Is having sex with a girl friend wrong ?

Question

i love a girl and i had sex with her but now my parents are trying to get me married with a girl who is our relative and they are not listening me but i feel guilty that i caused my girl friend to loose her vergien

Answer 1

this answer is from a paki girl. So take me seriously plz.

In ur culture and religion u have the right to choose ur partner. All u have to say is NO to this proposal and the wedding will be cancelled. No one can force u to get marry.

Marry the person u love and who loves u back equally. If ur gf loves and u have feelings for her then u should marry her definitely. Cancel the current proposal.

For desi girl to go this far means she really loved u and wanted to spend rest her life with u. I believe this is generally true in our culture. u should not neglect her at this moment. Don't make a decision u will regret in future.

As far as ur parents are concerned, be more open to them and allow ur feelings to come out. Tell them u like someone else. their current decision will ruin several people's live including u, ur gf, the person they want u to marry, and the families involved.

Don't make the wrong just to satisfy ur parents. It will hurt them to see u unhappy. so make the right choice and marry ur gf.

i hope this helps. I wrote this as it is happening to someone i care abt. all the best to u.

Answer 2

You should not tell your friends about the sex that you have had. 1. You're 14, and you'll probably regret telling people (not regret the actual sex) about it when you're a little older. 2. Girls get treated way differently than guys in high school when it comes to sex. Where you are patted on the back by your friends, they are getting called sluts and whores. This is not cool. It's not wrong that you've had sex, but you probably shouldn't be telling all your friends.

Answer 3

well truley speaking if i were your gf i WILL make you marry me. you coward! if you were so scared to your parents, then whats the need of having a gf in the first place? and then sleeping with her ? you should have known your parents anyway and just waited till whoever they fixed your marriage to, to unleash your manly desires instead of breaking someone's heart. it takes courage and love and trust to make love to someone. no girl just sleeps with someone becoz they have nothing better to do. they do it coz they want you whole heartedly and are just so happy to be with you that they are willing to give you everything. becoz they trust you. so if you have any shame or courage left, you would actually speak up to your parents and marry this gf of yours instead of marrying a relative and making relationships more complicated than they already are.

Answer 4

In most of the religion having sex without is punishable.

Answer 5

haha, where do u come from? In most countries incest is illegal. And no it is not wrong to have sex with a girlfriend. I'm sure lots of christians will say in here it is but f*ck them.

Answer 6

Wait, your parents are trying to get you to marry your relative? That's illegal in most places....

Answer 7

u a**h***... who told u to take her virginity.... i know that decision was not urs alone ..but still man if u have any shame den tell ur parents about all this .... nd marry her

Answer 8

there isnt any prob in doin sex with ur gf.....but if u both love each other...then u must convince ur parents about ur marriage.......

Answer 9

shame on u ...who can have sex with his gf but do not have b**ls for taking the responsibilty.

Answer 10

I don't know but if she want it then you can do this, and it also up to u what u wanted to do.