Recently buried my grandfather. I was given the task of getting suit cleaned and delivering them to the funeral home. Upon my arrival, they asked for undershirt, underwear, and socks. I got the items, however, never did ask, why such items were needed. I asked this question to other family members, and one uncle tells that the funeral director actual placed an adult diaper on his mother...and till today....does not know why.
2007-10-20 18:39:03 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Funeral homes ask for that so that the deceased can be buried in dignity. I was asked to provide some of my mother's makeup for them to apply just a touch to her face in the colours she was used to wearing.
The diaper is used to again provide the deceased with dignity. When you die, the muscles controlling those particular bodily fluids no longer work and any remaining fluids continue to drain from the body for a period of time.
Those particular orrifices (or openings) are plugged up (or stuffed), but I believe it's also commonplace to use diapers.
I do apologise for not using anatomically and medically correct terms.
2007-10-20 20:39:20 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Funeral Clothes For The Deceased
2017-01-11 09:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you go anywhere without socks and underwear on? No, so why would we not dress the deceased completely in all of their attire? It is done out of respect for the deceased. We treat them with the utmost respect and dignity. As far as the diaper goes, no one leaves my funeral home without a diaper. The diaper ensures no leakage in the caskets. Hope this helps, take care!
2007-10-21 10:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by Reagan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Different people have different beliefs. Before my grandmother died, she would try on her funeral clothes all the time to make sure they still fit. She had us exchange her slippers, because she didn't want to go all of eternity in slippers that didn't fit right.
As for the diaper, I would assume it is so any leaking fluids are caught. No matter how well they drain stuff, you never know. No one should be feeling around down there, so it shouldn't be a problem during the viewing.
2007-10-20 18:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by Alyssa and Chloe's Mommy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that custom simply means, treating the dead with dignity. Would the alive walk down the street in a suit or dress and no underwear, socks or shoes ? So the same principle applies to the deceased, just showing that the dead one is worthy of a full set of clothes.
2007-10-20 20:38:11 · answer #5 · answered by flamingo 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hey, at least they're being thorough. Some places don't even bury people with pants if it's a half open casket. A good mortician will try to bury the deceased with as much dignity as possible. Some think of it as an art form. No, you can't see those little touches, but they're doing it because they really care. And some people believe in grave goods, even in this day and age. You don't want to send your relatives to an afterlife with no socks, do you?
As for the adult diaper, I can't explain that one, except that some morticians are also wierd. The best possible reason might be that if she was using them at the time, he might have seen his job as dressing her up completely as though for another day on earth, even though there was no longer any need for some things.
2007-10-20 18:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
Fully clothing the deceased is customary and respectful. I would be more concerned if you were not asked to bring in underclothing. That is simply treating the deceased person with dignity. For some people the way a body is to be dressed makes no difference depending on their beliefs, but to most it does.
2007-10-21 06:45:18 · answer #7 · answered by D Marie 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want the deceased to be wearing undergarments, then you don't have to! It is up to you.
We dress people as they were if they were still living. Why treat them any different. As for the person who mentioned leaking....not ALL bodies leak. Also, we put a plastic suit on underneath the deceased clothing for that reason (leaking). Some people, living people, don't wear underwear, or go braless, so why should they have to be buried that way...so it is NOT required.!!
2007-10-22 08:20:45 · answer #8 · answered by poodiebear 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why did the funeral director tell me to bring socks for my best friend's feet, even though my friend was clearly dead?
I mean, it wasn't like his feet would be getting any colder, or that he was going to walk away or anything.
Really, I appreciated the director wanting to be so meticulous and it somehow made me feel better to know my friend was buried with his socks and shoes too.
2007-10-20 19:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Because most people would then complain that they didn't put undergarments on. They would accuse the funeral director of being "kinky".
2007-10-20 19:20:11 · answer #10 · answered by JD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋