I have been with my fiancee for nearly 7 years in Feb 08. we have a 15 month year old son who is so cute. I want to get married before we have another baby but we dont have the money to have a big wedding. We could have a small wedding but we have problems. I don't speak to my parents and he only has a mum with no money and who is looking to go to the N.Terriorty next year for work. What do I do?? & would you get married, is it just a bit of paper.
2007-10-21 00:02:25 · 12 answers · asked by Britney_31 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
you dont have to have a wedding , go to a court house get married there and have his mom as your witness. then take her out for a dinner afterwards. or if you dont want to get married ,dont. it is just a paper and then down the road if things dont work out ,its alot easier to get out of instead of having to get a divorce.
2007-10-21 02:09:04 · answer #1 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recently was in a very low budget wedding. The church they got married in, did it for free (they said it's usually $350) because the pastor knew they didn't have any money. They don't even go to church there, they did have their kid baptized there. I doubt they say know if you asked, if they do , try another church. anyway. I through the bride her bridal shower and instead of shopping off a registry, everyone that came brought things they needed for the wedding. Toasting glasses, guest book, ring pillow etc.. So she didn't have to buy any of the little things. You can have the reception at however has the biggest house/ yard. The reception is the biggest $$, make it a potluck if you have to. Trust me money is not an issue. If you really want to get married do it, and sterling silver wedding bands which you can get for under $20 each, last just as long as gold ones, and will have the same meaning. We bought our bridesmaid dresses at macy's for $29.99, but you don't have to worry about that at all and they can carry a single rose. anyway I could list a whole bunch of ways to cut costs. Let me know if you want me to.
2007-10-21 14:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by freefromthecircuitry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get married first if that is what you want for your family. Married families have more security in this society than single ones, not to mention tax breaks and higher incomes.
You can have a priest marry you in a private ceremony for free (or a modest donation to the church), or if you're not religious, go to the courts. The expense of a wedding comes from dresses, flowers, and big parties. Skip all that and create special memories with just close, understanding friends and family.
2007-10-21 10:42:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get married already! You both want to get married so just go do it. The big hoopla of a big wedding is nice and all but it isn't required.
Go to the court house, take your closest friends to witness and then go out to dinner. See if someone will take the kid for the weekend and shack up in a local hotel or B&B.
2007-10-21 10:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by Poppet 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've been together 7 years and have a kid....having a big dream wedding probably isn't going to happen. Why don't you just run down to the courthouse and get that "bit of paper" so it's legit.
Good luck.
2007-10-21 12:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi there
when i got married 13 years ago(sounds ancient) i asked a friend who was officiated in doing marriages, to do mine (ask friends if they know someone). Cheaper than to hire a church and all that goes with it. Invite close family and a few friends to your home. Give a BBQ. Instead of wedding gifts ask for money (anyway it will save your guests time and headache in buying gifts. hope this helps a bit
2007-10-21 07:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by esther b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to some it's just a piece of paper. To some it means a commitment. I know australia is alot more expensive then the usa. Personally I would go off to some place out of your area.. and get married. Take your baby with you and have a good time.
good luck.
2007-10-21 07:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by navywife_2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its what you want, then I would go for it. Even if its a civil ceremony which will cost a lot less. It is just a bit of paper, but that bit of paper will give you security as a married woman.
2007-10-21 07:06:40 · answer #8 · answered by susie h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation... what you have to remember is that regardless what you spend on the wedding the ultimate goal is for a marriage to take place. I think that given your history together that you sound like you would be fine with a small intimate ceremony with you, your husband, his mum and your child... good luck - I would just do it.
2007-10-21 07:16:34 · answer #9 · answered by daniegirl917 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would have a small, civil wedding ceremony. Do you really need the big party? The wedding is for you, not for others.
2007-10-21 09:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋