question about sex?

Question

im not a believer or anything. i used to be. and i forgot if it specifically said in the bible, that you should wait for sex until marriage. all i remember is my bible study teachers and pastors just saying it to us. but does it exactly say in the bible to wait?

Answer 1

When you get married you won't be having much of it anyway. The most important thing is constancy and fidelity.

Answer 2

It does say that the wedding bed should be undefiled and there is the little commandment about adultery... even if you don't believe given the aids, syphils, chlamedia, date rape, unplanned pregnacies etc. etc. if a woman has sex before she is married she is just selling herself short! Heck the one jerk I knew in University would lie or anything to get the girl in bed (especially if it was a first time) and then brag like crazy and in a month was off to the next girl. I had one girl call me asking why he wasn't returning her calls and he was already after his next victim.... what a loser!!

Answer 3

sex before marriage is called fornication

sex with someone else who is not your spouse and one person is married is called adultery.

1 Cor 6: LITV
9 Or do you not know that unjust ones will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be led astray, neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor male prostitutes, nor homosexuals,
10 nor thieves, nor covetous ones, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor plunderers shall inherit the kingdom of God.

Gal 5: NKJV
19 Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.

Eph 5: NKJV
3 But fornication and all uncleanness or covetousness, let it not even be named among you, as is fitting for saints; 4 neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. 5 For this you know, that no fornicator, unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.

Rev 21:
27: And there shall in no wise enter into it any thing that defileth, neither whatsoever worketh abomination, or maketh a lie: but they which are written in the Lamb's book of life.

Rev 22: NKJV
15 But outside are dogs and sorcerers and sexually immoral and murderers and idolaters, and whoever loves and practices a lie.

Answer 4

In the old testament, committing adultery (having sex with someone who was already married) is forbidden in 10 commandments.

The bible does not say that fornication (sleeping with another non-married person) is forbidden. That's my experience. I didn't have the patience to wait until marriage.

Answer 5

Yea,you have to wait 'till you get married.I don't think you have to,but you do because when you first "do it",you enjoy it very much,but later on you don't.So for example,you do it with your boyfriend,break up,and get married to someone else.It wouldn't be fair to them.And plus I'm sure you'd want to show your husband the most love than some other guy out there!

Answer 6

[1Thess.4:3-8] God will is we abstain from fornication each one should be in control of own his vessel as not to sin from fornication.Not to be covetous of a sexual appitite.
fornication refers to unmarried people having sex the greek word pornei'a translated means fornication.

Answer 7

"Or do you not know that the unrighteous will NOT inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived; neither FORNICATORS , nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate, nor homosexuals" I Cor. 6:9

Marriage is to be held in honor among all, and the marriage bed is to be undefiled; for fornicators and adulterers God will judge." Hebrews 13:4

Answer 8

Yes, it does. And most people do not wait. In fact, the overwhelming majority of people don't (about 95%). So when someone tells you you should wait, there's a very high chance that they didn't or won't.

Answer 9

yes it is in the bible that sex before marriage is a sin.

Answer 10

Don't listen to the people that claim it is. They are only going by hearsay and not by what the bible actually says. What if I told you that sex outside or marriage is not a sin but was made to be believed to be a sin by former saints (such as Saint Augustine)?

Take for example the word Fornication. When we look up fornication in Strong’s Bible definitions or Vine's Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words we see that the orginal Greek and Hebrew meaning never said “sex outside of or before marriage”. Some modern dictionaries may translate the word differently but remember depending on what dictionary you will find many different definitions for the word. That is why it is always best to look up the orginal Greek and Hebrew meaning for the word.

Also when we look up all the verses that talk about Fornication (or Sexual immorality as some versions will say) we see 13 or so verses that mention sexual immorality mention it as something you should not do. The other seven verses show us what sexual immorality really means.

Numbers 25:1-5
Numbers 25:1-5
1 Corinthians 5:1
1 Corinthians 6
1 Corinthians 10
Jude 1:7
Revelation 2:14

Here’s a big hint: It has to do with sexual worship of foreign god’s (with the exception of 1 Corinthians 5:1 and Jude 1:7. This is sexual immorality because it goes against the “sex laws” in Leviticus 18).

Some may say, what about Matthew 5:27,28?

That is referring to strong desire for another man’s wife, to covet. The bible warns us against this (Exodus 20:17). Jesus has a higher standard that is to lust for another mans wife is as bad as committing adultery with her. Also, look up the word lust in Vine's Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words. Just has having anger for someone can lead you to murdering them (Matthew 5:21-26) lust for another mans wife can lead you to adultery with her.

What about the Old Testament?

The Old Testament is full of some 600+ laws that the Israelites were supposed to live by.

In Leviticus 18, we find the sex laws; if sex before marriage was a sin we should find it here. After relieving all laws I’m yet to see one that says sex before marriage is a sin. And as you read throughout the Old Testament there are several stories of people having sex with someone they are not married to and many times they are even considered blessed because of it.

In Genesis 38: 13-30 we read the story of Tamar who dresses up as a prostitute in order to seduce her father in law to have sex with her so she can have a child. She is considered blessed because of this. In Joshua 2 we read about Rahab the prostitute who in the New Testament is considered one of the “Who’s Who of faith” (Hebrews 11:31). How can someone who is living in sin by having sex with people she is not married to be considered one of the top faithful people? Unless sex is not a sin.

And in Judges 16:1-3 we read about Samson, he’s also considered a man of faith (Hebrew 11:31), who is obviously having sex with women he is not married too. Sure he did have a weakness for one beautiful woman who did lead to his demise, Delilah, but the funny thing is even after he would have sex with these women, he was not married to; he would never lose his God-given strength. He was told not to drink wine, cut his hair, and not to eat any unclean food, but never; not to have sex (Judges 13).

My conclusion is that nowhere in the bible does it ever say sex outside of marriage is a sin (unless of course it is part of a worship act to another God, Fornication).

If you can show me otherwise, feel free.

Note: Please don’t tell me your opinions or philosophies on the topic. If you cannot back up what you say with bible verses and research behind it please don’t post. thanks