Good looking people are so much nicer than ugly ones?

Question

You would think that ugly people would be more pleasant and nicer to compensate for their ugliness, but it's the total opposite. They are very rude and ill-mannered.

It's usually the good looking people who are friendly and polite.

I work at Best Buy and I deal with all types of customers. What I notice is that the rude, obnoxious customers are usually fat or ugly. Not just when I'm working, but elsewhere too. Ugly people would rarely hold doors open for other.

Why do you think they act that way? Lack of self-esteem?

Answer 1

Good looking people are more likely used to people being friendly to them, people wanting to know them, to give them jobs, to date them, etc. This would make them more confident and happy, therefore more friendly and nicer.

Ugly people tend to be treated in exactly the opposite manner. This makes them colder, meaner, and more hostile to a world that is hostile to them.

(It should go without saying that it is impossible to generalize completely and there are always exceptions.)

Answer 2

That's a pretty broad generalization. I know some very nice ugly people and some incredibly arrogant and obnoxious beautiful people.

Although I do agree with you on some level. Overweight people and unsightly people tend to be treated poorly by society in general. If you were treated that way all the time, you may develop a tough, rude outer shell as well. Although this definitely isn't the case anywhere near 100% of the time.

Answer 3

I have not noticed this, and I work with people every day on my job. But I guess the difference might be that maybe you are judging people, and unknowingly, maybe you treat people you view as ugly differently, and they can sense this, so they are rude to you.

When I am at work I don't care what a person looks like. I treat every person the same, I am very friendly, and willing to hear what they have to say. If anyone is rude to me, regardless of what they look like, I just kill them with kindness. I just keep smiling, and continue to be polite. Most of the time if you remain friendly and polite they calm down, and become more friendly towards you.

Answer 4

I don't know where you live that the good looking people are all nice and the ugly ones are not. I've worked in retail too, and that hasn't been my experience at all. Maybe the ugly/fat people you were dealing with are sick of being labelled ugly/fat. If you haven't noticed, good looking people tend to be treated better than ugly people. In fact, Doctor Phil did a show on that about a year ago, his son, who is a good looking man, walked around a mall and went shopping as both an ugly man and a good looking man. He was treated much better when he was good looking. Maybe the ugly people in your area are just treating people the way that they've been treated. Maybe it has something to do with your attitude towards them. Do you treat them differently too??

Answer 5

Pretty people feel they have more, so why not make themselves even more beautiful by being nice. They have nothing to lose and everything to gain, something extra they can afford. Ugly people have poorer attitude because they aren't being treated as well to start with, so they are frustrated and have lower self esteem. Having sad that, not all ugly people are like that. Many ugly people have a beautiful heart.

Answer 6

That's not true, you may be biased on your own views. First off what is your definition of ugly? the fact that you say "ugly people" means that you're prejudging people because of their looks.
I know tons of skinny, "nice looking" people who turn out to be snot nosed bastards who poke fun of fat people.

There was an actual psychological study on something like this... form of impression. Except the population being tested were children. Most of them said that people like Madonna, the ones that looked nicer- were nice people and that people like Madeline Albright- the people who looked scary looked like mean people. Sounds pretty right on the spot whether you're a child or an adult. If you haven't taken a basic level Sociology class, I suggest you do. Quite interesting really.

So maybe for you they may be the meanest people on the face of the Earth- but its just for your area. Have you been around the country? Are all fat/"ugly" people mean?

If what you say is true, I must have tons of enemies then. I am fat but I am always courteous to people no matter what. I have lots of friends who like me.

But I'll tell you what I notice. No one makes an attempt to sit by me or talk to me. I will admit I'm a shy person, but to those who've approached me find me a very dependable and trustworthy person. The idea of assumptions and prejudice in this world is ridiculous.
I am also losing weight, and I'll also tell you this because it's quite interesting. Three months after going to college I've lost around 30 pounds and I've noticed that people are sitting closer to me. Don't know if it's just because I've been around a bit now or because it seems like I am looking a bit better than I was before.

So maybe it's because of our perceptions that we think someone is that way. I'll admit that I do it too. Whenever I see a fat person I'll go "ew. That person has problems." and it's quite hypocritical because I'm one of them too!

Answer 7

The good-looking people have had better lives. Consciously or sub-consciously, people treat others based on what they look like.

Good-looking people can cut to the front of lines, usually get noticed and served first, and can talk their way out of a speeding ticket and stuff like that. Plus, they get to experience romance pretty easily.

Still wondering why good-looking people are "nicer?"

Answer 8

You are way off base. Ugliest looking person I ever met was a woman at work and she was pretty darn horrible looking.. Turns out she was one of the nicest persons I ever met and I'm glad I got to know her. I find that people that are good looking and know it are often crass rude and arrogant. Whereas plainer looking folks are just more down to earth.

Answer 9

Maybe its because people like u think that way. Maybe u expect them to be nicer than the average person would. Why should they have to work harder? And what makes u assume its for that reason. Maybe u hold "good looking" people to a lower standard because u like them.

Answer 10

The ugly ones are probably unhappy in their lives. Confident, happy people are more likely to be friendly and at ease with their looks no matter what type of look that is.