry in March). The reason being is because he is the first of three children to get married and he wants to honor his parents. We are paying for the whole thing ourselves, but for him this is about honor. I won't know many of the guests either. But, I agreed because I understood where he came from. So, I compromised and let him go all out.

Find out why he wants something so lavish. Maybe there is a reason behind it. You can also do some cut backs on the cost. For example, do your own invitations, your own bouquets, your own decorations.

Answer 3

We based our budget on what we knew our friends in the same area had pulled off. We also talked to my parents, since they're fronting most of the bill.

If you and your fiance are paying for it though, and you have the money to spend on a big wedding, then I'd probably start looking into big prices of the things you know you want (location, catering, dress) and for the things that you can get away with something less, go for it! The cost will vary so much on the guest list though. We had to consider the location and my desires, as the bride! I don't want a big wedding with a lot of people we don't know... so we put a limit on it. We capped it at 200. He can invite 100 (his parents 50, himself 50) and the same goes for my side. That way it's not about who is inviting more or less people.

I hope this helps... and as a general rule, the guest list and getting things rolling with budget are some of the most stressful parts! Once you get going with the details and planning, it gets so much more fun!

Hope you enjoy it!

Congratulations!!

Answer 4

sit down and each write a list of 3 things that you MUST have in the wedding. ex: professional photographer, certain reception site, particular caterer. the list can only be 3 things. compare lists and agree to cut back on the areas that aren't on either top 3 list. as far as the guest list is concerned, let him know that the fewer guests you have, the more lavishly you can treat the ones who do attend. if your budget is $10,000 (which is a lot of money) you can really wine and dine 50 people on that amount. you will only be able to do a minimal spread with $10,000 for 150.

ask if it's it more important to throw a nice party or to have a lot of people in attendance. also ask if he would rather share the event with those closest to you or if he feels that every random coworker and acquaintance should be included. help her to realize what he is giving up by having a huge wedding. don't just tell her, show him. if you would like to spend $7K and she wants to spend $15K, outline what you could do with the extra $8K. perhaps a wonderful honeymoon, a down payment on a house, getting your cars paid off, etc. ask him if one extravagant day is worth foregoing a smoother lifestyle. i would much rather have a house than an over the top party.

Answer 5

Well, my husband and I went to the courthouse to get married. It cost less than a 100 dollars, it was really nice. You need to just talk to your fiancee about it. Explain to him what you would rather do with the money, like I don't know, start your new life together. Maybe he will understand. Then maybe yaw can just have a small reception with just family and a few friends that you both know. Good luck.

Answer 6

How did i agree with my spouse on the costs for our wedding?
easy sent the bill to her
( only joking )
though i should have
£20.00p
to get married i thought that was extravagant and lavish too


i agree you could do better things with your money

deposit for house
but to me save for when your children come along spend it on them

whatever you do

have a great day
with a long and loving marriage best wishes to you both

Answer 7

Compromise.. well start by each party voicing what is absolutely important to them. Find what priorities you have in common, and which are different but are willing to compromise on. Then you can decide in which areas youll cut costs.

Answer 8

In America, the bride's family pays for the wedding costs; the groom's family pays for liquor and other various reception costs. Luckily, I only had to pay for the liquor, so my dad handed me a $600 check. When I went to the liquor store, I about died and wen to heaven!! Alcohol as far as the eye could see, and several bottles were mine for the buying. Free drinks flowed freely that night...

Answer 9

If you can't agree on your wedding and there is no compromise on either side, you should not be getting married yet. What are your priorities for this marriage and what are his? Talk about it seriously and honestly, because how you start the marriage will be testament to the happiness and length of it.

Answer 10

You must talk it all over and come to some kind of understanding.

My husband and I saved our money and we were fortunate to have help from both sides of our families for our wedding. It really made the difference!

Answer 11

Both of you put down what the IMPORTANT parts of the ceremony and reception are.

You can hold back on decorations and favors.

Don't hold back on photographer, videographer, dj, and food.