I have been in my current relationship for 2 yrs & I'm not sure if I'm in Love w/ my bf anymore. We've had several bad issues in our relationship, we argue constantly & it always ends with me crying or getting my feelings hurt. One of the big issues was his pyscho ex trying to sabotage our relationship, this was totally unfair since none of my ex bfs from the past popped up. I just sit on the fone w/o talking, I don't like for him to touch me anymore, & I can't stand the way he kisses me. I just feel like he's annoying, but I also feel like my bio clock is ticking so I want to start a family. He thinks telling me he wants to get married & have kids is going to fix things. This is just a short version of my story, but I'm pretty much confused & depressed everyday. I'm tired & I don't feel like beginning another relationship. I've been hurt so deeply until I feel traumatized. He gets angry when I cry & he laughs when he should be serious. How is this Love? FYI: I'm in my 20's
2007-10-21 00:47:05 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
More info: The relationship has been long distance for the past year b/c I got a job and moved to another state. He's still in school. The pyscho ex is in a diff state from he & I also.
2007-10-21 01:18:49 · update #1
Ok i really think its not working out and your not happy. If your really not sure try spending quality time with him and try to bond. But if it really doesnt feel right you should leave him. Have a break from men for a while go live your life and when the time comes you will meet the right guy who will love you and treat you with respect. You are very young you don't have to think about having children yet. Maybe when you find the right guy who you think the world off then you can settle down :D
Good luck x
2007-10-21 00:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by Izzy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound very het up at the moment. My advice. 1) If you're in your 20s your bio clock has quite a way to go yet so don't rush into babies or anything with this bloke. 2) You don't sound happy with this guy so I suggest you cool it with him for the time being. Move back to your mother for a while and give yourself a breather. 3) Don't stay with him just to get one over on the psycho girlfriend or because of your bio clock worries. That's just silly - as is sitting quietly on the phone while she 'emotes'..hang up. 4) You may well feel differently about this guy once you are at arms' length from him. You are too close to the situation at the moment to view it properly and you need to stand back and assess things. 5) If you decide in a while that your relationship with him is over, don't go rushing into a new relationship immediately. You have bags of time to find someone else and start a family. You aren't too old. Women have babies in their 40s so there's bags of time for you. 6) Don't go out deliberately looking for another man though. You'll get stressed. 7) Relax and give yourself an emotional rest for about 6 months. Hang out with your girlfriends and sort out that depression with your GP if necessary. 8) Once you start feeling better about yourself and see the situation far more clearly you'll feel like a new woman and able to face the future whatever happens. It might come as a shock for the boyfriend though. Oh dear. Never mind, think of yourself for a change.
2007-10-21 01:09:40 · answer #2 · answered by chris n 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of it basically particularly relies upon on the area. i does no longer call as quickly as a week or so over doing it. So if he is going out each and every saturday night, case in point, then as long as he's no longer stepping into difficulty, appearing like an entire fool, etc... he's a grown person and has that astonishing. 3-4 situations a week, stepping into difficulty, etc... it is the place i might have issues. i became never into going to events till the final 6 months or so. in the previous, I never went out. Now i flow out eating as quickly as a week (no longer HAMMERED decrease than the effect of alcohol, 2-3 beverages max). The hateful attitude, etc... which could bring about worry. He needs to appreciate you through fact the different a million/2 of the relationship. beginning fights with you, etc... sounds like he's basically attempting to discover a reason out. that's like a job, that quite of basically firing an worker, cuts their hours right down to just about no longer something to tension the worker to flow away.
2016-10-13 09:57:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! NO! NO!.. It is not love! You are not in love and he is not in love with you.
OK listen up, I was married for 10 years, and never seemed to be happy. We were not abusive or mean,,, we just did not seem happy. Love is when you get that funny warm feeling all over, when that person is around or when you touch them, you cant stop smiling, you can talk about anything, you dont care what they look like or even smell like, you both will do anything for each other.
YOUR ONLY 20,,, NO to marriage and NO to kids... the problems you will have will be 10 times worse if you get married and have kids...
go on with your life, there are more guys out there.
as for the ex, do you think he is still seeing her,,, you have been with him for 2 years, she is still around? think about it
2007-10-21 01:00:21 · answer #4 · answered by More or less 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry but i think u hav 2 break up with him..cause from reading this i realise dat he doesn't care bout u...if u really want to start a family and u care about him even if he doesn't care bout u u should think bout itand tell him how u feel about it and stop hurting ur feelings..but if u dont like him...just break up..u should not suffer in lif cause u hav only one chance at dis..u can live for atleast 60 years later but if he makes u suffer and angry everyday u cant enjoy life..u hav plenty time left to start a family..dont worry..so if u want to l live happily without a care in da world...break up and try talking to some other guys who u r close friends,,,i understand if u ignore dis message....FYI:i'm still 14 yrs old
2007-10-21 01:06:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you see now will be your future if you just sit back and except. take action now and tell him your gone and why.if you don't want to start a new relationship that's your choice,but at least go party with some upbeat people and find some fun in life.
2007-10-21 01:05:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kirk K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go find a sugar daddy. I think you can find one online. If you want me to take care of that loser for you, let me know. I'll send someone to break his knee caps.
2007-10-21 00:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by Dust ~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just wait until hunting season you and him go out in the woods and ya just make it looks like a accident .
over and done
2007-10-21 01:00:19 · answer #8 · answered by WILLIAM C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE SO YOUNG...... WHY ARE YOU PUTTING YOURSELF IN THIS SITUATION.......
YOU ARE MEANT TO BE HAVING FUN !!!!!
2007-10-21 00:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by littlemonstersx2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋