If one has to apologise to his or her elders, on what aspects should we highly stress on so that our apology seems genuine and we convince our elders that we are not likely to dissappoint them again?
2007-10-20 17:39:48 · 5 answers · asked by SHAHAZAD SHAIKH 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If I were in your place, I would stress that I had learned from the bad outcome. Telling the elders that the consequences of what I had done, were not what I had anticipated. That now I recognize better how my actions can effect other people. I will do all in my power to think before I act.
I would also ask if there is anything I can do at this point in time to help "clean-up" the mess I have made of things.
When in church we recite "... I am truly sorry, and I humbly repent....."
2007-10-20 18:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear SS, Culture and religion are very complex. I am going to assume that you are at least 20YO, or I don't think that you would be asking this question I also think that you already know the answer to this question unless you have been isolated away from your old world family. If you have not been isolated then the answer is right in front of you every time you directly associate with your family (around them to listen). Tradition, tradition, tradition with definite gender social distinctions. If their disatisfaction lies in a critical character dissappointment to more than one family member then from their perspective words do account for the humility aspect of character. That should mean a lot that a male would humble himself to another male elder. However, it is also expected much more so than from the current American society. I suspect that your elders will respond with no more than indifference to your humility, because that is culture speaking. The true test to your elders is behavior change over time.
I wish you well on your journey!
2007-10-21 01:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Old School 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be very truthful and don't over apologize. State the facts and let them see you are genuinely sorry for your actions and it will never happen again. ~
2007-10-21 00:44:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try explaining that we not only realize what we did was wrong, but also how it was wrong and how it affected them.
2007-10-21 00:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by miss v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple, all u have to do is be honest,
2007-10-21 03:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by lipservicetou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋