Friend will commit suicide if I don't go out with him?!?

Question

HELP PLEASE!

I have a friend, he's very nice to me we get along well. But recently he's been telling people that he likes me more than a friend. I'm okay with that.

But he's also going to ask me out in precisely 4 weeks and one day, he will commit suicide if I don't say yes, and he's really creepy, leering etc.

I am not comfortable with this I don't like it.

Please help me, I didn't ask for this, I just want to be with my friends and get on with my studies. I'm only 13.

He is also thirteen same age as me.
P.S
I AM NOT TELLING YOU HOW HE'S GOING TO DO IT! It has nothing to do with me, I don't want to be involved with this, arghh! I did not ask for this

Answer 1

Tell your parents or a teacher.

Answer 2

It is unlikely that he will really commit suicide. It hurts and it takes at least 5 minutes to lose awareness. You better have a little chat with him AND maybe seek the advice of an adult. Guys killing themselves are not rare and it is possible that he might just do it. Don't take the risk and responsibility of making this decision alone. Talk to your father - FATHER - about it. Be open, honest and complete. Let the adults step in and take over if you even think he is serious. At 13 you are not ready for a Boy Friend anyway, You should be enjoying you life, having nice friends and concentrating on your job - which is learning. There is a lot of time for growing up and you will soon be tossed into the open world. Don't get serious, don't waste your youth mooning over sexually driven boys.

Answer 3

WOW, you have been placed in a tough position. So I take it that you are going to tell him "no"? If the guy is a friend, then be honest about how you feel--you can do so w/ out hurting feelings. You are too young, not ready for a relationship, but you really value his friendship, etc.

If for some reason you think he might really try suicide--go to someone of authority (school counselor, parents, etc.) and tell them what you think might happen. You must remember that you are NEVER responsible for the actions of someone else...it would NOT be your fault.

You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders, so I think that you'll do the right thing. Good luck! =}

Answer 4

Tell him you think it is a good idea that he commit suicide because he is just to unbalanced and creepy to exist in a normal world. Tell him not to wait the four weeks because the answer is "NO" right now so there is no point in waiting. Tell him to get it over with the sooner the better.

He has no intention of committing suicide so if you call his bluff his balloons will deflate and he can get over his intimidating attitude and maybe try to act a little more like a normal human being instead of an idiot.

Answer 5

Victoria, you have a lot of people telling that he is not going to kill him self. I don't know where you are from, but in the USA teen suicides have increased in recent years, whether you believe him or not you do need to tell someone and yes you are involved,because he is using you as an excuse for killing him self, knowing and not doing any thing to stop him or get him help is going to affect your life any way, you may not think so now, but just me it will.
you don't have to go out with him to show that you care if hurts him self or not, reporting him shows that you care. He needs help so get him help now don't wait, sooner the better so he doesn't have a chance to hurt him self or anyone else for that matter.

Take care. and go tell your mom....

Answer 6

okay suicide is not fun. i've had a friend commit suicide over a girl. he was so inlove with her and when she starting dating another guy he ended his life. if you're 13, how old is your friend? 13 is too young to even be thinking about going out with people, i think you've got a good head on your shoulders with the way you're thinking. you should talk to your friend. let him know how you feel. you should also consider telling other people that could help him, cause as i said, suicide is not fun. not only for the individual but for everyone else too. goodluck!

Answer 7

That's crap. I suspect he's bluffing because no one would seriously threaten to kill themselves over such a trivial matter. (I'm sure you are terrific, but a date with you should not be worth dying for.) More than likely he's just trying to gain control over your actions by manipulating you, and that's something you cannot allow to even get started or it will be an on-going thing forever. Tell him, "That doesn't work for me, so whatever you need to do, go ahead." (Then don't say ANYTHING else.) He'll back out of that self-pity routine very quickly. *(You can secretly observe him from a distance and if it looks as if he may seriously be about to harm himself, inform some authority figures who can intervene and save his stupid a s s.) But never allow anyone to push your buttons like that; nevr allow anyone to hold you hostage. It felt uncomfortable and creepy because it was supposed to....that means you have good instincts developing within you; don't be afraid to use them.

Answer 8

It's crystal clear that this guy has some serious issues. You see the real him in his "creepy, leering, etc" attitude, and I'd bet the farm that his 'very nice' attitude is simply a front to hide his issues. Your instincts are telling you to not go out with him, and you should listen to your instincts. Don't let his threat of suicide hold you hostage against your good sense, and absolutely do NOT go out with him. In fact, you'd be doing him a favor to report his suicide threat to someone; your parents, school principle or councelor, police, or whatever (kinda out of my league here).

Answer 9

Tell him good bye then cause he aint no friend if he tries to put that at your door
Also sweets you need to tell your mom and dad or speak to the school nurse they will support you without any pressure and help you make the right decision
As far as him leering at you tell him in front of everyone to leave you alone thatway everyone will know that he is wierd

Answer 10

You need to talk to you mum and dad for a start, you are too young to handle this on your own.

You can ask them that if he calls, they can deal with him and tell him to stop calling you. Your parents will do this for you because they love you and dont want to see you upset. Maybe you could ask them to contact his parents and let them know he is making a nuisance of himself - you really need some adults to deal with this for you. Your parents can tell his parents that his manipulative behaviour is distressing you, and that you will involve the police if he does not stop harassing you. Hopefully that will make his parents intervene and put a stop to this.

Im afraid you are going to have to be tough on this. No one can emotionally blackmail you into a relationship if you dont want one. Do not let him do this to you. If he was a true friend he would not be behaving like this towards you. Its not worth going out with him just to satisfy HIS needs. What if you went out and then you wanted to dump him? He is just going to threaten suicide again, you will end up trapped in a loveless relationship that you hate, so dont even think about dating him.

My ex told me he was going to kill himself fwhen I dumped him when i was 15, well he didnt and he got over it.

If you can ignore him in school, do so. Enlist the help of your friends to keep him away from you.

Change your mobile number, only give it to a feew very trusted friends for a while and make sure you tell them not to give it out to anyone.

If he realises that you are ignoring him he will stop after a while. Its unlikely he will actually go ahead and kill himself over this, so dont let that prey on your mind.

I hope you get things sorted, please go and talk to your mum and explain to her that he is bothering you. Parents are there to help and they will do anything to help you with this situation.

Answer 11

hi Hun. i am 13 too. don't be peer pressured into it. i think you should tell someone! if he is creepy etc .. ignore him ! he is just a silly bugger. trust me he will not commit it. my mate said to me last Monday if i don't run away with her then she is gonna commit suicide i said to her no(i got nice home.ect.) and then next she rings me up saying , i am too scared to do it and if i run away then i will probably be raped ! i said dam right ! just ignore him, if he does , which we all know he will not, then you won't lose nothing !
hope things improve , lol ..x

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have a nice day, thoughts with you . he sounds a loser and i think he may need "freak treatment " laught my assey off!!!