My fiance' and I went our separate way a little while ago, we split on mutual terms, no cheating, hate etc....but now I have this problem, she has a sister whom I always thought was very attractive and even had fantasized about several times in the past, of course I never acted on them knowing the problems it would have caused so our relationship basically was that of in-laws as we were going to be.
Since my fiance' and I split up I have seen her sister out several times and we always talk very friendly, but I found out that she has always been attracted towards me and never acted on it like myself.
I really am not sure what to do here, we both have stated how we feel towards one another and I honestly don't think anything would be wrong with us going forward in dating, yet a part of me feels like I would be cheating on my ex with her sister still, I have spoken of this to several friends, I suppose I just wanted to get someone elses opinion who doesn't know me nor her.
Thank you.
2007-10-20 18:34:25 · 16 answers · asked by CuriousTiger77 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That's OK dude!! Most people wouldn't approve it but you should do what makes you happy....You never know you may end-up marrying her.....Life is too short.....Enjoy Yourself!!!!!
2007-10-20 18:55:00 · answer #1 · answered by SUPERMAN 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now that you each know how the other feels, don't do anything. Wait for her to make the first move.
Chances are no matter what you do, if your relationship with your ex's sister progresses, there will be those in the family who will gossip, suggest you were cheating with her before you and your ex split, ad generally try to make trouble. Every family has its drama queens who like to stir things up.
Also, no matter what you do, if your ex gets jealous and there is trouble between the sisters, the whole family is going to see you as a philandering scumbag and the girls as your innocent victims.
At least, if you wait for her to make the first move, if things go badly and she tries to tell you what a jerk you are, you can point out to her that she pursued you.
Of course, whatever happens, this has the potential to get you on Jerry Springer.
You might be better off to just be friends with her and find a new main squeeze who isn't related to your ex.
2007-10-21 01:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by graysmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, If it was me i would walk away from the situtation.
When you date someone you usually like your friends and family approval and the same with your other.
But to start off in your relationship. You know your ex is going to not like it. Maybe her parents wont like it due to what happend with you and there "other daughter"
Bottom line. If shes hot and you just want to hit & run that would be ok if thats what your trying to do. But if your trying to build a relationship i would get with someone that doesnt know you or her and start fresh. That way she doesnt know all your dirt and you dont always have to feel uncomfortable when you go around them.
2007-10-21 01:40:55 · answer #3 · answered by AirForce1s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok that is CLEARLY crossing the line. It is shady that her sister would even contemplate it. You cannot in your right mind think about getting together with your ex's sister. Regardless of how mutual it was it sucks to see someone that you love(d) with someone else. Imagine how bad it would be to see them at Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc. Come on, don't do it. There are plenty of attractive, cool girls out there, find one that doesn't share your ex's genes.
2007-10-21 01:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by grace 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a really bad situation. I think you still owe it to your ex to go and ask her how she'd feel about this or even just tell her, so that she is not caught off guard. All round I really feel you should just move on as things can get very difficult at family parties etc.
2007-10-21 01:41:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kimberley L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say take your time to both of you and if you start dating, it might be good to talk to your ex together and tell her what your intentions are and that you are letting her know out of respect. I don't think it would be wrong for you to date, but have you had a bit of a break and time for yourself to be ready for another relationship?
2007-10-21 01:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by plaplant8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mate, you've got yourself in a tough spot there! I'd talk to your ex and explain what's going on first, see how she feels about it. If it's going to cause hassle between her and her sister, then it's going to cause hassle for you, not to mention hurting people you care about. If your ex is upset, then go find someone else whose not related, would be my advice.
Good luck!
2007-10-21 01:41:12 · answer #7 · answered by lonecabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you're a member of the British Royal Family or live in Utah, this is against the rules.
2007-10-21 01:38:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
has your ex moved on if i were you you and her sister need to sit her down and tell her that ya'll are attracted to each other and you would like to see were it goes if she is ok with that. Thier is a sister relationship that is envoled that could get ruind exspcailly if your ex still has unresolved feelings for you.
2007-10-21 01:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by godmothersara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i would say congrats you found someone new. but i think it would be kind of nicer to talk to your fiance about it....but thats totally up to you. but then again if you really have no feelings for your fiance and she doesnt have anything for you, then you should move on to the sister.
2007-10-21 01:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by eve c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋