Do I have to be a parishner to get married in a specific church? I'm a member at my home church, but it is too far away from the reception hall I have my eyes on. I was interested in other Cath. churches in the area, but I heard you have to be a member of a church for at least a year before you get married. Is that true? Or does it depend?
2007-10-21 02:26:38 · 9 answers · asked by kvett26 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You would need to consult your parish priest as well as the priest of the church you wish to marry in to know for sure.
Generally, one marries in one's home church, officiated by one's own priest. If there is some practical reason why this is not possible, exceptions can be made. A friend of mine lives in D.C. but wanted to marry in her home town in Nebraska, which was actually closer to where all the guests were from (fiance also from that state). So the priest who baptized her agreed to marry her back home. They did their premarital counseling in D.C. with their local priest but planned the wedding for back home. She was not a member of the back-home church and had no intention of ever being a member, but it was allowed.
One must, of course, assume that the parish will give precedence to current parishioners, though, so if any of them were planning a wedding, you'd have to adjust your date or time to accommodate them.
2007-10-22 02:56:41 · answer #1 · answered by sparki777 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the Church, but you really should marry in a parish you are connected to, not shop for one that suits you. Our parish has hosted weddings for couples who no longer live here, but family is here. I once attended a wedding for friends from my town...the wedding was held half way between where their families lived....we brought the priest with us.
Non Parishioners pay more for the use of the facility. If you have fulfilled your marriage preparation with your own priest, he will let the pastor of the other parish know that.
Something to consider....when you go through your marriage preparation, the priest gets to know you. He will make your wedding PERSONAL in ways a priest who does not know you never could. My pastor is amazing at this, as was the priest who married my husband and me 22 years ago ( he had known me growing up).
2007-10-22 16:38:23 · answer #2 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many churches only ask for some money if you have a home church, but want to use thiers. Most times, it is up to the Priest. Make sure though that you check the dress rules. Almost all Catholic churches ban bare shoulders of any kind. Make sure you ask the priest as he will know for sure.
My best answer is to ask the priest at the church you want to use. The owrst he can do is say no, right?
2007-10-21 02:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by jessielynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your home priest and the priest at the parish where you'd like to get married. Remember that they are likely to know each other and be friends, so be open about it. My home parish was quite small compared to the guest list, so the 2 priests co-officiated my wedding at a nearby larger church. They were both very nice and accomodating.
Having said that, some larger parishes are so busy with weddings that they'll do 3-4 per weekend, and they just can't be as flexible. For those parishes, you would likely need to be a parishioner for up to a year.
Congratulations, and good luck to you!
2007-10-21 02:38:07 · answer #4 · answered by lsmerage 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you do not live in the boundaries of the parish or belong officially to an extraterritorial(usually ethnic)parish,you would need permission from the pastor of the parish you reside in to marry in another parish. as well as the permission of the pastor of the church you want to be married in. Much depends on the agreeability of the pastor of the church you want to be married in.All assumes that there are no insurmountable problems like a former(apparently valid) marriage
In many dioceses one must complete a marriage preparation course before marriage
Contact the pastor of the desired parish and see if he's open and the desired date is available. Always set the date for the church before you get your hall since the times for the church may be already filled.
2007-10-21 02:37:44 · answer #5 · answered by James O 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No....but you have to give at least 6 months notice because you- have to take pre-marital classes.
It's not really a religious class....it's more to just get you both on the same page before your marriage begins.
2007-10-21 02:30:42 · answer #6 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2017-03-02 04:29:19 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can avoid all that garbage by having a humanist wedding. Now legal in Scotland for the last two years.
MUCH more sensible.
2007-10-21 02:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
i don't think that's true..! you get married to have the blessing of GOD..! and where the venue of your wedding is does not matter..! happy marriage to you..! GOD bless..! =]
2007-10-21 02:31:14 · answer #9 · answered by wheeeeeeee..! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋