is it realy that uncommon for teenage boys to stick around when a girl is pregnant?

Question

when i was 15 i slept with a girl i had never met before at a party. she was 17. i stayed with her. quit high school got a job in high school i was the australian equivilent of american jocks. i have asked a few questions today, and read the answers to my daughters questions, and every one seems tobe saying how great i am that i stuck around to raise my baby girl. is it really that uncommon for guys to stick around?

my daughter is now 15, and i am 29.

Answer 1

Well done Joel, well done indeed. It was very manly of you to do as you did. You also live in a different society there than what we have here in America. By no means am I defending our society. The boys are out for fun, and that includes the sleeping with the girls. It is also considered "manly" to score, but run for the hills if and when she becomes pregnant. It stems, in part, from the effects of the 1960's and the "free love" time here in the states. The girls problem is that without DNA she can't prove who the boy was and gain support from him by law. There is a blessing, for her, if it is just one guy, and only one guy, but since it isn't, she has "x" number of possibilities to choose from and our society says offer no information and deny everything.
I wish your daughter the very best of all things, and when she is ready, a man like her daddy who is loving, and responsible.

Answer 2

So all i can say to you is WAY TO GO FOR STEPPING UP AND BEING A MAN ABOUT IT!!!!!!! I ADMIRE YOU FOR DOING THE RIGHT THING!!! Honestly there are not many guys who would do that from what I have seen. A dear friend of mine is pregnant and due in December. 2 weeks after she found out she was pregnant the boyfriend left her high and dry and won't have any contact with her. She's only 18 and terrified. I have been trying to help her where I can but there is only so much my husband and I can do ( I'm 25) b/c we are expecting our second child. Fortunately for me when I got pregnant with our first , my hubby did liek you did and stuck with me. We wound up getting married when our little boy was 2 he's now 4 and I admire and love D for staying with me through all the hardships. I wish more young men would do liek you did and stay and take responsibility. I am sure that you have a lovely beautiful daughter and like i said I honestly admire you:) Good job

Answer 3

What is that TV show with all the low-lifes arguing over whose the daddy?. That show tells the truth about family life among the trailer trash in one country.

I for one would say that it should not go as far as having to decide if the kid father will stay around with the kid mother to parent the kid.

Either they should end the pregnancy or agree that that the child should be placed for adoption. Unfortunately, there are lots of kids of some races, or kids needing special attention, who are hard to place. It is better though to have a two parent family than a single mother raising her fatherless child.

Answer 4

I think it depends on how the guy was brought up. If Kids are brought up to not stick with their responsiblities, which alot of kids now a days are, then yes it is very common. Some kids just dont care, and don't think they should take responsiblity. While others who were brought up by good morals do care and know that actions have consquences.

Answer 5

Well ... that's tricky! THINK about it! What parent would want his or her 15 year old boy (or girl) playing daddy to a newborn baby! PLEASE! So, even though I am ALL ABOUT taking responsibility; I would tell my boy that he screwed up by making a baby out of wedlock, but it would be ANOTHER screw up to pretend that he is mature enough to raise this child. I'm not THAT much of a believer that biology is the most important factor for fatherhood. So, IF I managed to talk him into doing what I consider the right thing, namely putting the kid up for adoption, then he would fall into this category of teenagers who DIDN'T do the right thing.

But let's say that I was ALL FOR him "stepping up." The divorce rate for ALL married couples is 1 in 2. The divorce rate for 15 year old high-school dropouts who only got married because they got someone pregnant is off the charts! So, 2 years into his doomed marriage they divorce. Wouldn't he STILL be considered someone who didn't stick around?

I think what's odd about your story is that the marriage worked! Wow! I'm glad it worked out for you, but I would NOT hold your story up as a shining example of why it's okay for teens to make babies.

Answer 6

i know you've heard this alot by your message, but i commend on you on staying around to help raise your daughter. when i was in highschool, all be it that was 14 yrs ago now that i've been out, guys didn't stick around much if they got a girl pregnant. from what i hear about things now days, it is still rare to find a guy that will stick around when they get a girl pregnant.

Answer 7

Are you asking for people to praise you? Yes, you deserve praise, as do many other people who have done the same thing. But what matters is your daughter. You can see for yourself that you made a huge difference in her life. And that is more important than whether others pat you on the back.

Answer 8

At 15, yes I think it is not as common as it should be. Kind of why I am a proponent of birth control being available to high school students!
Bless you and your daughter. You are both lucky to have each other.

Answer 9

I personally think it does sound nice.

I don't think it's the most unlikely thing..... but the majority of people don't hang around because alot of times in the USA, to my knowledge, many of the people who get in these situations aren't the nice people who would stick around, if they are, than they do.

But hopefully it is working well, and i hope it does continue to.

Answer 10

Unfortunately it is uncommon. I was 16 when I had my first child and the father was only around when it was convenient for him.