HELP!!! my shrink is a jerk?

Question

I have been going to the (NUT & BOLT ) shop now for over a year.
I struggle with bulima, everytime I go, to talk about my weight, And I AM significantly overweight. he just tells me the antidepressant will help with that,, and here I am still with NO help. what do I do? My knees are hurting because of the weight gain, I have to crawl around,,,I feel so crappy. I am a 33 year old woman, I am 5'4" and 203 lbs.

Answer 1

Start taking regular exercise, replace junk food with fruit & veg. Do this NOW, and do it permanently.

You will slowly lose weight over a period of time. Do it for your health, your sanity, your looks, whatever.

Stop blaming other people for the situation you are in.

Answer 2

Fire the shrink for failure to make progress. Antidepressents do not cause weight loss; they make you gain weight. Join Weight Watchers and go to the weekly meetings. Remove all trigger foods from your home and do not bring in any more of them. When you shop for groceries, buy "meals" not just food. You absolutely must eat breakfast. My suggestion would be a poached egg on half of an English muffin (toasted) and a banana. Eggs and bananas prevent you from getting hungry. Weigh yourself daily. This has been shown to help, although remember that our body weight varies a lot on a short-term basis. You must also exercise. It sounds as if a short walk each day may be all that you can manage. When you do find yourself overeating, ask yourself: What emotion would I be feeling if I were not eating? Record your feelings in a journal. You can also find support groups or a buddy on the internet. It helps a lot to diet with someone else who understands. Good Luck.

Answer 3

I don't know your entire situation, but from it sounds like is that you are overweight, you struggle with bulimia, and you don't like the shrink that is supposed to be helping you get over this problem.

First-fire your shrink. You shouldn't be paying money to someone who makes you feel bad. Your shrink is supposed to help you overcome problems yourself, not just prescribe medication and tell you it will eventually go away.
From the information you have provided, he sounds like a lazy shrink who doesn't really care about your problems.
He just wants to take your money, then prescribe you something so that you will leave his office without feeling ripped off.

There are support groups for this kind of thing. And I am sure if you went to an actual medical doctor or a nutritionist, they would help you set out a plan to help you lose weight, and the support group can help you overcome your problem with bulimia. It helps to know that other people struggle with the same problems that you have. This can make you a stronger person by supporting someone else with the same problems as yourself.

So all in all- dump the shrink, see if you can find a support group, make an appointment with a nutritionist, and make them aware of your bulimia problem in case that has any affect on your meal plan, and see a doctor about your joint problems.

Your shrink doesn't seem to be helping at all, and he is making you unhappy. Get out of the bad situation, and make a change. I think it will make you feel a lot better, and give you a different outlook on how to solve your problems by taking the initiative yourself instead of waiting for your shrink to give you the answers.

Good Luck!

Answer 4

See bulimia, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris on page 39, and read sections 1, and 2. I'd find a new therapist (a psychologist): see the 1-800-therapist website, and use the locators. DIETING: Go to: h t t p : / / c h o o s e d i e t . b l o g s p o t . c o m (typing it this way bypasses the Yahoo! automated censors, but you should type it in the usual manner) and select one, possibly changing, later. Eat 6 - 8 small meals, daily, with a little protein in each, preceded 20 minutes earlier with a large glass of water. Snack on any amount of celery sticks, with the occasional carrot stick, and/or slices of cucumber, tomato, or raw onion, in any vinegar (a little salt & pepper/chilli powder is OK, but no oil, or sugar! Rinse your mouth with water, later, if using vinegar). Check out www.ediets.com Understand and accept that many people use food in an attempt to fill an emotional void, which is unhealthy, and never works. Others eat out of boredom, so have plenty of things to keep you occupied. Sometimes I use www.stumbleupon See http://emotionalhealth.ivillage.com/... and http://www.foodaddiction.org and http://www.oa.org/index.htm and http://www.webhealth.com/wiki/eating_dis... and http://www.edreferral.com and http://www.fatloss4idiots.com Call EDAP on (USA)1-800-931-2237. Also view hypnotism for weight loss (if fairly suggestible) at on page 60. Glucosamine, and chondroitin supplements may help the knee problems: there is another, but it won't spring to mind: try a pharmacy. Buy kneepads, and try to keep the pain killers to a minimum, changing types every day.

Answer 5

Hmmm...

Double problem with multiple symptoms. You are depressed and overweight (which makes you more depressed and thus you eat more and gain more weight).

Sounds like you need to set yourself some goals (short term, regular, maintenance, & long term) and then reward yourself after you achieve those goals.

First off, you need to tell yourself, that bulimia will not solve your problems (as much as you might want it to, it will only make you worse). Human bodies are not suited to drastic changes... purging a body is drastic and the body resents it (it will try to force you to compensate by over-eating and cravings... etc).

Next, you need to define your ultimate goal. Yes you want to lose weight (but exactly what is the weight you want to be at?!?). When you know what your final target is... then set your intermediate goal (ie: if my final weight is to be 120 lbs, then I want to be 160 lbs at halfway). Best estimate is that you should be able to lose 8 - 10 lbs/month without causing damage to your body or making huge changes all at once.

Thus you should be able to get down to 160 lbs in 5 months. When you get there, give yourself a good reward (not food). If you can lose 8 - 10/month, then you should set a small reward schedule for each week of the first month if you achieve 2 - 3 lbs loss you are aiming for (Again not food). Then reward yourself every 15 days thereafter provided you reach the weight loss goals set in the schedule. Also reward yourself even more at 3 months and again at 6 months.

I would suggest trying the Zone diet plan. You can get the book at your local library or used book store. It doesn't require any sort of membership or fees or exotic foods or weird meal preps... Just regular meals with slightly smaller portions is all. And no food is taboo!

You will also want to change your exercise patterns as well. I would suggest you try Yoga, and Tai Chi to start with. Do Yoga 2x - 3x/week, and maybe do Tai Chi everyday for 15 mins. After four months, maybe you'll have something else you will want to try (bicycling/swimming/a martial art.... who knows?).

Just make sure that what you are doing is fun, and desirable and doesn't make you more depressed to do it. You'll find that by doing these things your mood will lighten, you will have more energy, make a new friend or two and make a big lifestyle change (which is what all successful weight loss stories are about). Before you even know it, you'll be at your target weight and you get your final reward (Big Ceremony where you burn some old outfits that you never want to go back too, go have a night out on the town, buy a gorgeous new outfit, get pampered at a spa... maybe even go on a nice vacation... it can happen!)

In any case, once you get started with the first step, just keep making one small step after another and you will get there, just believe in yourself...

Answer 6

I suffer from bulimia, too. I have for several years now. Honestly, shrinks only made the problem worse. I joined the gym and I go a couple times a week taking yoga or trying a workout class and find myself not throwing up as much (I use to do it up to 15 times a day!!!) (Down to just once or twice daily depending if I eat junk) I am losing weight now and now I'm not really depressed anymore like I use to.

Answer 7

Ask for different medication. Wellbutrin sometimes can cause weight loss. Talk with the doc first. Also try going on a diet. I lost over 20 lbs on South Beach. Get out and walk or go to the gym. Make friends, get a hobby, anything to not focus so much on your body issues, and if all else fails, go to a new shrink.

Answer 8

I was told and have experienced many NUT and Bolt shops :) :) love that term I am 56 and had never heard it but I love it, anyhow, 85% of counselors/shrinks are co-dependent themselves, NOT good, so change, I've over the long haul had several and found some to be great and others not. Make a change.

Answer 9

You went to a shrink because of your weight problems or did you go to a shrink because you’re depressed about your weight problems? There is a difference, your shrink prescribed antidepressant for the depression of being overweight. Not because he wants to cure your bulimia. He's doing his job. Now that you have medicine for your depression, now you have to get motivated about loosing weight. Two separate issues but both can be solved at the same time if you get motivated about loosing some weight. If you walk 1 hour a day, 30 minutes there, 30 minutes back, nonstop for two weeks. Plus add vegetables and fruit to your meals. You will see some weight loss. I'm also 33 years old and I was once 190 lbs. with exercise, 30 minutes their and 30 minutes back daily and adding fruits and vegetables to my meals and leaving fast food and junk food alone. I am now 164 lbs. and I'm still loosing. So stop sitting around feeling sorry for yourself! Stop blaming your shrink!! Stop eating so much that you have to crawl around!!!! Stop having a pity party and get up off of your bon bon’s and do it yourself. No body can change your fat situation but you. Don't stop eating, just watch what you eat. Add fruits and vegetables and walk everyday and drink water, water, and some more water. And when the DEVIL puts thoughts of eating and throwing it up in your head, say NO, this is mind over matter. It will be hard at first because your use to eating but if you continue to say NO to those devilish urges you can succeed. Sorry I’m so hard on you but you need to know if you keep blaming everyone else for your weight problems your just going to get bigger and bigger and bigger. So get it together and remember if you mess up 50 times, start over 50 times. It’s all about getting out of the frame of mind your in and changing learned behavior. When you get the urge to eat, you can eat but eat fruits. If I can do it, you can do it, hang in their. And yes, I do know that bulimia is an eating disorder. This world labels everything, so people can feel better about THERE chosen behavior. The doctors told me I was depression with psychic features. You know why because I was so depressed about my living situation that I would sleep all the time and throw stuff. They gave me medicine but nothing helped until I decided to change a bad situation into a good situation for myself. I’m not on medicine any longer but I still consider myself depression with psychic features because I could easily go back to that way of life if I ALLOWED my thoughts to lead me and have control over me. You choose to eat everything in sight and then throw it up; no shrink can cure you from that, only you can stop putting your finger down your throat. Like I said its mind over matter, take control of your thoughts and your life and do something about your situation your self. ONLY YOU CAN CHANE YOUR SITUATION!!!

Truth

Answer 10

Just try to get another shrink, try a psychologist, someone who will recommend you a good diet, an eating plan for the day to respect, and also talk to you about this.