Ok... someone answered another one of my questions by alluding to the fact that guys are clueless when women send flirting signals. Really? What should a woman do that would clearly send a signal that she's interested? (I'm looking for *tasteful* answers, not the first thing off the top of your head.) Would you say that you were usually oblivious to girls liking you in the past, or did you know (and how?)?
2007-10-20 19:01:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being a guy I can tell you this: guys are idiots! If you want to get a guy interested sometimes you just have to tell him. You have to make clear your intentions. Again, guys are idiots. If your looking for just a hook up then this approach may make you look like your easy, even if your not. Try not to beat around the bush. Most guys like confidence in women and that is what you have to show. Personally, I never read the signals. I have had a few missed opportunities because of my stupidity. Just be honest and confident.
2007-10-20 19:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by despirited247 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah the biggest mistake guys make when they are younger is that just because a girl talks to you and takes an interest in who you are doesn't mean she is romantically interested in you. Some physical contact nothing big, but touching the forearm is a good signal. If you have a good rapport then stand comfortably in his bubble. A little shoulder bump can be a good signal. I hope this is a little helpful.
2007-10-21 02:08:24 · answer #2 · answered by Rational Humanist 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most guys ( myself included ) probably wouldn't know if a woman was interested unless she was very direct about it.
As a younger man, I was clueless. Then I grew out of it as I was able to tame my testosterone, and listen to what a woman had to say, not just thinking about how I could possibly persuade her into a more physical situation.
After that I had a generally easier time making and keeping platonic as well physical relationships, until I found the woman I fell in love with and am marrying.
Best of luck trying to figure us men out, cause we cant figure you ladies out either. I am just glad I found my woman, cause life is really great with her & I can't imagine spending the rest of mine without her.
2007-10-21 02:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by rikfreese 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys cannot read minds and are just as nervous in the scene. So, unless you both are on the same wave length he won't know what signals you are sending. Believe me, men don't get any better as they grow older either. Be more straight forward with them to get what you want.
2007-10-21 02:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i have a alot of friends whom i flirt with alot. this includes talk and touching. i've fallen for lots of things in my day which weren't actually true signs interest. one thing i have found that is definitely a sign is when a women tickles me. ticklin g is a playful way of seeing how comfortable a person is with u and u are with them. another test of comfort is a touch on the leg which if accepted leads to a hand on the leg, then a rubbin motion on the leg. these wil show the guy that ur interested and your not just flirting just to flirt...otherwise i would have to say i'm just as cueless as anyone
2007-10-21 02:09:24 · answer #5 · answered by michael j 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never had a clue if a girl was flirting with me or not. It always took her friends having to tell me to realize it. Pitiful, I know. Sadly, the only clear signal I ever recognized was when they asked me out lol.
2007-10-21 02:06:46 · answer #6 · answered by Eric N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some guys ( like me ), it doesn't matter what signal you send out. we're oblivious to them. guys like me have too low self esteem to think that a girl would actually be flirting with him. it best to just come out and say "hey, I like you" or something similar.
2007-10-21 02:11:24 · answer #7 · answered by Brian D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, real simple and tasteful. Ask him out. Not much simpler than that, and asking him out for coffee or lunch isn't the same thing as inviting him to a motel for illicit debauchery.
2007-10-21 02:11:47 · answer #8 · answered by Paul R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use this phrase: I am interested in you. What do you think the chances are that we can get to know one another better? Works for me everytime when a girl asks that question.
2007-10-21 02:09:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Walk up to the guy and ask him out. You can't be more straight forward than that and they like it.
2007-10-21 02:04:53 · answer #10 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋