Ok I am with this girl I am currently in iraq and she lives in fl. We started dating about 4 or 5 months before I came out here and since I have been over here it has been hard. I am completely in love with this girl. But when do I know enough is enough? I call her all the time she never answers and when I do talk to her she just doesn't talk. I mean she does someimes she will say I Love You or she will tell me ow much she really misses me. But then she told me about a month back she made a mistake she did something with another guy. She asked me for forgiveness and told me that she was sorry and she loved me and she couldn't keep it from me. But at the same time I want to not be with her but she means so much to me that I don't want to loose her. I want to be with her I feel as I am just there to her though and don't really mean anything I really dont need this stress while I am over here in iraq and I want things to work. Anybody have anything for me?
2007-10-20 14:55:53 · 16 answers · asked by maybeeoneday 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We were freinds prior to this whole being in a relationship thing and I dont just want to be her freind. I want more.
2007-10-20 14:57:22 · update #1
maybe the best thing to do while you are in iraq is to not be together, as if it continues, it could ruin your friendship. this may be hard for you, but it sounds as though you are both struggling with the long distance thing. you can always try again when you get back.
2007-10-20 15:01:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is so hard for you as you are so far away.Also dating someone for 5 months and then having to leave was not long enough for her to commit herself to you.She has too much free time and sounds like she is confused about her relationship with you.If she has made one mistake she will likely make another one.You don't need this stress while you are away.You may feel strongly about her because you are so far away .Both of you need to date other people as I honestly don't think she will be loyal to you.If you feel so distessed you should let her go and when you come back mabe things will be different.I relly hope you and her can work it out but she is the only one who can reassure you if she wants to make it work or not.You need to let her know how you feel and honesty is the best for you both.Good luck and I really hope you find the answers you need from her.Please stay safe
2007-10-20 15:15:57 · answer #2 · answered by mamaw2305 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she's acting like my ex-girlfriend was when I was gone for 3 months. She wouldn't always answer her phone, seemed more distant, and said she was so sorry at one random point. She's now my ex cause she left me for the guy she was cheating on me with.
I know how you feel about wanting things to work though, I still do too. But it takes 2 people to make it work. I really can't tell you how not to stress about it cause I'm having the same problem. Maybe try talking to her and seeing where she stands and how she sees the two of you and if she's willing to wait until you get back. If not, then that may make it easier not to stress over her. Or it may make it harder like it did for me. Depends on how much she means to you. Good luck
2007-10-20 15:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by diesel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is terribly hard to solve with you a half a world away. I'm so sorry you are going through this in addition to trying to stay alive in Iraq.
I would adopt a very fatalistic approach here to save yourself the stress. Decide if it's meant to be, it will be; nothing in heaven and earth can stop it. If it's not meant to be, meaning there is someone better and more suited for you out there for you, then if you loose this it will make that come all the sooner.
If it was me I'd put it entirely in God's hands, and ask HIM to choose your mate for you and bring her to you. I did that and met my husband shortly thereafter. It will work for you to, just pray and really, really leave it all up to God.
Best of luck to you!
2007-10-20 15:03:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she feel guilty about what she did and wants your forgiveness. It is difficult to maintain a relationship long distance. I would not press her for a hard commitment until you get home. She may not feel the same way about your relationship as you. Your feelings may also be stronger due to your present situation. You are thousands of miles away in the middle of a war. Perhaps you should think about cranking the relationship down a bit until you return.
2007-10-20 15:06:27 · answer #5 · answered by Flyby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd give her a point for being honest with you, but if she's the type to go messing with someone else when she knows full well that you adore her, that doesn't sit well with me. Put some elastic on your heart so you can pull it back when you need to. And you may need to.
Thank you for doing your work in Iraq.
2007-10-20 15:03:16 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2007-10-20 14:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by LongShot™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if it were me, I'd dump her azz! If she cheated on you once, she'll do it again and I'm not talking out my azz here, the same thing has happend to me before. If you think you could live with her after what she has done, then well, I wish you the best.
2007-10-20 15:08:22 · answer #8 · answered by Johnny Lovegood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just an idea :
she might be afraid to lose you so maybe she doesnt want to get too attached? iraq isnt the best place right now. what are you doing over there? sorry to pry just curious. dont answer if you dont want to.
2007-10-20 14:59:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You in iraq fighting the war ?? If so she should stand by you be their for you and support you i would if i was in her shoes i would you need to follow your heart and decided whether you wanna be with someone whos never their for u
2007-10-20 15:00:19 · answer #10 · answered by londonangel007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋