2007-10-20 21:44:14 · 9 answers · asked by rahavard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I take your words for it, that you have in fact have broken up with someone who was close to you, then I understand that you indeed have, which implies that this is period of a new vacation in your heart after a close emotional engagement; and that this period will last for some time and then it will eventually end. In situations like this, it is natural to human heart to feel disorientated, most unpleasantly vacant, and deserted after being focused in intimacy of someone’s warm presence. Now, if you could be purely your own heart, you would find that there are tens of hundreds of thought about things that you like to say to someone, but there is no one anymore to listen and respond, as if no one understands you fully any more, and no one cares.
And the solution that you seek is not to be found at the end of this period, out of what you are right now, as it is here with you in a form that you have not started to understand yet. It is in the present in the state of mind that you are now.
There is a difference between merely trying to forget things in life altogether and coming out of every experience, good or bad, as a better person, a little wiser, a little kinder, and a little more insightful and mature. If you keep your heart company in times like this and go though with it all that is along the way then your heart will not desert you in the moments of its delight. This in a sense is also a test for your personal reason and integrity. The question can be asked if you justly stand in your decision to break up with someone who might have justification of their own.
But if you just want to get rid of what your heart most naturally feels and most intimately trying to bring home to you then you might reconsider your over all position in the matter. I am not you, but I suggest to you that you should not feel down and out about this as it is just an important change that is taking place in your life - live it with the fullest courage and honestly of your being
2007-10-21 03:04:50 · answer #1 · answered by Shahid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I split up with my husband a few days ago. Yesterday I met up with old friends i had not seen for 3 years and had a lovely afternoon catching up, chatting, having a meal and a few bottles of wine in a lovely resteraunt. We all spent the whole afternoon there together, it was a really girlie day and i loved it.
Splitting up with someone is hard. I love my husband, but I was the one to walk away, for various, complicated reasons, but it never made it any easier for me. I did not want the split, I just had no chioce. I could be unhappy for the next 60 years or be free to find someone who truly makes me happy.
You will gop through i process of feelings. Anger, resentment, denial, sadness ect, but the key thing is to surround yourself with friends and family, that is what im doing. Planning lots of girlie nights ect.. If your a guy, then arrange time with your friends also and pick a friend to talk to when times are tough that you can rely on. It will take time, but you will get there.
2007-10-20 22:33:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what i do after a break up when i get sad usually i cry and eat fatty foods and watch sappy love movies... after a few days of that i try to have a half decent time with my friends, or at least pretend to. then i see something on a movie or talk to my mom and realize life will be full of heart breaks and people not ment to be togther. unforunatly u have to go threw a broken road to get to gold plattered one. lifes going to mess up and your goin to lose people. but thats leading you to your future, and in your future you will be happy again even if it doesnt seem like it now. if you dont listen to country you should at least listen to a song called god bless the broken road. things will get better i promise
2007-10-20 22:00:04 · answer #3 · answered by Niki 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You feel down because you still have feelings for the person.
The solution will be to go out and meet new people.
2007-10-21 00:37:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been boken up with someone for 3 years and still love them it is only till you accept it that u can move on
2007-10-20 21:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by baseball babe 21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The solution is always TIME. It heals all, and in time you'll find someone else to spend your time with.
2007-10-20 21:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by Vid_Doc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Investing in yourself, and ......time.
You can choose to 'awfulise' the situation and see it as a bad thing, or you can choose to see it as an opportunity, a new beginning.
2007-10-20 22:25:06 · answer #7 · answered by Louise H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find something to take your mind off them
2007-10-20 21:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by washable mist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't dwell on it...
mind over matter...think of other things
2007-10-20 21:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Slide♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋