I am a person who likes to plan, or help plan, my own party's- birthdays, my wedding shower, etc. Leaving it up to other people is hard for me, so I was wondering: is it okay to help plan my baby shower? If not, do you think the host of the baby shower should ask me what type of "theme," or food I would like served?
2007-10-20 18:33:01 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Those planning the party should have a discussion with the guest of honor. They should ask her what theme she is using in the nursery, ask her what types of items she nees/wants the most, ask her what day the shower should be held, etc.
Nobody knows the guests like the guest of honor. And she should be pleased with the outcome. If those giving the shower do their jobs, it will be everything the guest of honor wants...regardless of what they want.
2007-10-20 20:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Audra K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. As the guest of honor, your duties are to show up when you are asked to, appropriately dressed, smile, participate, eat, say thank you a lot, and go home when it is time.
The host is not obligated to ask you anything. Not the theme, the food, the gifts. It is her party, given for you. She can do anything she cares to do. The theme does not have to match yours. Don't hurt her feelings by trying to take over. Friends have been lost over this. If she wants your imput, I'm sure she'll ask. And I'm sure that when you get there you will exclaim "it is perfect! how did you know that? It's just like I wished for!"
Just be happy the person giving you the party is thoughtful and creative enough to give you a shower. Who knows, maybe she knows you well enough that it will be just as you wanted anyway!
If you wish, you could offer to help, but if you do, be sure and tell the host not to feel obligated to include you in the planning. She may know you well, and not want what she might think of as interference.
2007-10-21 02:37:33 · answer #2 · answered by riversconfluence 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've planned many baby showers and so far, the best experience has always been finger foods. Chicken wings/fingers, chex mix, chips, etc. Meals go over nicely but they take a lot of work. If you want to go the meal route, I recommend something easy like spaghetti and meat sauce (if youre not planning on buying which is a different story) and a tossed salad.
2016-05-23 23:27:51 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the guest of honor at a party where you will be receiving gifts you should stay out of the planning, other than what date it is going to be held on and what guests you would like there.
I think if your friend asked you your preferences then you should say what you prefer otherwise keep it zipped and be happy with what they do.
2007-10-20 18:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by Leizl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly fine to help with behind the scenes work if your hostess doesn't mind. I am the same way. The fun part of any event for me is the planning. I love the attention to detail. I wouldn't let other people know you were involved in the planning though.
2007-10-20 18:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by Alyssa and Chloe's Mommy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it depends on who is throwing the shower for you. (Chances are you may get several baby showers.)
If it is a bunch of friends and you know the person planning the event- let them know what you'd like. I don't think they'd be offended.
If it's family- of course let them know what you'd like done.
If it's co-workers- let them plan it.
If it's a church group/not direct close friends- let them plan it.
2007-10-20 19:03:28 · answer #6 · answered by Miss M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If they ask for your help sure. If not, stay out of it. She might have her own ideas on the theme and the food. I am sure that it will be beautiful. Trust her.
2007-10-20 19:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to let go. Relax and enjoy the fact that someone wants to give your baby a shower. "Theme" -- are you serious?
2007-10-20 19:14:58 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope. Stay out of it and just enjoy the party. If they ask for your input give it, but by no means should you try to run the show.
2007-10-20 18:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Are you a planner or a control freak.
Step aside for this one and trust other peoples judgement
2007-10-20 19:31:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋