why do no girls like me?

Question

I've posted several questions asking various things like how to talk to girls, ask a girl out, etc...I'm 15 sort of overweight,im a little short,unathletic,smart,nice,a good person,very funny,a great guitarist and whenever i talk to anyone(if i can get over my initial shyness)they will almost always end up my friend.So why,then,have i yet to find one girl i like that feels the same way about me.Fat people get girls too,so do people with faces that have more zits than skin,and i barely have any.Im a lot funnier than the average guy and can make almost anyone laugh easily,but any girl i like im pretty sure doesnt feel the same way about me.I was getting into this one girl who was a friend of one of my friends. I hadnt met her, but wed seen pics of each other and talked through facebook, she sed i was cute, she thought i was reely funny,she was single,but my frend talked to her an dshe sed she doesnt like me, Why?! Am i cursed or sumthing? Every time this happens, why?

i no things like this take time, but ive never even been on a date, and truthfully, when my friends talking abobut his girlfriend that he "loves so much" people i no just say offhand how theyre going out wiht this or that girl, i just feel really lonely, and im tired of not having anyone, im not saying ill take anything, but im tired of having to stay on the sidelines because the girls im interested in dont like me back, and worst of all, im friends with them, i need to see them every day, and say hi and act like everythigns normal, and its really torture and im sick of it

people please stop telling me to lose weight and play sports: i, over weight cus i LIKE food, i dont play sports because i DESPISE them, i dont want to change who i am, i want ot know how to get someone to like me for me

it seems liek a lot of you people aren't reading this right: I don't want a gf to fit in, i dont want one because im in a hurry, i dont want one because everyone has one, i dont want one because i think im too old not to have one-
I want a girlfriend because i am lonely, and would really like the company of somebody else in my life that can reciprocate my affection in a way other than my immediate family members can provide. is that clear?

Answer 1

Quit trying so hard. God has a particular "perfect" mate for every one. Be patient. Your young. Live your life and accomplish somethings you want to do. Girls will notice, but the key it to be guided by God to the "Right" Girl! It makes all the difference in the world. I married a fella like you 13 years ago. And we are still happily married. I am only 31. You do the math. Be patient. Enjoy life, instead of being on a search and devour mission. Build your life with meaning and she will come.

Answer 2

There is nice and then there is nice.

When I was 13-15 I was about 30 pounds over-weight and I was super nice, clear skin, and funny, a lot like how you described yourself. I still had three different girlfriends over that span of time though. The thing is, being nice can usually lead the girl into thinking you not interested. I don't believe in the 2 week rule, it is just that the female thinks YOU want to be friends only. Yes, definitely treat girls NICE, but if you want to date a certain girl, know how to sometimes not be too nice. Like once in a while I would tease (flirting manner), not help (with small things), and just not be available sometimes. It's not really playing hard to get but rather just letting her know you are interested without being so nice it seems YOU just want to be friend. Also some times being too nice may freak out a girl.

This was just my personal experience, and don't worry, once you meet a girl you like and start dating her, your life will change. When I became 16, I became really healthy and fit cause when your over-weight, lifting all that weight in everyday activities gives you muscles but the fat covers it. Once the fat is gone you'll be a little built, just further it. I played Vasity football and surf often now.

Best of luck,
Jason

It's not you, your a great guy, just watch what you say and don't be afraid to be bold. First time you act really bold might give you a little adrenaline rush, and you'll love it later. Don't go to far and get addicted to the feeling ; ]


After reading you new info added to question:

I wasn't saying to get fit, just saying when you started dating, you will want to impress, even if you don't think so now. I know a guy 245, dating a 120 girl, lucky bastard eats while I work out : D

Answer 3

Well you are right about people being over weight,zits,short,thin and not so cute and still getting a boyfriend or girlfriend. I think personality can be a factor or some people are settling for less because they have issues about being alone. You say that you are sort of over weight,smart,nice,a good person,funny,play music and a great friend. A lot of great qualities but still no girl. You are 15. Easy for me to say this but you are young and at your age you are not alone. I think everyone at 15 feels like they have to be with someone so they can fit in with their friends and share the same experiences. Your time will come and hopefully you dont have to go through all the drama of proving your love to someone. There is someone out there that is going to marry you. That someone is wondering when you are going to find her. As for these girls that think that you are nice but not interested,best stay that way. You see girls at your age usually have their mind set on one particular guy already. If you ask your friend if that one girl that you like is interested in someone else most likely you will get a yes. At least you arent getting strung along or spending money on a girl that is really interested in someone else and waiting for him to call her. Stay the way that you are and dont change. Even the quiet and shy boys get girls.


Good for you about the girls excepting you for you and not because you are playing sports. Even overweight kids have boyfriends or girlfriends. If you are not ready to lose weight dont worry about it. Your studies at this point are more important. Dont look change your behavior or your friends will start talking about you. If they ask you when you are going to get a girlfriend,just say that you are waiting for the right one to come along and seeing how their relationships are going probably best that you take it easy. Dont let anyone see that you are miserable. Just because they look happy doesnt really mean that they are.

Answer 4

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Answer 5

ask your friend what he said to her and what she said about you.
Have you done a breath check?
Truly, also girls don't go for overweight guys. They are mostly shallow at your age and look for the 'bodies'.
If you have a close friend who is a female enlist her help to be honest with you. I knew one guy who was adorable but kissed like a fish and girls avoided him.
Sometimes you are the last one to know such things.
When you are college age girls will get to know the real you better because they are more mature.

Answer 6

Because girls like guys who have good self esteem, which you apparently have none of. Try to stop feeling sorry for yourself, and I bet girls would find you a lot more attractive. Girls are like lions, they can smell fear, and we dont want to have babies with a scared lion, if you get what I mean. Plain and simple. And perhaps talking in actually English instead of "sed" for said. It makes you seem less educated. So, over all, try being more confident in yourself and dwelling on whether or not a girl will like you. try simply getting to know her, instead of trying to impress her.

Answer 7

Maybe its the way you talk to girls and its making them only see you as a really good friend. You seem like a pretty cool kid so I dont know. Next time you talk to a girl, dont play the friend role. Lol, Im not saying dont be friendly, but..you know. Good luck.

Answer 8

Trying being more athletic. Lose the weight by working off and lay off the fatty foods, then you could probably score. But you'll find a girl that will like you in time so no worries

Answer 9

You're 15, not 50. There is no rush to find "the girl". Its like a lot of things, as soon as you stop worrying about them or focusing on them they have a way of working out for you.
Don't worry about it, be yourself.
Girls are attracted to guys that are just easy-going, natural, and likeable.

Answer 10

I'll tell you truthfully and honestly. Girls like men with confidence. They like cocky, egotistical, asinine, perverted, confident men. Well... most of them do anyways.

But, they dont like just that. I too am overweight, unathletic, nice, smart, and short (im asian, its acceptable XP). When I am being cocky, i try to make them laugh. Girls like a guy who can cheer them up. Also, try being their friend first.

The first and biggest problem I see here is that you are too shy. You need to get over that in order to proceed.

Hope my advice was helpful.