I feel really bad though. I of course am NOT going to be a brat about it. Anyways I'm 24 weeks pregnant with twins.(Boy and girl) I am of course a teen mom(14) so it's hard enough as it is. Anyways a lot of the baby gifts where religious. Blankets with crosses/jesus and baby picture on them or something. They fully know that I'm a witch. Yet they are making every effort to convert me. Even sending me bible verses through e mail. I've been really kind and calm about this but it's started to get offensive. What should I do?
2007-10-20 16:49:34 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
BTW by witch I mean I'm a pagan.
2007-10-20 16:52:11 · update #1
FYI catlady if you think I whored around or willingly slept with someone I didn't. So don't play the "your a idiot for being pregnant"
2007-10-20 16:55:37 · update #2
Micheal why should I be ashamed that I am a witch? I don't believe in satan.
2007-10-20 16:59:13 · update #3
tuberoot FYI I was raped.
2007-10-20 17:03:47 · update #4
And another response to tuberoot your "Christian love" is bloody hilarious. I work my butt off for both of them and am not on welfare. I want the best for my twins and let me guess your pro life huh? ROFLMAO
2007-10-20 17:05:31 · update #5
And then the little coward doesn't say anything back. typical.
2007-10-20 17:16:13 · update #6
...and they always try to make witches look cultic in films like Rosemary's Baby. Guess we all know who are the real brain washing fanatical cultists now, huh? Stand your ground honey, take good care of your baby and raise little "Andy or Jenny" with love. Sorry, I still had to throw in the "Andy or Jenny" thing--just couldn't help myself! Good luck to you and don't listen to the boneheads.
But, incidentally if you're any good at crafts (of a more household nature), use the religious blankets to make a quilt--one with a pagan theme--crosses can always be converted back into the "four corners" cross, etc. With just a little imagination and handy-work--and both of those you should posess in spades if you are a true wiccan--you can truly make this work--and accomplish some real beneficial magic in the process (as well as getting some hands-on experience in the nature of the "craft")!
2007-10-20 17:17:33 · answer #1 · answered by starkneckid 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The problem here is that they honestly think they are doing the right thing (much like many of the bigots here). And are totally unable to realise that they are causing more damage than good.
I've been Wiccan for 20 years. The only way to stay sane is to remember these are given in love (no matter how unsuitable). I've received so much similar stuff. My problem is to not waste the heartfelt gift or to show disrespect. So I'm lucky I've had several Xian friends who'll happily give the material a good home. Some has even been sent to Missionaries & Orphanages etc.
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2007-10-21 02:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Rai A 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Congrats on being a new mommy! I just wanted to say that more than likely your family is doing what "they feel" is best for you instead of doing what they should be doing and that is totally supporting you during your pregnancy. You could just let them know that you do appreciate the baby gifts but you don't want to accept anymore or just tell them that you are more than happy to receive gifts for the babies without any religious preferences on them or tell them that you have already picked out a theme and if they have to get you something for the babies to buy the theme you have chosen. I do not agree with anyone trying to "force" religion on anyone....you either want it or you don't. I am a christian mom to a daughter who is 18 married and about 10 weeks pregnant. She right now is not attending church at all and has many disbeliefs. I do not hold that against her but I do tell her that I love her, support her and I will help her in anyway I can. If she has any questions about God or the Bible I will try to answer them as best to my ability but other than that I don't shove it down her throat.
2007-10-20 17:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by fatima35121 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I hope you work that out. Recently (a few months ago), I went from a Christian to an Atheist (and I'm a year older than you), and my family is mainly Christian; not to say they try to shove it down my throat, but I don't' really have a choice on what I do on Sun./Tues. and they could accept this alittle more. I had a male friend who dealt with a similar thing (not with the pregnancy, of course, but you know). If I were you, I'd tell them that I appreciate them caring, but you'd like them to stop sending so much. Good luck with that, seriously.
2007-10-20 16:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by ♠I Did My Time♠ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if they know your beliefs differ, just ask them to please stop. If you want show them.... oh what is it.... I think Matthew chapter 8, may be verse 8 but I could be entirely wrong, "Follow me, and let the dead bury their own dead". If you want to be a pagan then you should tell them to let you dig your own grave, they shouldn't worry about it, they should just follow their God and let you follow your own beliefs. I'm a Christian by the way, but my mom and brother are very much anti-Christian. I don't bug them or try to convert them. They always talk about how Christians are always trying to convert them, but then I ask them, "Have I ever once told you to become a Christian or else?" And they say no. By not bugging them about Christ, I in a way preach to them better then any other way possible. They see that although I am a Christian I do not shove my beliefs down their throat, so if they do ever have an interest in Christianity or if I ever do tell them about the gospel, they will be more open to it. But preaching to them every day will only push them away.
Good luck. I'm sorry that there are those of us that do not understand that you do not believe as we do and are not really interested in what we believe. It is good of you to be polite about it though.
2007-10-20 16:58:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Only starting to get offensive?!
You've got a lot of Patience.
It seems though that no matter what you do, they're not going to stop sending these things. I would delete the emails, pack away their presents and when it comes up politely explain that you appreciate what they are doing but you just don't believe like they do.
2007-10-20 17:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your family just wants what's best for you -- whether or not you agree with it! Perhaps if they understood your spiritual beliefs or if you illustrated your resolve through "fellowship" with other pagans, they could better understand your beliefs and respect them. But keep in mind, this is not just about you, but also about your children. Having a spiritual center is great for everyone, especially children -- how do you intend to raise your children in regards to religion? How are you going to explain and convey your beliefs to them? How are you going to raise them to moral, respectful, positive people that contribute to the greater good?
Even though it may seem that your family is trying to convert you (and I'm not saying they are or aren't), respect that they want what is best for you, and instead of fighting their attempts, take what they have with a grain of salt and see the wisdom that lies within their words.
2007-10-20 17:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by city_vixen21 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and direct with your answer, but also be polite and consistent with what you say. Tell them your beliefs are your own and ask them to respect your beliefs. In regard to the gifts the sent you, it may be better to keep them, at least for now, as they are useful items and where given as a sincere gesture. Also, if possible, let them know more about your beliefs and why you believe as you do. Maybe they can understand where you're coming from better.
2007-10-20 17:04:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Use the broken record technique. Tell them, calmly and politely, that you are not Christian and that you are not interested in hearing about Christianity. Then change the subject. Repeat until it sinks into their heads (which may take years, I have to warn you).
Sorry you're in such an awkward position.
EDITED TO ADD: To Tuberoot... ah, yes, what a WONDERFUL way to show Christian love. I bet you wouldn't have mouthed off to a fellow Christian like that. Your double standard is pathetic.
2007-10-20 16:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by prairiecrow 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
God gave us free will, remind them of this and tell them when if ever, you will make a decision. Also remind the that the Bible says search out your on salvation, this is your choice and tell them when you are ready you will know when the time is right. Who knows you may decide to become a Buddhist.
2007-10-20 17:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋