Do you actually believe that we need someone else in our life to make us happy?

Question

Than can somebody explain why I am perfectly happy at the moment?

BC - That is so funny!!!! How old do I have to get before people stop looking at me? Please tell me because then I'll feel completely comfortable being able to go out without having to fend off would be suitors. Sounds like bliss to me.

Answer 1

Actually, no. We're each responsible for our own happiness. It's actually unfair to the person you're with to depend on them for your happiness. That's a lot of pressure to put on someone you care about. I believe finding a great love can enhance happiness, but it won't create it. (Statistically though married people are generally happier)

Answer 2

It's a bit of a dilemma (thus probably some of the reason behind the question!) When you're single you are only answerable to yourself, you can do what you want when you want without any consequences for anyone else. With a successful relationship you have someone there who can work with you through life's minefields. Someone you can talk to after a bad day to someone you can share the good, the bad and the ugly in your life and feel that you are not alone.
I have been in a long term relationship for more than a decade, which for me feels an amazingly long and short time depending upon which mood you catch me in. However overall I can see the benefits, for me, of our relationship. I have become more confident, able to strike out in new directions. For my partner, I have helped him battle through a debilitating illness, set up a successful business and realise a sense of worth. It hasn't always been plain sailing and hearts and flowers. However at the moment it is a relationship that is healthy and mutually beneficial to both of us. We allow each other to develop as individuals, but also enjoy being together and doing things together. I appreciate that it is not like that for everyone so I would totally understand why someone might well give an equally convincing argument for singledom.
So to answer your question, Lou. I would love for anyone to find a relationship like I have where the mutual respect, love and contentment keeps us together through thick and thin. However I honestly believe that isn't always going to be the case for everyone, so be happy, strong and free whatever course your life takes you!

Answer 3

I believe there are two types of people. Type A needs to have someone in their life to be happy. Type B is perfectly happy being without someone in their life. A's need to have that influence of others and B's just dont need it. I have the life of an A, but would be happier as a B. So to answer your question, some people do and some dont. That does not make A's or B's wrong. Its all personal preference.

Answer 4

I don't think so.

I mean I think society has totally obliverated our minds into believing that we absolutely have to have another person in our life to be happy.
It's ludacris, I mean sure having another person around is great and what not, but at the same time...does that person or persons make you happy all the time? Odds are...probably not.
Sometimes you'll find that you're far more capable physically and emotionally to function better without someone around to influence your feelings and decisions.
I guess it also just depends on the individual, some people are content with just dating or whatever...and continuing to stay single. Whereas others feel that have to have a significant other in their life to be "complete" or to feel wanted, loved, and happy.
I however don't believe that you "need" someone to make you happy. Were all perfectly capable of making ourselves happy, it's just we have come to rely on others to fill that emotional gap...because we forgot how to do it ourselves.

Answer 5

Not necessarily, it depends on the sort of person you are and what you want to achieve in life. I wouldn't want to be in a relationship just for the sake of it, or because it's somehow expected of me because others think, "It's what people do."

This long standing idea of being alone and therefore miserable is a fictitious myth perpetuated by people that are probably themselves in unhappy, boring relationships, but are too scared to get out and move on to find something better.

Answer 6

I don't think you need someone 24/7 in your life to make you happy, its OK for a while then you start to feel smothered, well lets face it how many of you married people out there have sat and thought " WHY " should i do what he/she wants when i don`t really like doing that, but you do it because ????

Answer 7

I don't believe that someone else is the basis of my happiness. I do believe that I am happier around certain people, but my happiness is not based on them. You cannot depend on anyone to make you happy or you will never know true happiness.

Answer 8

no we come to life alone and we die alone being with someone just stop us from feeling lonely but if you pick the wrong person it can be hell on earth and 9 out of 10 times you do pick the wrong person happiness is loving yourself enough to live your life for yourself and not for others.. but i do respect familys who bring children and love to the world

Answer 9

For me, I don't really need anyone to make me happy but there are people out there who do make me feel loves, therefore happy. My family and friends all make me feel like I belong :)

Answer 10

well to be honest.. the only thing that we need from eachother is S*X. seriously. like i knmow that sounds bad, but if you had your own nice house your own nice car, and alot of mates and partied every weekend, pfft u wouldnt ned the opposite sex to make u happy, u just need sexual enjoyment from them and i guess thats all they can give u? and ur friends can give u the rest.