ok heres the deal, i fancied this girl for aaaages, but only recently have things been buildin up, we went to a college party a few nights ago and had a gud time and we even kissed a few times, and that made me feel awesome. So we went out last night just the two of us and we started talkin bout our relationship and she sed she doesnt want a serious relationship but is all for building it up slowly and seein how it goes, so i sorta gettin mixed messages from her. I text her this morning just askin how she was and noo reply, also im thinkin perhaps she blocked me on msn, prettty sure she has :S i duno what to think, i was soo confident we would be bf and gf by now, perhaps i was tryin too hard and it scared her off a bit?
Also, i duno why, but im startin to really worrry bout what i want to do with my life career wise, im leaving college in less than a year and dont plan on goin to uni, thinkin bout joining the armed forces but i duno if im just kiddin myself with that, ahh any advice?
2007-10-21
01:35:34
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Family & Relationships
➔ Singles & Dating
btw im not like gettin a degree atm, im in uk, so college is for 16-18 year olds doin A levels
2007-10-21
01:44:00 ·
update #1
You should actually be thankful for the girls who say they want to take things slow. Those are the good ones, the faithful ones, the ones who -- once you win them over -- will be true to you and not break you into a thousand pieces. The fast girls, the ones who want you right now, who call and call, who email and chat -- those are the flirts and they will teach you what it means to REALLY hurt inside. Pursue this girl. Let her know you're interested and you respect her and will take things at her pace. Let her feel she's calling the shots so she can learn that you are worthy of trust and not a guy who wants to get into her pants on day one and then dump her hard. Show her what you're made of.
2007-10-21 01:39:35
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answered by Aiden 6
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First of all... Please do not make someone responsible for your life! Life is what you make it! And it will do you good to be around a happy friend that is positive about things!
And don't give up you career goals or the such! Don't define a long term serious relationship, just from a text messege and a couple kisses!!
Maybe the girl is smart and wants to concentrate on more important things going on in her life! Do not throw yourself at her, just be a friend and time may connect you two!
Do not rush into anything more than that for now, ok?
2007-10-21 01:48:03
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answered by urolemah 2
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from what your saying I think things were moving a little too fast for her. I don't the exact details so i'm not quite too sure why she would block you on msn. maybe she thought you were bothering her or something. but who knows. as for the career the military is a very good career but make sure you research which branch of the military you want. some services are treated better than others money wise. like the airforce they get nicer facilities where as the marine corps makes does with what they have. in my opinion it makes them better just because they can do so much more with a little. but its hard. depends how you want to look at it. just don't let your recruiters suck you in. and don't take promises that aren't written in paper. and read before you sign
2007-10-21 01:43:40
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answered by Anonymous
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If she has blocked you maybe you are going too fast for her..slow it down like she said... if u come on too strong she may think ,as we all would think, that u want one thing only and to move on to your next... Make sure whatever u decide to do with the Armed forces vs college is what u really want not anything to do w/others influences... that way you'll have no regrets.. as it is ur decision, and yes sometimes life does suck to answer ur question..but...it is what u make of it... isnt it?
2007-10-21 01:43:01
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answered by momof3 5
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Wow, so many questions! Anyway, the truth is your "gf" doesn't like you as much you like her. Just see how things go. And you can't really force anyone to like you. In that sense, yes life sucks! If you're good in studies, just do your usual education. I know it's hard but it pays off in the long run. Otherwise, do something else, like you said, maybe join the armed forces.
2007-10-21 01:42:42
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answered by ? 2
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You kiss her a few times and you're already trying to convince her to have your babies. Dude, you're giving off the wrong signal. She already told you what she wanted and you screamed right past it, only looking at your needs.
She told you she's casual, but appararently you can't see her as a casual date. Probably best then that you move on. The worst thing you can do is hound her now.
2007-10-21 01:46:23
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answered by Your Uncle Dodge! 7
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Why jump into conclusions?
Wait a bit. call her in 3-4 days.
Why are sending her SMSs. call her!
If she said she wants it slowly, take it slowly !
about life in general.
Ask yourself what would you like people to say about you when you die. this will help you focus on what is it you want to do in life.
find the things you love doing . they are usually a good indication of what will be good for you to do.
Find something you love doing and good at that others will pay you for it.
and
Life is beautiful!
Ronit Baras
http://www.ronitbaras.com
2007-10-21 01:42:25
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answered by Anonymous
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Hey mate you want an instant girl friend and relationship.
If you want something that quick you go to a fast food store.
If you want a partner that takes a long time. Have some patience.
2007-10-21 01:41:19
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answered by Anonymous
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Slower the Betta, shows they don't just want a quick relationship but one that lasts. Take your time don't be to pushy.
2007-10-21 01:47:02
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answered by Joey 2
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2016-12-18 13:22:30
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answered by trickey 4
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