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I chat with a guy thats my age [46] we have chatted along time [3yrs],talked on the phone,swap pic of ourselves and our kids.He's very nice and funny,never talks bad.He's in Ca. i'm in Mn. everything hes told me checks out,we phone each other. Last friday we talked on the phone,he was still working,he said. he'd be home in an hr or hr and a half,i never heard from him again,he hasn't called,he's not online,i tried calling him and got voicemail.He's divorced and thats true,i checked on that too.He was planning on flying here for the week of thanksgiving.What do you think happened,he's not a liar,we've talked for so long and he tells me alot of the same things.

2007-10-20 15:58:13 · 22 answers · asked by betrayed 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

22 answers

i personally dont think he would just drop 3 years of communication like that. do you think maybe something happened (hospitalization?)

2007-10-20 16:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

OK - IF the guy wasn't in an accident THEN if he is really into you, he'll call you. People say things that are not true on the internet - and he could have a girlfriend if he really is divorced. I lived with a guy that started having on line relationships - I'm sure there were times he said he'd call or IM, and I'd come home early for some reason (when I didn't know he was doing it) - I'm sure it messed up some of his plans. If he isn't answering a cell phone it makes me wonder. Once I found out - it ended our relationship. Your just going through a divorce - give yourself some time to be by yourself - for yourself and your kids.

2007-10-20 16:18:48 · answer #2 · answered by sandoz 3 · 0 0

It's very easy to live a couple of lives, especially if one is online and over the phone, long distance. I would bet that he has had another girlfriend or recently found one and she has found out about you and given him an ultimatum, her or you.

I met my business partner online (a guy). That was two and half years ago. He is constantly online with at least five women at a time. He carried on a text message relationship with a married woman for a few weeks. He finally figured out that was going nowhere. He's determined to always have a backup girlfriend so he never feels alone. It sad actually because he has a seven year old daughter that he neglects to obsess over women.

Send your guy a calm but blunt message asking if he could please tell you what's going on. Tell him you can handle the truth, no matter what it is, over silence. Wish him the best in his life no matter where it takes him and then wait, patiently. But, don't wait forever.

2007-10-20 16:08:16 · answer #3 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0 0

Wow, I can't believe in todays age women and men still fall for the same thing. You live in a state that has lots of eligable ment but we choose to communicat vie internet. I worked with a woman who had the same experience you speak of and to this day I still am not sure how he pulled off what he did but after 2 years of conversation the meeting took place, she flew down to Florida from Virginia to meet this divorced man and spend the weekend. Everything went very well, they stayed at his house or so she thought it turned out to be his friends house but of course she did not know that at the time. When he was suppose to move to Virginia he was buying a house near her about a mile away, everything checked out it was up for sale it sold the day he said he bought it and the day he was to move he was in an accident that delayed his arrival. Then you guessed it nothing, no communication, no return calls nothing. After investigation she found out it was someone else that had bought the house, he had no intentions of ever moving, he was married and I guess people do this as a joke or just an escape or for fun. You would be better to move on a fantasy relationship is just that. Consider yourself amused for a few years and find a real, skin and blood home grown man in your home town that can take you to the movies, out to dinner, send you flowers or just sit and hold you while you tell him your innermost dreams. Ten men on the internet are not worth one real man sitting in your living room. Please, be happy, life is short, spend less time on the computer and more time in an adult group at church, or meeting someone a friend has recommended or maybe there is someone at work that is interested in you but you have been to busy with the internet buddy to notice. Good luck!

2007-10-20 16:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by joejo 2 · 0 0

It sounds strange that he has not contacted you. If you know which town he lives in there, you might be able to go to newsboy.com and read a newspaper to see if you can find his name there if something happened to him. If he was in an accident, for example, he may be all right but unable to contact you. Other than that, there is not a lot you can do but to wait for him to contact you again.

2007-10-20 16:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Al B 7 · 0 0

He fell asleep on the plane and drooled onto his tray table, and the airline mistook his drool for a dangerous liquid, and he is now being tazed in an airport back office by three law enforcement robots.

2007-10-20 16:01:16 · answer #6 · answered by Joey 2 · 1 0

I wish I could help, I think i might have ran into the same type of problem but with different circumstances.

Good Luck

2007-10-20 16:02:02 · answer #7 · answered by BILL 7 · 0 0

Sounds like the only thing that you can do is keep trying to call him or just wait until thanksgiving weekend. Its not that far away.

2007-10-20 16:02:40 · answer #8 · answered by !~!ASHLEY!~! 2 · 0 0

Betrayed. Men lie when they are afraid, and he is scared to meet you. He is probably been through something in his life that is keeping him from you. Stay strong and know it is not you. If he really cares, he will make contact.

2007-10-20 16:04:53 · answer #9 · answered by scottishbeauty 2 · 0 0

maybe something came up. wait it out a bit, but maybe drop him a message and say you are just making sure everything is ok since you haven't heard from him

2007-10-20 16:01:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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