My girlfriend, now ex, just broke up with me... We'd been going out for over a month and a half and we took a walk and, being a very religious girl, as I am a very religious boy, said that the reason she was braking up with me was because she was distracted by me and that she was drifting from God... I Don't know how this works out, but that's what she said... I went out with her pretty much daily, to the pond, movies, skating, everything... She's my whole world... Was that the real motive for her braking my heart, or was it just an excuse? Another problem is that I have only one friend in the state I live in because I just moved here recently and she was the only real person that made me feel loved... Now I feel nothing but loneliness... What do I do? Life sucks...
2007-10-20 19:43:52 · 15 answers · asked by Peter S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Her reasons sounded logical. But in my experience a lot of girls I know have used God as an excuse to end their relationships. Which is wrong. It could be right but she may be trying to convince herself that just maybe this is making her relationship slip away. But that might not be it, understand? I can understand how you're hurt. It sounds like you really enjoyed your time with her and had serious feelings for her. Break ups are hard, and you're going to feel hurt. Because you're not the only one who has ever felt this way. Of course you're going to feel awful and lonely and miserable and convinced that no one else is out there for you...but that's not it. It takes time to move on from these things. Over time you will accept what happened and eventually you will meet another girl who actually knows what she wants. So don't lose hope!
2007-10-20 19:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sadness will go eventually and in the meantime distract yourself by doing new things and learning new stuff. Do a course ...most of my friends are from school or uni and learning makes you feel awake and part of the world ...so it's a win win situation
A month and a half isn't very long for someone to become your whole world ...maybe you were too intense for her and she felt overwhelmed. It's possible you relied on her too much because you are alone ...she had to fill the roles of friend, confidant, partner and family for you
Relying on her so much has made her absence greater than the loss of a girlfriend
I can see it's very hard for you but I think she did the right thing breaking up when she did. If it just didn't feel right for her it would be a waste of your time to keep the relationship going just to avoid making you sad.
Was it just an excuse? Maybe, but for whatever reason, she wasn't happy with the relationship and there's probably nothing you could change that would make any difference.
Its like a pair of shoes ...you love the style, you love the colour and you have enough money to buy them but when you try them on they're just not comfortable. Just don't spend too much time looking wistfully in the shop window wishing things were different ...there are a hundred more shoe shops and a thousand more shoes to try on
I am sure the pain will fade
Good wishes for happiness soon
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2007-10-20 20:26:10 · answer #2 · answered by redleaf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly it could of been an excuse.
On the other hand, she could of choose God over you. Is that a problem?
Honestly time will pass and you will learn to cope. If she really really really thought the same about you, would she of let you go? What do you think? Did she explain how the relationship was making her drift from god?
A month isn't a very long time. Basically I'm going to give you the rude "Get over it, life sucks, get on with your life." Because honestly, IMHO; that's the best thing you could do.
2007-10-20 19:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there buddy! Girls these days suck. I swear the tables have turned over the years and now guys are the nice commited type. You just have to realize it takes two to make a relationship and if shes not willing to put in the effort then she isnt worth your time. I hate to say it but Im sure this will be the first of many heart breaks for you. You just have to get up, dust yourelf off and move one. Who knows maybe in gods plan you will get back together one day but dont dwell on the problem just let life take its course.
2007-10-20 19:54:47 · answer #4 · answered by Jake G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. You sound like a nice, smart boy. If God means for you 2 to be together, it will happen. Just let things run their course. I know how hard it is. I had a boyfriend for 3 months which I know is a short time and when he broke up with me, I thought my world ended. I cried for about a month to be honest. But now I'm fine and over it. You'll be fine too, I promise even though it seems the worst thing in the world. Good luck to you!
2007-10-20 19:49:13 · answer #5 · answered by Answer me this 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say if this is true. Some people really do see their relationship with God the most important thing in their life. You need to get out there and meet people. Do you have coworkers or go to school? Start with them. Volunteer, great way to meet people. Take a night class, join a club, join a gym. There are all sorts of people out there for you to meet. Things will get better. The one friend that you do have, tell them that you would like to meet people. Maybe they could introduce you to some different people. Good luck, I hope that things get better for you soon.
2007-10-20 20:01:25 · answer #6 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know easier said than done...but forget about her, just push on. As you said, you're new to the area. Give it time, get involved in church activities or something, you'll meet someone. Who knows why she broke it off...could be anything. Regardless of the excuse, if (& sounds like her mind is made up!) she doesn't want to see you at all anymore, it's better you find out now than a year from now.
2007-10-20 19:52:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention your life. A girlfriend of less than two months? Go back to your life. Hopefully you have a job. Go for further education?? Make your career your focus for now. Once you have your life/career/house (do you own one?) in line, the rest might just happen.
2007-10-20 19:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new life! see thats why i tell people to have back up plans. ya'll was only dating a month and a half, you act like ya'll was together for ever, ge over it. go out grow some balls put some hair on ya chest. have fun people will like you then. or maybe not case you sound like a whiner to me.
2007-10-20 19:51:14 · answer #9 · answered by elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find some hobbies, read some books, and take your mind off her. Give her some space to sort out what she wants.
Maybe she will come back.......mine did.
2007-10-20 19:49:10 · answer #10 · answered by ~Senor Suave~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋