I've been dating my boyfriend for a year and a month. and I know he's the one for me. He has told me he wants to one day marry me and spend the rest of his life with me. In the beginning of our relationship we've had a rough start. we were both previously cheated on and have been badly hurt. Then in the beginning of our relationship his friend decides to hit on me and ended up kissing me. I told my boyfriend everything that had happened and he still wont let it go. He says he'll never forget that and he'll always have trust issues because I dind't do enough to stop it from happening. I've always been faithful to him. But now he's saying that he loves me and always will but he needs time to find himself. He wants to continue talking but I told him that I will not do that. I don't want any contact until he knows what he wants. I feel like it's not fair nor right for me to call and cry to him when he's the one putting me through this. I just want to know if he'll be back for me.
2007-10-21 03:32:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Allow time; time will tell, it tells all.
But you wrote,"Then in the beginning of our relationship his friend decides to hit on me and ended up kissing me.------,
If he cannot let this incident let go than you have big problem, he can make you miserable over this rest of your life so, think this over.
This make me uncomfortable about the future and it should you too.
As far as your statement goes, "I just want to know if he'll be back for me".
No one can tell future, your instinct should be your guide, so go out and enjoy the friendship with the others, but try and make the most of the free time by battering yourself, if not in school join it, in the school finish it.
If he comes back tell him never to bring up the past issue about his friends bad behaviours, he must never blame you for that.
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2007-10-21 04:00:07 · answer #1 · answered by minootoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriend and I were in the same situation.
We've been dating on and off for about 6 years now.
Finally, just last week when I was going out to dinner with a friend and she asked "why didn't you invite me, you never invite me anywhere" and all this ****, which made me yell and solved nothing.
So, she broke up with me again, called an hour later, got back together, then tried to say something about something and it got to the point where I just had to say it "UNTIL WE ARE MARRIED YOU CANNOT TELL ME WHERE THE **** I CAN GO UNLESS IT'S A GIRL'S HOUSE OR SOMETHING THERE SHOULD NEVER BE A ******* PROBLEM!"
But yeah, communicate so you don't have to yell at him or he doesn't just blow up and yell at you 1 day.
If you let 'em go and they come back, it's love. Or he's using you when he gets dumped. Be careful and above all, realize that if you do lose him, there are 120000000000000000000 other guys out there that'd love you as much, if not more than him.
Peace and good luck.
2007-10-21 05:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by ZuuL ThE SpAcEmAn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From your point of view, U are right. But, please be patient & let your boyfriend do what he wants. If you know that He really loves U & You also loves him then what is the problem ?? Make a simple conversation with him & let him get very clear that you are going to give him a very small period of time & within that he has to prove that he really loves U.
And if U think that the problem will be solved by discontinuing the talk with him then it may be a mistake... So plz be patient & try to make trust in U & also your BuddhuRam................. Keep Smiling..........
2007-10-21 03:52:43 · answer #3 · answered by PRASANNA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 07:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love is like a car, Lovers travel in the car, and that love car has four wheels
care
share
romance
Trust
without these your love is not true love
you both have to care for each,
share your thoughts,
Most importantly Trust each other,
and also have some romance.
Don't mind about others.
its about you both
there will be some minor probs but it woudn't be Interesting without probs.
sure he will be back for you
and good luck
:)
2007-10-21 04:00:24 · answer #5 · answered by ayo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey hun, just give him space and let him come back to u, if it was meant to be he'll come back and if he doesnt its his loss, theres plenty of fish in the sea, u just have to keep fishin until u find the right one, good luck hun, hope all goes well, ull end up choosing the right thing
2007-10-21 03:48:51 · answer #6 · answered by sexy.elmo89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him certain amount of time and if he decides between then, then go with him but if he doesn't, go with someone else and never try to make botfriend jelous cause the situation will just get worse!
2007-10-21 04:04:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope cuz he'll never trust u and if u do stay together u both will have nothing but probs.
2007-10-21 03:44:35 · answer #8 · answered by kelly p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him space and just talk to other guys
2007-10-21 03:42:31 · answer #9 · answered by kay_kay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him as suggested
2007-10-21 04:02:10 · answer #10 · answered by Rana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋