I was dating this woman for 9 months. We were boyfriend and girlfriend for about 3 months. Then all of the sudden I find out she was in another relationship since before we met. She said that when we met she was just looking to have fun and had no idea we would fall in love, then she didn't know how to tell me about it when we did. She ended it with him and says I am more important to her, but she needs time to get her life in order. She still calls me, but she seems really confused right now. I want to give her the time she needs to get her life in order, but all I can think about is calling her. I mean how do you go from loving someone with all your heart to waiting to see where things will go. I know she is worth it and she is the woman for me. I just wish she could let me help her and open up to me about what is going on. She is out of town for work this week and says we will talk when she gets back. I want to be patient but it is so hard not to bother her while she work
2007-10-21 03:58:31 · 6 answers · asked by dhack567 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It has been 3 weeks already. We were supposed to meet last Wednesday, but she ended up having to work to get ready to leave for this conference. I just feel like if she would give me a little hope that everything is going to be ok I could wait as long as I need to. It is so hard being in the dark and her going back and forth. I just want to wrap her in my arms and hold her and make everything better for her. I asked her why she couldn't get her life in order with me in it now and all she said is "I don't know". I am going to try to stay strong and wait for her to contact me when she gets back. I know she is swamped everytime she goes to one of these conferences and me pushing her won't help. I just want her to know how much I love her.
2007-10-21 04:27:11 · update #1
Awe, you really do sound like she is your world. In this circumstance, I applaud your woman b/c she sounds like a good one. She wasn't honest in the beginning she was woman enough to backtrack correct her mistakes and be honest about her feelings.
It is hard to leave someone alone when all you want is them, really it is. My suggestion is just to keep yourself buys. Contact old buddies, or hang out with the guys more often, call your family see what they are up to. Check your local recreation center and see what sports you can get involved in. Just get out and get busy. Petition craigslist and see if you can find a jogging partner, or hang out with co workers after work.
When your busy time flies much faster. Every now and then send her something that lets her know you're still on her mind rather than call her. Send her just like a simple little postcard ..not a card or something heavy. But just like a little note that says, I'm thinking about your, or I miss you. That will last longer, shows you care more because you went out of your way to let her know she is still your special someone, and that you respect her by not bugging her with calls and messages.
Its hard to move at someone else's pace, but she sounds like she's worth it, so I'd stick around and give her some time. :)
2007-10-21 04:07:42 · answer #1 · answered by Jazzie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give her the space she wants. Don't call or text it will only push her away. When she gets back have a good talk with her about how you feel and what you want. If she doesn't feel the same then you know to back off and let her go
2007-10-21 11:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by mommacat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, no, no, no, no. She cheated on YOU! She doesn't get any favors or any time to get her life in order. If she really wants you, she should talk to you whenever you want to call her and be happy that you ARE calling her! You shouldn't have to be patient. She's the one in the wrong.
2007-10-21 11:04:24 · answer #3 · answered by pisceswoman87 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude! all u gotta do is let her call u...let her text u...let her come to u...the girl will eventually come back to u because they can only stay away for so long...i mean i did the same with one of my friends i had feelings for. a week without talkin to the gal and we were back together and more things to talk about. we are still going strong. 2 years in a week!
2007-10-21 11:11:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay away from this lady she sounds like a B****, not being funny or anything but she has you right where she wants you.......
you sound like a lovely guy please hav abit of respect for yourself!!!!
and remember if she lovd you she wouldnt go behind your bck with someone else whether or not u believe it.
just remember there plenty more fish in the sea....
love is blind........ you only see what you want 2 see bout this lady!!!!!!!
do you want 2 have a relationship like this........ for the rest of your life........
2007-10-21 11:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Sam T 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give her time and wait
2007-10-21 11:05:54 · answer #6 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋