a co-worker slanders me to everyone, help?

Question

there's this co-worker that i dont really get along with, she talks trash about me to everyone and lies about me to our manager who scolds me for things i didnt even do, and the worst part is; i've been nothing but nice to this co-worker, i dont talk trash to her i dont bad mouth her but she still gets me in trouble, its driving me nuts and i cant take it anymore, i am afraid that she might lie about me enough to the point where they fire me, that would be the worst, what do i do?

Answer 1

Adopt the ' Law of the Garbage Truck' - This is something very beautiful that i came across and i guess if you adopt this attitude life will be much more easier for you..... let me explain....

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood? Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day? Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back on your heels. However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly he/she can get back her focus on what's important.

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson. I learned it in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here's what happened.

I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station. We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us. My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean he was friendly. So, I said, 'Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!'

And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, 'The Law of the Garbage Truck.'

Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally.
You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did.

So this was it: The 'Law of the Garbage Truck.' I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets? It was that day I said, 'I'm not going to do it anymore.' I began to see garbage trucks. I see the load they're carrying. I see them coming to drop it off. And like my Taxi Driver, I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.

One of my favorite football players of all time, Walter Payton, did this every day on the football field. He would jump up as quickly as he hit the ground after being tackled. He never dwelled on a hit. Payton was ready to make the next play his best.

Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting. Good parents know that they have to welcome their children home from school with hugs and kisses. Teachers and parents know that they have to be fully present, and at their best for the people they care about.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take over their day. What about you?
What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by?

Here's my bet. You'll be happier.

So … Love the people who treat you right.
Forget about the ones who don't.
Believe that everything happens for a reason.

If you get a chance, TAKE IT!
If it changes your life, LET IT!
Nobody said it would be easy...
They just promised it would be worth it!

ALL THE BEST!!

Answer 2

While you are looking for another job .. go to Human Resources and explain your problem. This is a type of harassment. Be SURE however, she doesn't have a legitimate complaint. But even so she should not be harassing you. You might also check with a labor attorney or your state's department of labor about what your rights are. Also check the company policy on harassment.

Answer 3

the most important thing is don't make any response about that. you know , when A coworker tell me something bad about B cowoker. i think A is worse than B. i just try not tobelieve what A said until i see B in person. you have to just act right way. then your boss will not believe you coworker.
don't worry. be confident if you are right.
if your coworker did someting bad to you, he/she will get worse things.

Answer 4

Learn the difference between work and high school. You are not there to be liked. Do your work. Collect your check. End of story. Let the other person do what they will. Most bosses hate gossip anyway, so this will not last too long. [Unless your boss is an idiot, of course]

Answer 5

Awful situation to be in. Generally best to talk to someone like HR if you have it in your workplace or your boss-even know that is where you are feeling the heat from.

You could talk to the colleague but she sounds like a f*ck wit.

Answer 6

Your reputation is shot, your boss already believes her by your own words, you'll never be anything more than you are right now in that company. Move on. Get a new job.

Answer 7

document document document...EVERYTHING. But make sure you don't gossip. Even if someone tells you something she said. Just give a strained smile. Her name should never even cross your lips. People can turn things around on you even if you are trying to diffuse something...And oh yeah..Document, document document!!